Why am I obsessed with my fiance's ex? ?!
Question: Why am I obsessed with my fiance's ex!? !?
I have her on my myspace!. I check her photobucket, her posts on a forum she visits!.
I look at her photos repeatedly, making sure I give myself a boost,she is not good looking and I'm prettier!. I'm not bragging but this is the truth!.
She cheated on my fiance!. They were married!. I am jealous he was with her!. I pretend to be friends with this woman only to know what's going on in her life!. One day I made another myspace account telling her, her husband is cheating on her (she is remarried) in the hopes that I would crush her!.
I'm a smart girl but I behave irrationally at times!. Is this a sign of some psychotic illness!?!?
Please be mature and helpful!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I look at her photos repeatedly, making sure I give myself a boost,she is not good looking and I'm prettier!. I'm not bragging but this is the truth!.
She cheated on my fiance!. They were married!. I am jealous he was with her!. I pretend to be friends with this woman only to know what's going on in her life!. One day I made another myspace account telling her, her husband is cheating on her (she is remarried) in the hopes that I would crush her!.
I'm a smart girl but I behave irrationally at times!. Is this a sign of some psychotic illness!?!?
Please be mature and helpful!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
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Your fiance should not punish you for her mistakes!. Your problems are with HIM not his EX!. You should delete her from your MySpace and do not check any of her websites!. You're stalking her and it's really creepy!. It makes you look very insecure and childish!. Not to mention that making up a fake account and messaging her to tell her that her new husband is cheating on her, man that is really messed up!.
You must feel insecure and threatened by her!. Do you think she's prettier than you, better than you!? Maybe that's why you keep tabs on her!. You are jealous and you need to move on!. She cheated on him!. He's now with you!. She is remarried!. Just let it go!. This is going to ruin your relationship!.
I know someone who has done something similar!. She has psych issues (though many people wouldn't know this)!. She goes to therapy!. Maybe you should go too!. What you are doing is not normal!.
Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You must feel insecure and threatened by her!. Do you think she's prettier than you, better than you!? Maybe that's why you keep tabs on her!. You are jealous and you need to move on!. She cheated on him!. He's now with you!. She is remarried!. Just let it go!. This is going to ruin your relationship!.
I know someone who has done something similar!. She has psych issues (though many people wouldn't know this)!. She goes to therapy!. Maybe you should go too!. What you are doing is not normal!.
Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It sounds like you have some MAJOR insecurity issues!. What happened between your fiance and his ex is exactly that, between them!. It is not your fight to take up!. Stop with the slander and stalking!. You are interjecting yourself into yet another relationship that you have no business being a part of!. You need to get to a marriage councilor right away with your partner and sort these jealousy issues out before you take the plunge!. This behavior is destructive and you are going to sabotage your future happiness if you let this continue!. Please get help right away as this obsessive behavior is not healthy!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
your telling us to be mature!? Look at what you did!. seriously!.
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I know what u mean by feeling like you are being punished for others mistakes!. I get into those situations myself!. Making the girls life miserable will not help you in any way though!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
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I know what u mean by feeling like you are being punished for others mistakes!. I get into those situations myself!. Making the girls life miserable will not help you in any way though!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
wow you need to chill outWww@Answer-Health@Com
maybe your secretly in love with her and your a lesbianWww@Answer-Health@Com
You seem to be jealous! GET over it!!!! She is wasting your time and she's not even trying!Get your mind on other more useful things and ideas!. Delete the myspace of her stuff! Confront her (nicely) and tell her why you became friends then just walk away from her!!!Www@Answer-Health@Com
well it sounds like you lack confidence and may have trust issues!.
Look!.!.!.the best way to handle this is to trust your fiance!. If he is a good man he won't cheat on you even if his ex is very aggressive!.
If he does cheat on you!.!.!.you dump him!. Being in love means trusting each other and having faith that your other would never do anything to hurt you!.
I know some guys are real scum and others somewhat scummy!. But!.!.!.how can you be happy if you have to constantly check on your spouse!? How is that love!?
You don't want to live your life like that!.!.!.!.spying!. And in the end!.!.!.!.!.what if your spying is what "kept" him faithful!.!.!.(which I doubt)!.!.!.wouldn't you rather he was faithful because he wanted to be and not because you were watching him!?
Look!.!.!.being in love is taking a risk!.!.!.if you don't play by taking a risk!.!.!.!.you already lost!.
As for the myspace lie!.!.!.!.there is no honor in that!. WHydestroy her chance for happiness!?!?!? You have to resend another e-mail telling her it was a lie!. Even if you don't want to tell her you really are!. It's for her piece of mind!.
By the way!.!.!.!.that was cruel of you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Look!.!.!.the best way to handle this is to trust your fiance!. If he is a good man he won't cheat on you even if his ex is very aggressive!.
If he does cheat on you!.!.!.you dump him!. Being in love means trusting each other and having faith that your other would never do anything to hurt you!.
I know some guys are real scum and others somewhat scummy!. But!.!.!.how can you be happy if you have to constantly check on your spouse!? How is that love!?
You don't want to live your life like that!.!.!.!.spying!. And in the end!.!.!.!.!.what if your spying is what "kept" him faithful!.!.!.(which I doubt)!.!.!.wouldn't you rather he was faithful because he wanted to be and not because you were watching him!?
Look!.!.!.being in love is taking a risk!.!.!.if you don't play by taking a risk!.!.!.!.you already lost!.
As for the myspace lie!.!.!.!.there is no honor in that!. WHydestroy her chance for happiness!?!?!? You have to resend another e-mail telling her it was a lie!. Even if you don't want to tell her you really are!. It's for her piece of mind!.
By the way!.!.!.!.that was cruel of you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I think you have worked out some of your own answers!. I can relate to the idea of punishing your current partner for something somebody else did to you in the past!. In doesn't even have to be a conscious thing!. I've done it, not realizing it until later!.
Please don't be too hard on yourself, and don't be overly quick to turn to the idea of being jealous!. I think the word jealous is misused and misunderstood!. I doubt that there are very many people in this world who are totally at ease with the knowledge of who their partner was with before them!. I certainly am not!. It doesn't accomplish anything to stress over it, but it is just one of those things we do!.
It seems at times we have self esteem issues that are amplified by the knowledge of past partners!. Matters of insecurity may also surface!. In relationships, I have asked those with which I was involved to take it easy about revealing details about past relationships!. Not much good can come from it!. It is treacherous waters no matter how you look at it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Please don't be too hard on yourself, and don't be overly quick to turn to the idea of being jealous!. I think the word jealous is misused and misunderstood!. I doubt that there are very many people in this world who are totally at ease with the knowledge of who their partner was with before them!. I certainly am not!. It doesn't accomplish anything to stress over it, but it is just one of those things we do!.
It seems at times we have self esteem issues that are amplified by the knowledge of past partners!. Matters of insecurity may also surface!. In relationships, I have asked those with which I was involved to take it easy about revealing details about past relationships!. Not much good can come from it!. It is treacherous waters no matter how you look at it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Wow do I ever empathize!. I think it's human nature to be curious about a significant other's ex, but trying to sabotage someone else's relationship is a tad much!. Why does she interest you so much!? Are you concerned that your fiance may not be over her!? If that's the case you need to discuss it with him!. If it's not, then what are you doing!? By sabotaging her relationship you may inadvertently wind up doing the same thing to your own!. How would your fiance feel if he knew about this!? You need to talk to your fiance, see where he is, and then re-assess your own situation!. Best of luck to you, I really hope everything works outWww@Answer-Health@Com
I think it's normal!. I must admit, I kind of do it sometimes to my boyfriends ex!. I'm 21!. He and I have been together for almost 5 years!. He dated this girl on and off from like 7th grade to 10th grade and he said that he loved her!. It breaks my heart thinking that he is my first love but I was not his!.
You need to come up with some way of breaking the habit!. I think it's okay to look every once in awhile, but not ALL the time!. She cheated on him and he probably hates her for that!. Obviously, you are the one he wants!. Try not to worry of feel like you need to be re-assured!. It's really hard, I know!.!.!. when I check her myspace and pictures, I'm trying to reassure myself that I'm skinnier and she's still with her boyfriend!. Weird, I know!.!.!. but focus on your current relationship and not their past!. Hope I helped!Www@Answer-Health@Com
You need to come up with some way of breaking the habit!. I think it's okay to look every once in awhile, but not ALL the time!. She cheated on him and he probably hates her for that!. Obviously, you are the one he wants!. Try not to worry of feel like you need to be re-assured!. It's really hard, I know!.!.!. when I check her myspace and pictures, I'm trying to reassure myself that I'm skinnier and she's still with her boyfriend!. Weird, I know!.!.!. but focus on your current relationship and not their past!. Hope I helped!Www@Answer-Health@Com