How do I explain to my parents that therapy is not helping me?!


Question: How do I explain to my parents that therapy is not helping me!?
My parents have forced me to go to therapy for supposed 'anger issues'!. I play football, so what the hell do they expect, but that's not the point!. Going to this stupid therapist has only made me angrier and now I'm getting depressed because of it!. The guys a jerk, honestly, but it has less to do with him than that I just don't want to go to a place reserved for crazies!.

I want out! The therapist is threatening to commit me to a mental hospital for absolutely no reason, and to be perfectly honest, I won't go!. They will have to shoot me full of morphine before I even think of going!. It's not helping me, it's harming me!. How can I tell my therapist and my parents to step off and let them know this is hurting me!?!!!?!?!

Note: Don't tell me I should stick with it or any of that crap!. It isn't any help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com


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Ask why they want you to go, what they hope to accomplish by sending you there, and what changes they have seen thus far!. If you can talk to them calmly about it and explain your position in a thoughtful/peaceful manner, maybe they will see that they are wasting money on a quack!. Then again, they might see that it is helping you, and perhaps will try to make you see how it is helping, too!. I'd talk to them about it, though, but if you only get angry!.!.!.!. I knew someone in the same boat as you!. She kept seeing therapist after therapist and none of them really helped until she finally opened up!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

You sound angry to me, but you know yourself best!. I say try this, even though you don't have a problem tell your parents that you don't like the therapist and you want to see someone else!. This way it may take some time to find another one, and you can prove to everyone you don't need it!. Or you may like the new therapist!. I have had ones that i don't like and would piss me off!. I'm not saying hang in and keep trying it!. Find someone you can relate too that's all!. Www@Answer-Health@Com

Why don't you look about for a therapist that you like!? one you'll actually get along with!?
Tell your parents its just not working, im sure you can all sit down and think of something to remedy this!.
If you don't, you might not have any choice in going to that place "reserved for crazies" (as you say) as you will probably get worse if you don't find someone else you can talk honestly and openly to!.
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Ask your parents to consider some alternatives to therapy that you think will be more effective (group therapy!? taking up a new hobby!?)!. This way your parents will understand that you're taking their concerns about your anger seriously but just want a different avenue for addressing them!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Tell them how u feelWww@Answer-Health@Com

It isn't any help because you seem to think it's perfectly fine to be an angry, hateful person!. That's why it's not working - you don't want it to!.

Therapists are not for "crazies!." Lots of normal people have therapy because talking to someone helps!. We all have things in our lives we want to talk about!.

Shouting about how they can't make you go to a mental hospital (which they can, by the way) is only going to make you seem more unhinged, and make them more likely to actually do it!. Shut up if you know what's good for you!.

And do everyone a favor and get over yourself!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

So everybody thinks you need anger management except you!. Maybe you just don't want to admit you need help!. Your parents are trying to help you I am sure they would not make you go to a therapist unless they felt you needed too!. Why don't you try to make the best of it and work with your therapist!. If you are a person with anger issues (like they say) it's best to learn how to deal with it now!. Because if you don't then you could become a violent person, always be in a bad mood!. You just won't like yourself!. Sometimes those around you can see things that the person suffering can not see!. Having anger issues DOES NOT mean you are crazy!.!.!.!.it just means that you need to LEARN how to react to certain situations and learn techniques to help you with your anger!. You will become a happier person!. Try it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Part of getting help is to embrace it!. If you hate your therapist tell your parents you would prefer to pick your own therapist instead of being force fed this guy that you clearly can't stand!. Tell them that unless you have a therapist that you were instrumental in choosing, that all efforts of help will be met with resistance!. Having said all that, you need to realize that everybody in life needs help at one time or another!.
Th stigma of seeking professional help for anger or depressive issues no longer exists!. Try cooling your heels a bit, and take personal steps to curb any angry outbursts in front of your parents!. If they can see that you can begin to manage it in a more appropriate manner maybe they will back off a bit!. Be honest with your parents and your therapist and tell them both how this makes you feel like you have to walk on egg shells b/c of repeated threats of committing you, and that idle threats have never helped anybody!Www@Answer-Health@Com

Therapists are not just for "crazies", you are being highly offensive and plain ignorant by saying that!

I am loathed to help you after that comment but I will give you my opinion so take it or leave it!. From what I can tell from your question you do have some sort of anger issues and using football as an excuse is probably the stupidest thing I have ever heard!. Maybe therapy is not right for you but you do need to do something for your anger before things go too far!. Maybe group anger management or something along those lines would be better suited to you!. But before you start to curb and control your anger you need to accept that you have issues and start to work on them!

Your parents would not put you into therapy for anger problems for no reason so there is probably more to your story!. They are trying to help you and do the best for you, try to explain to them that you want to learn to handle your anger but the therapy you are receiving is not working so you need to try alternatives!.

Edit: Cassie T I completely agree with you!

Another Edit: Hey hon (see its patronising isnt it!?) if you carry on the way you are they are going to lock you away and throw away the key, they will forceably section you and you will stay there untill you accept your problem and start to work on your anger!. Look at you attitude and do something about it or carry on the way you are going and enjoy your time in a mental institution!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





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