Why did people not send a get well card to me?!
Question: Why did people not send a get well card to me!?
I attempted suicide earlier this year!. I've had major depression for most of the last 14 years and have been getting treatment before the attempt and after!. It was not a cry for help (meaning I knew I wasn't going to die) or to get attention!. Unfortunately I did it to end my life!. While I was in the hospital my boyfriend and parents and sister gave me cards and flowers!. I was in the hospital for 2 or 3 days!. When I got out my one aunt called to see how I was!. I have other cousins and aunts that I thought cared about me but didn't get a get well card or a call to even see how I was doing!. And my boyfriends sisters live in the same neighborhood as us and I thought they would at least acknowledge what I went thru in some way but nothing, it really upset me!. My bf says that some people don't know what to do in a situation that has to do with mental illness they think it is private and that I don't want any attention to it, like getting a card!. I saw it as they don't care, and wouldn't have cared if I had actually died!. ( I also know that some people see suicide as selfish, but I don't think that was the case with these people) What do you think!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
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Sometimes it's better to be silent and hope/pray for the best outcome!. They are probably not sure what to say or do about it!. Just because people don't say anything doesn't mean you've never touched their lives a certain way or they are not thinking about you!.
If I were you, I would work on myself on getting better and seek company of positive/uplifting folks!. Help yourself, try to look on the bright side of things!.
I have a bad habit of thinking negatively!. For the most part I believe it's because I've been trained to be that way!. I had little positivity around me growing up and negative thinking was always encouraged!. Sometimes it is still a struggle for me to look at the good in people especially if you've been hurt and burned by folks who supposedly loved and protected you eversince you can remember!.
Love and take care of yourself :) *hugs*
" All the world is full of suffering, it is also full of overcoming!."
-Helen KellerWww@Answer-Health@Com
If I were you, I would work on myself on getting better and seek company of positive/uplifting folks!. Help yourself, try to look on the bright side of things!.
I have a bad habit of thinking negatively!. For the most part I believe it's because I've been trained to be that way!. I had little positivity around me growing up and negative thinking was always encouraged!. Sometimes it is still a struggle for me to look at the good in people especially if you've been hurt and burned by folks who supposedly loved and protected you eversince you can remember!.
Love and take care of yourself :) *hugs*
" All the world is full of suffering, it is also full of overcoming!."
-Helen KellerWww@Answer-Health@Com
Mostly in this type of situation people would like to leave you alone as they don't want you to be embarrassed for what you did!. Also they are probably angry at you for trying to end your life!. I think you should apologize to everyone in your family and friends for trying to end your life!. I was very angry with my sister for trying to end her life, I didn't want to see her at all!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
you don't need a get well card in those situations - you did it on purpose!. Don't ask for others to pat you on the back and baby you - you need to seek help to avoid any further damage to yourself!.
not saying it isn't an illness - just saying to quit whining because these people aren't babying you!Www@Answer-Health@Com
not saying it isn't an illness - just saying to quit whining because these people aren't babying you!Www@Answer-Health@Com
I personally just think people don't know what to do in that situation!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
give me u'r e-mail ID
I will send U (Get well soon card)
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I will send U (Get well soon card)
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Sounds like you were looking for sympathy to me! To answer your question, though,people don't know how to react to a suicide attempt!. Send a get well card!? Do you really send them to a mental patient of any kind!? If they want more sympathy they do it again! This is known as enabling a behavior!. While you are not giving someone the pills or whatever their preferred method is, you are rewarding the act by showing sympathy!. Want more sympathy, repeat the action!. If you truly wanted to be dead,unless you're stupid, you would be!. You would have stepped in front of a semi or something!. Don't attempt this again!. Obviously some people care about you! Nearly everyone sees suicide as selfish BECAUSE IT IS! One last thought,if you don't care about yourself,why should they! Good luck!. DON'T TRY AGAIN!! PLEASE! PatWww@Answer-Health@Com
Suicide and attempted suicide is such a serious subject, therefore lots of ppl avoid it whenever they can!.
Most ppl are so worried that they might annoy you with questions, appear too nosy or make you upset by inviting themselves into this part of your life which is so delicate!. and maybe also private, to you!.
Say to them that you don't mind chatting about it and they might be a bit more open to talk to you about it!.
If you need to talk about it more do it With the experts like your therapist or close friends!.
Break your leg and you'll get thousands of cards, have a mental illness and watch people run a mileWww@Answer-Health@Com
Most ppl are so worried that they might annoy you with questions, appear too nosy or make you upset by inviting themselves into this part of your life which is so delicate!. and maybe also private, to you!.
Say to them that you don't mind chatting about it and they might be a bit more open to talk to you about it!.
If you need to talk about it more do it With the experts like your therapist or close friends!.
Break your leg and you'll get thousands of cards, have a mental illness and watch people run a mileWww@Answer-Health@Com
I do think that they do care about you, but like your boyfriend said they were probably unsure of what to say!. They're most likely very shocked at the situation and love you very much, but unfortunately some aren't good with words and what to write in cards!. Have you tried meeting up with any of them yet!? Love is so strong, it shines in every aspect in our lives!. Others show it in different ways, so maybe the people who didn't write to you were concerned but would show a different approach to love!. Just think on the positive side, and try not to get back into the suicidal stage again!. Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Depression in loved ones is hard enough to deal with, throw a suicide attempt in there and people do not know how to react!. Sympathy/get well soon cards would, to some people, seem similar to giving a dog a treat right after he peed on the rug!. You behaved badly without consideration for what your actions would do to other people/effect them!. Yes, suicide is a very selfish thing!. You are feeding your depression by focusing on who did not call you or send cards after your suicide attempt!. Instead you need to find and focus on positive things in your life, continue with your therapy and possibly apologize (and mean it) to those you care about for your suicide attempt!.
Just for the record, I have severe depression and PTSD yet I manage to haul my butt outta bed every day and function without a suicide attempt!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
Just for the record, I have severe depression and PTSD yet I manage to haul my butt outta bed every day and function without a suicide attempt!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
I have lived with depression for a long time and experience suicidal feelings so I dont judge you!. I understand that you're hurt but I think your boyfriend is right and perhaps you need to look at it from their point of view!. Im sure they would have been really upset if you died!. They may think that you were willing to take your own life without saying goodbye to them etc and take that as you not caring about THEM and their feelings!.
If I had a relative/friend who attempted suicide Im not sure I would send them a card, it wouldnt seem appropriate somehow!. I would definetley contact/visit them though!.
I think the best thing you can do is try not to dwell on what's happened and focus on trying to feel happier in yourself!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If I had a relative/friend who attempted suicide Im not sure I would send them a card, it wouldnt seem appropriate somehow!. I would definetley contact/visit them though!.
I think the best thing you can do is try not to dwell on what's happened and focus on trying to feel happier in yourself!.Www@Answer-Health@Com