Can somebody help here?!
Question: Can somebody help here!?
ok, so, first off, please, no rude comments please, or insults, or anything along those lines (sorry this is so long)
well, background, i've known my bff since preschool, so 11 years, since i was three, we are now both 14, she and i are so alike, we sometimes joke that we were seperated at birth, we both have the same personality, though she is more spazzy than me, we tend to think the same things at the same time, and, well!.!.!. we both have things in our history that we are not proud of, we were both suicidal, we were both cutters, and we both suffer from depression, well, we both think i do, we'll know on thursday, my mom just found out, thats why it took so long, well, now for the questions
my best friend and i now tell eachother absolutly everything, and, i am getting worried about her, i know that she won't do anything too drastic any time soon, but i'm afraid about the far future, just last night, she fall back into her old habit, ten fold, and she didn't even want to, or know how, i'm worried, don't tell me to tell her mom or anything, just tell me what to tell her, i have been saying things such as how important she is to me, if it weren't for her, i would have been dead long ago!.!.!.
second, i have an appt!. with a psycaitrist this thursday, it's my first one, what will it be like!? she's my physician, so will that make a difference!? will she make me show her where i cut!? is there a chance of her taking blood!? i have issues with needles!.!.!.!. about how long will it be!? how much does she expect me to talk (do you think)!? because i probably will hardly talk, just nods when required!. anything else you want to throw in, go ahead
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well, background, i've known my bff since preschool, so 11 years, since i was three, we are now both 14, she and i are so alike, we sometimes joke that we were seperated at birth, we both have the same personality, though she is more spazzy than me, we tend to think the same things at the same time, and, well!.!.!. we both have things in our history that we are not proud of, we were both suicidal, we were both cutters, and we both suffer from depression, well, we both think i do, we'll know on thursday, my mom just found out, thats why it took so long, well, now for the questions
my best friend and i now tell eachother absolutly everything, and, i am getting worried about her, i know that she won't do anything too drastic any time soon, but i'm afraid about the far future, just last night, she fall back into her old habit, ten fold, and she didn't even want to, or know how, i'm worried, don't tell me to tell her mom or anything, just tell me what to tell her, i have been saying things such as how important she is to me, if it weren't for her, i would have been dead long ago!.!.!.
second, i have an appt!. with a psycaitrist this thursday, it's my first one, what will it be like!? she's my physician, so will that make a difference!? will she make me show her where i cut!? is there a chance of her taking blood!? i have issues with needles!.!.!.!. about how long will it be!? how much does she expect me to talk (do you think)!? because i probably will hardly talk, just nods when required!. anything else you want to throw in, go ahead
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Answers:
Your friend is lucky to have you! :) I'm sure that she feels the same way about you that you feel about her! :) You are helping each other!!!
As for how to help her!.!.!.!. I know you don't want anyone to say,"Tell her parents!"!. I totally get that! Even though, she would be mad at you at first, she will thank you in the end! It will make you closer if you tell her parents that she needs help!.
I know it sounds weird, but take it from someone who dealt with depression and anxiety for yrs!.!!!
Let me give you some background info!. I have been suffering with this illness since I can remember!. As far back as I can remember I dealt with anxiety and hated life! We're talking like 9 or 10 yrs!. old! I'm 28 now!. I went through the " I want to kill myself" faze!. I was a miserable person and could care less most of the time!.
I have been through hell and back (w/ boyfriends, friends, family!.!.!.)!. Finally I met a man who didn't give up on me!. About 3 yrs!. ago, he brought me to the emergency room due to my uncontrollable depression!. Mood swings, violence, sadness, fatigue!.!.!.(you name it, I had it!) I hated him for committing me at the time!. 3 days later, when I was released from the hospital, I thanked him and now we are happier than ever!
Depression is nothing to mess with! Life CAN be wonderful! :) Medication and counseling is nothing to be ashamed of! For you and your friend!. There are millions of us out there! Most people in this world suffer with some type of mental illness! You are not alone!
I am so glad to hear that you are willing to seek help! :) This experience will change your life for the better! I promise! :)
Since this is your family Dr!. and not a psychiatrist, you are at an advantage!. Your Dr!. already knows you ( a little)!. The best advice I can give, is be honest (no matter what)! What ever you tell the Dr!. cannot (by law) leave the room! The Dr!. will ask you why you think you are depressed and why you cut yourself!. Also, you may be asked where you cut yourself!.!.!.!.again!.!.!.be honest!!!! This is key! All the questions that you will be asked will help your treatment!.
If medication is required for treatment ( most likely the case) blood may be drawn to check your liver function!. If you are worried about the Dr!. finding drugs in your system, don't be!. Most people who suffer from depression use drugs and it is expected!.
Once depression med!. is started, you should refrain from extra ciricular drug use!!!!!! That includes alcohol!!!!! This can cause seizures and even death! Don't mix drugs!!!!
Nods are OK at first!. Once you feel comfortable with your Dr!. it is OK to open up!. They can be very helpful with ideas on dealing with certain situations!. Again, your conversations are confidential!.
Seeking counseling with a psycologist as well as a Dr!. is a great help!. A psycologist CAN NOT prescribe medication, but can actually be fun to talk to! They are open, honest, and can give great advice (to you, and if you talk about your friend!.!.!.can give u good advice on what to say or do for her as well!.) There are no strings attached! Patient confidentiality is crucial! They will not say a word to anyone! What you say is between you and them!.
I AM SO GLAD TO HEAR THAT YOU ARE SEEKING HELP! LIFE ISN'T SO BAD AND IT CAN ONLY GET BETTER! BECAUSE YOU ARE STILL YOUNG, TREATMENT WILL BE EASIER FOR YOU! :)
Just be open to suggestions and honest as can be! Good luck!
BTW!.!.!.!.depression med!. is not perminent!. You will be put on med!. for 1 yr!. and then taken off!. Most people respond well to this treatment!.
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As for how to help her!.!.!.!. I know you don't want anyone to say,"Tell her parents!"!. I totally get that! Even though, she would be mad at you at first, she will thank you in the end! It will make you closer if you tell her parents that she needs help!.
I know it sounds weird, but take it from someone who dealt with depression and anxiety for yrs!.!!!
Let me give you some background info!. I have been suffering with this illness since I can remember!. As far back as I can remember I dealt with anxiety and hated life! We're talking like 9 or 10 yrs!. old! I'm 28 now!. I went through the " I want to kill myself" faze!. I was a miserable person and could care less most of the time!.
I have been through hell and back (w/ boyfriends, friends, family!.!.!.)!. Finally I met a man who didn't give up on me!. About 3 yrs!. ago, he brought me to the emergency room due to my uncontrollable depression!. Mood swings, violence, sadness, fatigue!.!.!.(you name it, I had it!) I hated him for committing me at the time!. 3 days later, when I was released from the hospital, I thanked him and now we are happier than ever!
Depression is nothing to mess with! Life CAN be wonderful! :) Medication and counseling is nothing to be ashamed of! For you and your friend!. There are millions of us out there! Most people in this world suffer with some type of mental illness! You are not alone!
I am so glad to hear that you are willing to seek help! :) This experience will change your life for the better! I promise! :)
Since this is your family Dr!. and not a psychiatrist, you are at an advantage!. Your Dr!. already knows you ( a little)!. The best advice I can give, is be honest (no matter what)! What ever you tell the Dr!. cannot (by law) leave the room! The Dr!. will ask you why you think you are depressed and why you cut yourself!. Also, you may be asked where you cut yourself!.!.!.!.again!.!.!.be honest!!!! This is key! All the questions that you will be asked will help your treatment!.
If medication is required for treatment ( most likely the case) blood may be drawn to check your liver function!. If you are worried about the Dr!. finding drugs in your system, don't be!. Most people who suffer from depression use drugs and it is expected!.
Once depression med!. is started, you should refrain from extra ciricular drug use!!!!!! That includes alcohol!!!!! This can cause seizures and even death! Don't mix drugs!!!!
Nods are OK at first!. Once you feel comfortable with your Dr!. it is OK to open up!. They can be very helpful with ideas on dealing with certain situations!. Again, your conversations are confidential!.
Seeking counseling with a psycologist as well as a Dr!. is a great help!. A psycologist CAN NOT prescribe medication, but can actually be fun to talk to! They are open, honest, and can give great advice (to you, and if you talk about your friend!.!.!.can give u good advice on what to say or do for her as well!.) There are no strings attached! Patient confidentiality is crucial! They will not say a word to anyone! What you say is between you and them!.
I AM SO GLAD TO HEAR THAT YOU ARE SEEKING HELP! LIFE ISN'T SO BAD AND IT CAN ONLY GET BETTER! BECAUSE YOU ARE STILL YOUNG, TREATMENT WILL BE EASIER FOR YOU! :)
Just be open to suggestions and honest as can be! Good luck!
BTW!.!.!.!.depression med!. is not perminent!. You will be put on med!. for 1 yr!. and then taken off!. Most people respond well to this treatment!.
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maybe you could invite her to your session!? NOt for her to talk, but just to be there, ask your therapist if she would please allow it!. Maybe you can ask your friend to support her and who knows, maybe it will inspire her to make changes in her life as well! :)
also, she will probably ask you questions on you and any histories about you!. Just be honest and she will try to help you!. Your feedback is key to the success of the session and Your healing!.
These would be great questions for the therapist too! Www@Answer-Health@Com
also, she will probably ask you questions on you and any histories about you!. Just be honest and she will try to help you!. Your feedback is key to the success of the session and Your healing!.
These would be great questions for the therapist too! Www@Answer-Health@Com
just continue to be there for your friend!. she really needs u to be strong for her!. and about the appointment it might just be an hour and you dont have to talk if you dont want to, it's only the first time!. but maybe you could tell her about your friend too maybe even bring her along!. it probably will just be a therapy session with no medical procedures just questions!. good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com