I feel so worthless and shamed ?!


Question: I feel so worthless and shamed !?
I've been married for 7 years and we have a wonderful sun of 6 who loves e and looks up to!. But my wife is a doctor while all I do for a job is work for Pratt&whitney fixing jet engine parts!.
How can I look my son in the eye and tell him his mother has a better job than his worthless dad and my wife must think I'm worthless!.
I feel so worthless and think that they would be better off if I just disappeared what do you think !?Www@Answer-Health@Com


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How can you be worthless when you have a lovely son who you obviously adore, you fix engine parts, your wife fix's body parts both jobs as important as each other!. Concentrate on the positive things in your life or why not train in a different career!? Don't just disappear, get help with how you're feeling, your GP will be the best place to start!.!.!. Good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com

Sounds like both you, and your wife have successful jobs!.
What you need to keep in mind, regardless if you believe that a doctor is a more important job or not, all jobs that exist are there out of demand, people get sick, so need cured, hence a doctor!. People need transportation, for whatever purposes, be it to be delivered to a hospital to be worked on by a doctor, or to visit their family!. I'm sure many of the most brilliant and successful people in the world wouldn't be able to do many of the apparently "unimportant" jobs!. Look at the bigger picture of how every job out there helps people in a way!.

that being said, what kind of son wouldn't want to have a dad who helps makes jets!. :OWww@Answer-Health@Com

Your son probably thinks it's way cool to have a dad that works on airplanes! Aside from your job, as well as your wife's, I think your kid is most interested in being given unconditional love!. Being there for him and raising him the best you can is what matters most, not who's got the better job or who can bring in the most dough!. And if you disappeared!.!.!.I think that would devastate him and ultimately, hurt him as he grows!. Www@Answer-Health@Com

Today should be the last day you utter those words!. You are more than your job!. If you go through life thinking you are worthless than you will live a miserable life!. You my friend are suffering from STINKIN' THINKIN'!. Oh and by the way, if you don't like your job, you can change it!. You can go back to school if you want to!. I think you should start liking yourself otherwise you are going to project these feelings toward your family and make them miserable!.

Ok, this is just something to make you laugh!. Did you use to watch Laverne and Shirley!? When Laverne would feel upset about failure, Shirley would sing this song to her!. !. !.
Just what makes that little ole ant
Think he can move that rubber-tree plant
Everyone knows an ant can't move a rubber-tree plant but he's got
high hopes!. He's got high hopes!. He's got high apple pie in the sky hopes!.
HAVE A GREAT NIGHT!! TELL YOUR FAMILY YOU LOVE THEM AND CHANGE YOUR THINKING!Www@Answer-Health@Com

No matter what you think, they would not be better off without you!. You do your best right!? Well your wife and son love you!. I know it can be hard because you feel like as a man, you should be the provider!. You may feel like you can't live up to your responsibilities!. That's okay!.

What you've got to remember is that you are the only one judging you!. You're family loves you very much, and if you wife didn't think you were worth her time, she wouldn't be with you!.

There may come a time when your wife can't work or make as much money as you!. Marriage is all about doing what you can, when you can!. You are loved - that's the most important thing!.

When you're wife and son look at you, what do you see in their eyes!?

Hang in there!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

I think you've completely missed the point there (even though you've actually said it)!. Irrelevant of what you do for a living (to bring money in to support your family which in itself is a responsible job that many don't do) you are his father and that is all that matters to him!.

I once heard the phrase (in my favorite film) mother is the word for god on the lips and hearts of children!. I would love to know the one for father!.

I suspect there is something that is making you feel inadequate!? If its your job, change it for something that makes a difference!? Like a fireman!?

Hope this helps!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

it doesn't matter if she has a better job!. your son looks up to you because of who you are, not for your job!. you shouldn't think this way, in this era, women are starting to have equality in the workplace, and there are more and more "housedads" with wives working!. How can your son think you are worthless when you work so hard!? he wouldnt, and he will understand how hard you work when he gets older!. he will look up to you for it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Well for a start, how much does your doctor wife know about jet engines!? I'm guessing not much, right!? If you're a successful dad then that in itself is more than a lot of fellows can manage!. Stop feeling bad about yourself and if you really want to improve yourself do so!. Go to night school (or what ever you call it in America) and learn something!. Write a book, make a ship in a bottle, teach Jenny above to spell (goodness knows that'll be a big project)!. Do something to improve your self esteem!. Www@Answer-Health@Com

It does not matter what kind of job u have!. You have a wife and son who loves you!.

They love u for who you are!.

If u want to, you can learn something else!. If your wife is a doctor, maybe you can go to school and learn a trade or whatever u want!.

I don't think it's necessary, but it is how you feel about yourself!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Wow! Jet engines! You're an aeronautical jet propulsion engineer, not many people can say that!
So let's look at the facts!. You have a young son!. A son that probably plays with toy trains, cars and PLANES! A boy who looks up in awe at a plane flying in the sky!. A boy who loves to watch planes on the tv making loud roaring noises, taking off and landing!. Me thinks when he learns that you work with these roaring beasts he'll well chuffed!. Can't seeing him wanting to go and see lots of ill people all day if the choice is ill people or JET ENGINES! Www@Answer-Health@Com

Today's world it doesn't matter who has a better job!. What matters is that your kid is taken care of physically and mentally!. You are not worthless unless you don't care for your wife and son!. By you being their for your wife and son through good times and bad then you do make a difference and you should be proud!. Www@Answer-Health@Com

Honest work is respectable!.
Your talents may lie in a different area than hers, but there is no shame in that!.

I believe you would benefit greatly speaking with a Counselor for a few sessions - discussing and having someone to assist you in your thoughts and feelings!. Plan also to spend a few sessions with your wife in the room!.

You need to gain an appreciation for being emotional equals!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

u knw sumthin!.!.!.!.!.parents who have high powered careers often don't mean much to their children!.!.!.!.!.!.!.!.rejection, neglection and deiciet often *** bundled together with these jobs

plus i don't think any child would think their dad is worthless as long as u guys have a strong bond

in addition ur job isn't worthless lol

and stop thinkin ur wife thinks u r worthless coz she married u didn't she inspite of her so called high powered career

if u disappeared then seriously ur child wud think u wer worthless

so don't disappear, build a strong bond with ur childWww@Answer-Health@Com

Your job doesn't define you and is no measure of your worth!. It's all relative and everyone feels inferior to somebody else!. All your son needs from you is love, acceptance, and guidance, not a fancy job title!. If you are a hard worker and provide for him than you are far from worthless!. Www@Answer-Health@Com

i think you are stupied i do not belive your son of 6 belives his dad is stupied no 6 year old belives that about there dad and me as a women and been with my man for 8 years and have four kids and a better job then he dose and i dont look at him anyless then me we are the same we both put in and to me the love is worth it Www@Answer-Health@Com

There are many such combination like yours!. Yours is not an isolated case!. Children will not know all these intricacies in their tender young stages!. Their mind is pure and crystal clear!. You should develop self-confidence!. Man is not judged by his position or status!. One is judged by his qualities, habits and behaviors!. If you know your own worth, you should not bother about others impressions about you!. We should satisfy and answer our own heart that is all!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

As long as your doing the best you can I'm a butcher my wife works for a university as long as your trying thats all that matters Www@Answer-Health@Com

doctors fly
doctors save patients' lives
you save doctors' livesWww@Answer-Health@Com

With that attitude, your stuffed and take it as it is!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





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