I've lost absolutely everything?!
Question: I've lost absolutely everything!?
I have a best friend of 5 years!. She's so different from everyone else!. She's the only person who's stuck by me no matter what, through all of my depression and everything!. She's talked me out of suicide and been my only reason for living at times!.
When I was 13, her boyfriend kissed me and I didn't stop him!. I was young and stupid and I didn't think!. I've hated myself ever since and it took her a long time to forgive me, of course!.
Since then we've been through so much!. But just recently she's found out I slept with him and she told me she wants nothing to do with me any more!. I feel like I've lost absolutely everything!. I literally don't know what to do without her!. She's my only true friend left and I feel like there's no point in anything without her!.
How can I go on when I've lost someone so important to me!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
When I was 13, her boyfriend kissed me and I didn't stop him!. I was young and stupid and I didn't think!. I've hated myself ever since and it took her a long time to forgive me, of course!.
Since then we've been through so much!. But just recently she's found out I slept with him and she told me she wants nothing to do with me any more!. I feel like I've lost absolutely everything!. I literally don't know what to do without her!. She's my only true friend left and I feel like there's no point in anything without her!.
How can I go on when I've lost someone so important to me!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
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I really feel for you, I can't imagine how much guilt and pain you must be feeling just now!. You already know what you did was wrong so there is no point in me going on about it!. Whats done is done and you can't change it, but you can have some control over what happens in the future!.
If your friendship was really as strong as it sounds, then even something like this cannot break it entirely!. It may be that this is a wound which takes a long time to heal, but this may not mean that you have lost your friend forever!. Friendships have survived much worse!. As someone else suggested, I think writing your friend a letter is a very good idea!. Tell her how deeply sorry you are, and that you understand why she feels like she cannot forgive you!. But also tell her how much she means to you, how grateful you are for all the years of friendship and support she has given you!. I would try to explain that you cannot blame her if she never wants to talk to you again, but that if she can ever find it in her heart to forgive you, that you feel your friendship is to valuable to lose forever and that you hope one day she can begin to forgive you!.
I truly hope that, given time, you can heal this wound that has torn you apart, and I think there is a good chance that you can - as I said, friendships have survived worse!.
However, if this really is the end, and you have lost your friend, then of course you are going to be very sad about it for a very long time!. But you will get over it eventually!. It won't be easy, and you will probably spend the rest of your life remembering and regretting what happened!. But time is a great healer, and you what ever the outcome, you will come out of this a stronger and wiser person!.
I hope with all my heart that things work out xxWww@Answer-Health@Com
If your friendship was really as strong as it sounds, then even something like this cannot break it entirely!. It may be that this is a wound which takes a long time to heal, but this may not mean that you have lost your friend forever!. Friendships have survived much worse!. As someone else suggested, I think writing your friend a letter is a very good idea!. Tell her how deeply sorry you are, and that you understand why she feels like she cannot forgive you!. But also tell her how much she means to you, how grateful you are for all the years of friendship and support she has given you!. I would try to explain that you cannot blame her if she never wants to talk to you again, but that if she can ever find it in her heart to forgive you, that you feel your friendship is to valuable to lose forever and that you hope one day she can begin to forgive you!.
I truly hope that, given time, you can heal this wound that has torn you apart, and I think there is a good chance that you can - as I said, friendships have survived worse!.
However, if this really is the end, and you have lost your friend, then of course you are going to be very sad about it for a very long time!. But you will get over it eventually!. It won't be easy, and you will probably spend the rest of your life remembering and regretting what happened!. But time is a great healer, and you what ever the outcome, you will come out of this a stronger and wiser person!.
I hope with all my heart that things work out xxWww@Answer-Health@Com
Seems like you're the envious one, she was being too good around you, and you disrespected her, your lost!. There's only one side or you're a wanderer (loner)!.Sorry to say you knew exactly what choices you made so accept the consequences even if it makes you sick!.
That's life and it's not good messing with it, it's better to choose wisely!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
That's life and it's not good messing with it, it's better to choose wisely!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Oh yes, losing your best friend IS everything!.!.!. I guess losing your home, family, safety etc isn't a big deal when you compare it!.
Really, it's your fault that you slept with him!. You shouldn't have done it in the first place!. Talk to real people around you, not on the net!. We're not psychologists or therapists!.
By the way, friend's ex boyfriend/girlfriends are always a big NO NO!. Especially when you're best friends!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Really, it's your fault that you slept with him!. You shouldn't have done it in the first place!. Talk to real people around you, not on the net!. We're not psychologists or therapists!.
By the way, friend's ex boyfriend/girlfriends are always a big NO NO!. Especially when you're best friends!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I wont judge u its a bad loss but time may heal it!. Me and my best friend did not speak for 4yrs because he cheated me out of money and was arrogant!.
Within the last yr we reconnected and he literally saved my life when i was gonna kill myself cause mom was dyin, she is gone and he is a main reason i'm notWww@Answer-Health@Com
Within the last yr we reconnected and he literally saved my life when i was gonna kill myself cause mom was dyin, she is gone and he is a main reason i'm notWww@Answer-Health@Com
Your friend was so good to you sticking by you when you were depressed!. Can you imagine how she feels you must of hurt her really bad!. She obviously was not that important to you I dont care if they had split up you still should have not done it i really hope you have learnt a valuable lesson and dont s!.!.!.t on people who are good to you!.
You were very lucky to have such a good friend!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You were very lucky to have such a good friend!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If she were your true friend you would never have lied to her, or kissed her boyfriend, and then you slept with him!? You obviously do not know the meaning of friendship, you certainly do not act like one!. What the hell did you think would happen!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
if you kissed her boyfriend and slept with him, she obviously isnt that important to you because if she was you wouldnt have done it!. even if they werent together when it happened, its like girls law that you dont do that!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Well you should have thought of your best friend before you slept with her boyfriend!.
You dont deserve her!. its your own fault!.
maybe if you grovel hard enough for long enough she may forgive you, but she will never forget it or trust you with her next boyfriend!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You dont deserve her!. its your own fault!.
maybe if you grovel hard enough for long enough she may forgive you, but she will never forget it or trust you with her next boyfriend!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
best friends boyfriends are completely off limits! even if they are dating or were dating!. a big no no! she may forgive you in time!. after all, whats more important -- your friendship or a stupid guy!? i know the issue is trust but still!. good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Honestly your no friend, how can you say you care about her, when you let a guy get in between your friendship!.!. See actions speak louder then words, and take accountability for your actions!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
You are young!.
This seems important now but all pain passes and in a few years time you will be over it!.
Find some new friends!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
This seems important now but all pain passes and in a few years time you will be over it!.
Find some new friends!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You effed up, get over it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You did the dirty on her,Your fault!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
the lesson is, dont sleep with best friend's boyfriendsWww@Answer-Health@Com
I think the better question is why did u sleep with her boyfriend in the first place!? Were they split up then too!?lWww@Answer-Health@Com
OK, first you must forgive yourself for what you did, and you must forgive her for being angry and not being able to keep you as a friend!.
You can go on and you can survive without this girl, no matter how you feel otherwise!. You are strong enough to live your own life independently and you have the strength within you to carry on!.
I have felt as though I was standing alone at the edge of the universe and about to be sucked into a black hole!. I felt paralysed with fear day and night and like my life was a living nightmare!. But you know what!? I never did get sucked into the black hole, and I did manage to get by, and things are cool now!. So you'll be cool too!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
You can go on and you can survive without this girl, no matter how you feel otherwise!. You are strong enough to live your own life independently and you have the strength within you to carry on!.
I have felt as though I was standing alone at the edge of the universe and about to be sucked into a black hole!. I felt paralysed with fear day and night and like my life was a living nightmare!. But you know what!? I never did get sucked into the black hole, and I did manage to get by, and things are cool now!. So you'll be cool too!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
I think that friends must accept the fact that certain things are taboo!. like your best mate's ex boyfriends!. Ex boyfriends are candles which never entirely extinguish, and the fact that you subsequently slept with him is a sort of betrayal of her trust for you!. This will mend, but you have done this after all she has done for you!. Without meaning to upset you further, I think you're being a little bit selfish, and I think you need to put yourself in her shoes and think how she feels before you ask how you can go on yourself, and in future think of the consequences your actions may have on others!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
if she was such a good friend, you wouldn't have messed around with her ex would you!?
there's a rule some of us stick to round here, you don't mess around with friends bfs/exes ever!. It's amazing how many people we thought were friends lie to your face!.
-Why are you going on about 'everything' YOU'VE "lost"!? Have you ever thought about how you made her feel!? She helped you through tough times, and she's had you relying on her to make you feel better!. But you broke her trust in you!.
Have you thought about making that up to her!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
there's a rule some of us stick to round here, you don't mess around with friends bfs/exes ever!. It's amazing how many people we thought were friends lie to your face!.
-Why are you going on about 'everything' YOU'VE "lost"!? Have you ever thought about how you made her feel!? She helped you through tough times, and she's had you relying on her to make you feel better!. But you broke her trust in you!.
Have you thought about making that up to her!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Do not listen on people that only say that it is your own fault!.
You made broke your best friend's heart and she will probably never more talk to you!. But we are all humans!.
Nobody is perfect!.
All here have done things we regret!.
Maybe the future will give you and your friend a new chance but you must not press your friend!. - She needs time, a lot of time, to amend her heart and you cannot trust in that she will forgive your "mistake"!.
For your own sake you must tell yourself that the most awful scenario will take place because the pain will otherwise never go away!.
Time will heel your wounds and in the meanwhile you must do what you can to survive!.
I (a male in his best ages) began to talk with dolls, began to run marathon races and everything he could come up with!.
Today I am still missing my friend but I have beautiful memories left that keeps me going and with help of imagination I survive - even got friends!.
How you should continue only you know but I beg you to try!. Life is hard but we all are humans and humans are allowed to make mistakes although we must give the people we hurt understanding, respect and love too as long as needed even if it means forever!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You made broke your best friend's heart and she will probably never more talk to you!. But we are all humans!.
Nobody is perfect!.
All here have done things we regret!.
Maybe the future will give you and your friend a new chance but you must not press your friend!. - She needs time, a lot of time, to amend her heart and you cannot trust in that she will forgive your "mistake"!.
For your own sake you must tell yourself that the most awful scenario will take place because the pain will otherwise never go away!.
Time will heel your wounds and in the meanwhile you must do what you can to survive!.
I (a male in his best ages) began to talk with dolls, began to run marathon races and everything he could come up with!.
Today I am still missing my friend but I have beautiful memories left that keeps me going and with help of imagination I survive - even got friends!.
How you should continue only you know but I beg you to try!. Life is hard but we all are humans and humans are allowed to make mistakes although we must give the people we hurt understanding, respect and love too as long as needed even if it means forever!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You havent lost everything!. It may feel like it!. You did do wrong by her and theres consequences to that!. Give it 3 months or so AT LEAST!. Then write her a letter, she will absorb it better that way, and cant argue!. But if in the end she decides she cannot forgive you, you have learned one of many life lessons!.
Losing EVERYTHING is: Your husband dies unexpectedly after trying to kill himself for two years because hes in so much pain he cannot physically handle it!. NO ONES there for you like they should be( minus 1 or 2 people) out of 50 people you know!.!.!.
Your mother doesnt show to his funeral, but makes it to a QUILT SHOW the month after his funeral!. She said she had dental appt's she couldnt cancel for his funeral!.
Your husbands best friends wife accuses you of having an affair with her husband, when the husband you LOST is your SOULMATE, and our 5 year wedding anniversary was 2 months after he died!.
I got fired from my job the week he died for not coming back after TWO Days bereavement leave!. FOR MY HUSBAND DYING!? TWO DAYS!?!? REALLY!?
THANKS METRO ONE by the way!.
oh yeah and the "best friend" of my husband borrowed money- ALOT, and it was the day after I gave him the check that I was told I was being accused of sleeping with him in the ICU waiting room!?!?!? AND he is no longer allowed to speak with me!. Theres SO MUCH More!.
I have graves disease, hashimotos disease and just got diagnosed with Fibromyalsia!.
No One calls, my foster child just got 14 hours notice she was being moved into a LOCKDOWN CLOSED CAMPUS Facility, and she wanted to stay here with ME!. She was Devistated!.!.!. as am I!.!.!.And they will not let us visit each other because the program she is in now is "Different" than the one Im trained in!.!? I just want to take her places, do things for her!.!.!.!.and they think that will make it harder for her to "move on" !.!.!. and being in a lockdown, closed campus facility with no contact with the outside world" is HELPFUL!?!?!?!?
I just sent a letter to ALL the people that "F"ed me over when I needed them most!.!.!. most of the replies were I was too harsh on them!.!.!.!.!.what!?WTF!?
"I" was too harsh!.!.!. hmmmm!.
So you see, youve got the future!. This is a lesson you have to learn in life!. Sometimes we have to "F" up BAD before we learn the lesson!. I bet youll NEVER Do it again!.You will make other friends, just cherish them and NEVER CHOOSE a guy over a friend!.
KristinWww@Answer-Health@Com
Losing EVERYTHING is: Your husband dies unexpectedly after trying to kill himself for two years because hes in so much pain he cannot physically handle it!. NO ONES there for you like they should be( minus 1 or 2 people) out of 50 people you know!.!.!.
Your mother doesnt show to his funeral, but makes it to a QUILT SHOW the month after his funeral!. She said she had dental appt's she couldnt cancel for his funeral!.
Your husbands best friends wife accuses you of having an affair with her husband, when the husband you LOST is your SOULMATE, and our 5 year wedding anniversary was 2 months after he died!.
I got fired from my job the week he died for not coming back after TWO Days bereavement leave!. FOR MY HUSBAND DYING!? TWO DAYS!?!? REALLY!?
THANKS METRO ONE by the way!.
oh yeah and the "best friend" of my husband borrowed money- ALOT, and it was the day after I gave him the check that I was told I was being accused of sleeping with him in the ICU waiting room!?!?!? AND he is no longer allowed to speak with me!. Theres SO MUCH More!.
I have graves disease, hashimotos disease and just got diagnosed with Fibromyalsia!.
No One calls, my foster child just got 14 hours notice she was being moved into a LOCKDOWN CLOSED CAMPUS Facility, and she wanted to stay here with ME!. She was Devistated!.!.!. as am I!.!.!.And they will not let us visit each other because the program she is in now is "Different" than the one Im trained in!.!? I just want to take her places, do things for her!.!.!.!.and they think that will make it harder for her to "move on" !.!.!. and being in a lockdown, closed campus facility with no contact with the outside world" is HELPFUL!?!?!?!?
I just sent a letter to ALL the people that "F"ed me over when I needed them most!.!.!. most of the replies were I was too harsh on them!.!.!.!.!.what!?WTF!?
"I" was too harsh!.!.!. hmmmm!.
So you see, youve got the future!. This is a lesson you have to learn in life!. Sometimes we have to "F" up BAD before we learn the lesson!. I bet youll NEVER Do it again!.You will make other friends, just cherish them and NEVER CHOOSE a guy over a friend!.
KristinWww@Answer-Health@Com