Ive got big problems, can someone help?!
Question: Ive got big problems, can someone help!?
its my life and the way i am, i never talk about this to anyone, but im on the edge here right now
basically, im a looser in alot of peoples eyes, if they knew everything about me they would think i was a tragic looser, and not go anywhere near me
im 28, live at home, no gf, never have had, never been kissed even! and i cant cope with being with alot of people enjoying themselves
im a self employed person, dont make alot of money, but im self employed partly because i dont like interacting with people alot, incase they find out about my troubles
can you tell me, am i alone like this!?!? dont say anything crappy to me pleaseWww@Answer-Health@Com
basically, im a looser in alot of peoples eyes, if they knew everything about me they would think i was a tragic looser, and not go anywhere near me
im 28, live at home, no gf, never have had, never been kissed even! and i cant cope with being with alot of people enjoying themselves
im a self employed person, dont make alot of money, but im self employed partly because i dont like interacting with people alot, incase they find out about my troubles
can you tell me, am i alone like this!?!? dont say anything crappy to me pleaseWww@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Whitey I would like to help you however I can!. But I think you need a psychytrist and a therapist, and possible medication!. I dont know your history and if you could tell me more maybe I can help you further!. Im not sure if its a chemical problem or a mood disorder casued by envirment, or both!. I have bipolar disorder, so I understand, and im not here to judge!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
As long as you think you are a loser, everyone else will too!. The main thing you need to work on is self-esteem!. You sound like you are a very independent person, so that is a good start!. Just get out there and open up to people and have fun!. If you dont you will have a miserable life!. Good Luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Hey there,
Nothing you've said seems that bad except for your self esteem!. But I'd recommend you check out this website for a little insight and help!.
I hope you find it helpful!. All the best!.!.!.
http://moodgym!.anu!.edu!.au/welcomeWww@Answer-Health@Com
Nothing you've said seems that bad except for your self esteem!. But I'd recommend you check out this website for a little insight and help!.
I hope you find it helpful!. All the best!.!.!.
http://moodgym!.anu!.edu!.au/welcomeWww@Answer-Health@Com
Check your email, maybe i can help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
First off, take a long look at yourself and think practically about what you can do to improve your life!. Are you staying healthy!? Anything that you might want to hide, find a way to change!. Most likely there are some habits you need to break!.
I work with someone who is a great guy, attractive and funny and just got his first girlfriend, and kiss, at age twenty six!. She's a great girl too and for her his inexperience was a turn on!. There are alot of easy going non judgemental people out there, believe it or not!. Loosen up!.
I know some people who married the first person they dated in high school and now they are totally bored and will never have sex again and are chained to mortgages!.
When we're alone we don't want to live life fully because it doesn't feel right or everything seems like wasted effort because we're still alone!. Don't let this hold you back, have fun and live a full life and something will open up for you!.
Not to get to philosophical, but fear clouds the mind!. When you meet someone and you feel insecure and fearful because you want something to happen and oh no of course it won't it never has before but maybe if I don't screw up this time but it's my only chance!. Forget that!.
Once I realized that I would never sleep with 99!.99% of the women I met in my lifetime I forgot all about trying to flirt or impress them and just treated them like the 100% of men that I won't sleep with!. No more fear and things got positive!.
Be open to whose interested in you and it will be fine!. Also think about getting your own place and get a real social outlet with influx,Www@Answer-Health@Com
I work with someone who is a great guy, attractive and funny and just got his first girlfriend, and kiss, at age twenty six!. She's a great girl too and for her his inexperience was a turn on!. There are alot of easy going non judgemental people out there, believe it or not!. Loosen up!.
I know some people who married the first person they dated in high school and now they are totally bored and will never have sex again and are chained to mortgages!.
When we're alone we don't want to live life fully because it doesn't feel right or everything seems like wasted effort because we're still alone!. Don't let this hold you back, have fun and live a full life and something will open up for you!.
Not to get to philosophical, but fear clouds the mind!. When you meet someone and you feel insecure and fearful because you want something to happen and oh no of course it won't it never has before but maybe if I don't screw up this time but it's my only chance!. Forget that!.
Once I realized that I would never sleep with 99!.99% of the women I met in my lifetime I forgot all about trying to flirt or impress them and just treated them like the 100% of men that I won't sleep with!. No more fear and things got positive!.
Be open to whose interested in you and it will be fine!. Also think about getting your own place and get a real social outlet with influx,Www@Answer-Health@Com
DATING: Free advice, and a much larger range of websites than are permitted to be posted here, may be found in section 9, on social anxiety, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris Read that section, (and section 38, on self esteem, and confidence)!. Check out the extensive free email material De Angelo offers, and only then make your decision on the next logical step, of the 3 choices available, or just opt out; you know your personal circumstances best!. Then, in your position, I'd first take an escort out to a meal at a restaurant!.
Ask her how she, and other women would like to be approached!. What subjects to talk with women about, and what to avoid!. Where to go!. (Coffee involves little pressure, or committment, and you can often learn a lot in a short time about whether a relationship with that person is worth pursuing)!. Maybe a movie next time, or a meal!. I'd go on these "dry runs" at least 2, or 3 times!.
Expect many rejections; adopt De Angelo's approach, though, and go out with the sole purpose of approaching at least a dozen women, and saying, "Hi, my name's !?!?!?!?!?, and I'm out tonight meeting new people, and I thought you looked interesting, and attractive!. What should I call you!?" Ask for her email address, and give her a notepad, and pen; have no expectations - just see what happens!. Regard it as an opportunity to learn, and develop, or hone your social skills, not as a test you can fail!.
You may wish to have something to calm your nerves!. Try having a cup of "Tension Tamer", herbal tea, by Celestial Seasonings, (from supermarket tea, or health food aisles) or make some at home, and cool, then bottle, and drink as needed (I find it so strong tasting, that I need to drink it quickly, followed by something like fruit juice, to take away the taste, but others may find it more tolerable)!.
C(h)amomile tea is a more palatable option!. Herbal remedies, such as valerian, are often effective, but know how it affects you, first!. Avoid overuse of alcohol: it is counterproductive!. 1 - 2 drinks, at most! (not beer, because beer breath is a potential turnoff)!. There are many internet chatrooms where you can develop online skills, but these often don't translate well in real life situations!. Phone calls are a good next step!. Then coffee!.
Speed dating is an option for later, once you have developed your skillset!. If you aren't sexually experienced, this can be a big hurdle, later on!. One option is to get some experience with those who do it professionally, regard it as a form of therapy, perhaps, or just a bit of fun, but try to learn about how to satisfy a woman!. http://www!.askemilyanything/ and Y!A womens section, and books!.
Always ask what they like, and what they don't, and allow PLENTY of foreplay, allowing them let you know when they're ready, or waiting for at least 15 minutes!. Many women these days have certain minimal requirements of potential boyfriends, such as: 1) A place of his own!. 2) Full time employment!. 3) No drug problem!. Having a car can help, in some places!. Be cocky, and funny too, if possible!. Don't appear to be needy; it's a turnoff, as is a lack of confidence (see section 38)!. Dress for the venue, or occasion, and consider having a makeover!. Ask a number of people (not the girls you are trying to get to know, at least, not for some time) how they think you could look better; some should have a good suggestion, or two; most won't, though!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Ask her how she, and other women would like to be approached!. What subjects to talk with women about, and what to avoid!. Where to go!. (Coffee involves little pressure, or committment, and you can often learn a lot in a short time about whether a relationship with that person is worth pursuing)!. Maybe a movie next time, or a meal!. I'd go on these "dry runs" at least 2, or 3 times!.
Expect many rejections; adopt De Angelo's approach, though, and go out with the sole purpose of approaching at least a dozen women, and saying, "Hi, my name's !?!?!?!?!?, and I'm out tonight meeting new people, and I thought you looked interesting, and attractive!. What should I call you!?" Ask for her email address, and give her a notepad, and pen; have no expectations - just see what happens!. Regard it as an opportunity to learn, and develop, or hone your social skills, not as a test you can fail!.
You may wish to have something to calm your nerves!. Try having a cup of "Tension Tamer", herbal tea, by Celestial Seasonings, (from supermarket tea, or health food aisles) or make some at home, and cool, then bottle, and drink as needed (I find it so strong tasting, that I need to drink it quickly, followed by something like fruit juice, to take away the taste, but others may find it more tolerable)!.
C(h)amomile tea is a more palatable option!. Herbal remedies, such as valerian, are often effective, but know how it affects you, first!. Avoid overuse of alcohol: it is counterproductive!. 1 - 2 drinks, at most! (not beer, because beer breath is a potential turnoff)!. There are many internet chatrooms where you can develop online skills, but these often don't translate well in real life situations!. Phone calls are a good next step!. Then coffee!.
Speed dating is an option for later, once you have developed your skillset!. If you aren't sexually experienced, this can be a big hurdle, later on!. One option is to get some experience with those who do it professionally, regard it as a form of therapy, perhaps, or just a bit of fun, but try to learn about how to satisfy a woman!. http://www!.askemilyanything/ and Y!A womens section, and books!.
Always ask what they like, and what they don't, and allow PLENTY of foreplay, allowing them let you know when they're ready, or waiting for at least 15 minutes!. Many women these days have certain minimal requirements of potential boyfriends, such as: 1) A place of his own!. 2) Full time employment!. 3) No drug problem!. Having a car can help, in some places!. Be cocky, and funny too, if possible!. Don't appear to be needy; it's a turnoff, as is a lack of confidence (see section 38)!. Dress for the venue, or occasion, and consider having a makeover!. Ask a number of people (not the girls you are trying to get to know, at least, not for some time) how they think you could look better; some should have a good suggestion, or two; most won't, though!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I'm 29 and lived with social anxiety disorder, with panic disorder and agoraphobia up until July of this year!. You are not alone!.
There were signs in my teenage years!. I would hide in the school bathroom if I knew I was even close to being tardy because the thought of all eyes on me while everyone but me was seated was so unnerving! If I went out with friends I had to get intoxicated in order to socialize!.
Things spiraled out of control until I turned 21 and had a panic attack!. My life was hel from that time until I got properly treated by a psychiatrist and I am driving (I hadn't drove in over a year) and "living"!.
You need to make an appt!. to see a psychiatrist!.!.!.if you don't like how he/she speaks to you or makes you feel, if they cut you off, anything that makes you uncomfortable, go to another one!. Your relationship with your psychiatrist is important because you have to trust them to help you recover!.
There are some meds people take for Social anxiety disorder that actually make them feel overly-social and happy!. I spent a ton of money educating myself about my condition and buying every "program" and supplement" meant to help people with mental problems, but after nine years I was tired of fighting a losing battle, and I got treatment!. These meds were created to level the imbalances in your brain that make yur thoughts screwy!. You recognize that there is a problem!.
Don't feel hopeless, there is help for you, go get it! I wish you luck!.!.I spent nine years in hell and al it tok was three weeks on the RIGHT prescription!. It's trial and error when it comes to pharmeceuticals but don't give up!Www@Answer-Health@Com
There were signs in my teenage years!. I would hide in the school bathroom if I knew I was even close to being tardy because the thought of all eyes on me while everyone but me was seated was so unnerving! If I went out with friends I had to get intoxicated in order to socialize!.
Things spiraled out of control until I turned 21 and had a panic attack!. My life was hel from that time until I got properly treated by a psychiatrist and I am driving (I hadn't drove in over a year) and "living"!.
You need to make an appt!. to see a psychiatrist!.!.!.if you don't like how he/she speaks to you or makes you feel, if they cut you off, anything that makes you uncomfortable, go to another one!. Your relationship with your psychiatrist is important because you have to trust them to help you recover!.
There are some meds people take for Social anxiety disorder that actually make them feel overly-social and happy!. I spent a ton of money educating myself about my condition and buying every "program" and supplement" meant to help people with mental problems, but after nine years I was tired of fighting a losing battle, and I got treatment!. These meds were created to level the imbalances in your brain that make yur thoughts screwy!. You recognize that there is a problem!.
Don't feel hopeless, there is help for you, go get it! I wish you luck!.!.I spent nine years in hell and al it tok was three weeks on the RIGHT prescription!. It's trial and error when it comes to pharmeceuticals but don't give up!Www@Answer-Health@Com