What can help me get over/understand my uncles death?!


Question: What can help me get over/understand my uncles death!?
he died from cancer and his funeral was a couple of days ago i dont know what i can do coz whenever i am on my own he is all i really think about!. he died from cancer and was cremated which are two things which i find hard to deal with because i think people should be buried when they passWww@Answer-Health@Com


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Hon, I have lost several friends & family members to different types of cancer!. You never really 'get over' losing someone to such an insidious disease!.

Your Uncle is now pain-free & @ peace!. He will always be with you inside your heart, it is his physical presence that is hard to fill!. Remember him as he was in the good times before he became sick, he wouldn't like you to remember how he was in the final weeks of his life!.

The grieving process is slow!. If you feel like howling or you are angry which are all normal emotions, then cry if & when you need to!. If you are angry go into the backyard or your room & really let it rip!. You must not bottle things up inside as it is unhealthy for you!.

It was your Uncle's choice to be cremated so you need to respect that & his family carried out his wishes!. When it's your 'time' make sure your feelings on the matter are known!.

Death comes to all of us eventually, so enjoy the time you have & cherish the memories of yr Uncle!. He will be looking down upon you, & people are never dead when they are remembered by their loved ones!. God bless & take care!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

you'll never "get over" any death that is close to you!. Just keep good thoughts in your mind and heart!. They hurt now, but will be comforting to you later!. You might want to write a letter and spill everything about how you are feeling about the cancer to the cremation and be brutally honest!. Tell him you hate him for cancer or you don't agree with the cremation if that's how you truly feel!. Really open your self up and get it all out on paper!. Then fold the letter up and burn it!. It will give you a way to vent your frustration and there will be no trace of the letter to remind you!. Try to keep with friends and family and talk about him in good ways!. Eventually the pain will ease and remembering all those great stories will make you smileWww@Answer-Health@Com

You may never get completely over or understand your uncle's death!. He died only a few days ago, so the pain for you is very fresh and raw!. Give yourself permission to grieve!. He was important to you, and there's nothing wrong with feeling a great sense of loss!. It may take a couple of weeks, but eventually the pain will fade!. Honor his memory by keeping him in your heart and take the lessons he taught you and use them to make yourself a better person (although I think you're probably pretty great already)!. Www@Answer-Health@Com

My mom passed away from cancer also in January of this year!. She also was cremated, I don't have a problem with that because that's what she wanted!.

But as far as getting over it, I don't think you ever do, you just come to terms with acceptance!. You'll likely still miss them and wish that they were still physical!. Only it get's better with time!. That's all I can tell you so far, it's still new to me too!. Www@Answer-Health@Com





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