Having some problems...anyone help?!


Question: Having some problems!.!.!.anyone help!?
ok well!.!.!. basically im engaged and i know my fiance loves me and everything and he wants to marry me!.!.!. but!.!.!. last december i was raped by a family friend!.!.!. and since then ive gotten a kind of complex about myself and the world!. and i get to the point sometimes where i ask him all the time if he is sure he loves me and he wants to marry me and if he still wants me!.!.!. its very complicated and he says i need help before we get married and need to go to some christian counseling which im going to!.!.!. cuz i never really got over the rape!.!.!. just!.!.!.what is he thinking right now!? i know he doesnt hate me and that he loves me but does he still want to marry me!? cuz he sent me back to my parents so i can get counseling and he is going to come see me as much as he can, but since i left he doesnt seem to talk to much to me or anything and i asked him why, he told me it was becuz he wants the time to pass quicker til we can see eahc other and that he feels like it will if maybe he doesnt think about me and get depressed that im gone!.!.!. if u want more info or can just talk to me plz aim me at belladonnagirl08
thanks!.!.!.I dont want to drive him away and he says hell never leave me ever cuz he loves me so much!.!.!.i dont know what to think right now i guess and im wondering is this normal for guys to do!?
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i mean is it normal how he is acting not is it normal for him to love me so much lol
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Believe me this man loves you very much!. He is not having the problem you are!. Don't take that bad because it wasn't your fault some perv did what he did!. And its normal to feel unsecure anout urself as it feels a part of u is missing!. Its like you are worried you can't give all urself to ur husband now!. But he already has all of u!. Or else wouldn't love u like this!.to answer ur question its not normal for a man to act this way!. Because most men don't care!. But its plain to c that your man does!. All too often people get married and divorced over some type of problem early on in the marriage!. He can see you ate having a problem!. Worried that he don't love u!. That can ruin a relationship!. He understands that so he wants u to get that taken care of so you guys can be 100 percent when u get married!. Is he expecting u to do the counsling alone!? Because u might not wanrt to share any embarresing details with him I believe u should both have counsleing as a couple!. It will help him help I deal as well!. Parting note- I'm so glad u guys are going the Christian way!. A man and a woman alone are like to cords that are wrapped around each other!. If u put a weight on the end it quicklys spins and unravels!. But when a man and a woman add God!. Its then 3 cords!. U take God and braid him right down the middle!. When u add that same weight that cord tightens and gets stronger!. God Bless!. Www@Answer-Health@Com

Give it time!. You both have a lot to think about!. If he really loved you before it happened, it shouldn't make any difference once he's got used to the idea!. I expect one of his hang-ups may be that he wonders whether he measures up (literally) to the bastard who did it to you!. Men are so worried about stupid things like that!.
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well first make sure that you start to ask him lots of question's about his life like if your the only person in his heart and if he say's yes look him straight in the eye and see if you see his eye's getting red if they are he is telling a lie do as i tell you and may the good lord bless youWww@Answer-Health@Com

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Well in your case, I would definatelly see couseling!. But i think it is wrong of you feyonce to send you away, at this point he should be with all times!. Speak to him, tell him you need his help, try not to put any emphasis on the rape part, maybe that scares him away!. But you need to be with his to get that moral support!. Explain to him that there is nothing to worry about, and its just a teporary problem that BOTH of you have to go through!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

YO! Drama!.!.!.!.!.
Read what you wrote just read it!. Read it again out loud!. What do you see!. What do you hear!. Listen!. LISTEN to it!.
Clear your mind, relax, breathe, now read it again and slowly!.
Get It, You get over excited about being excited, way to much and read into things!. Yes something did happen to you!. Yes!. And just so you can really relate to this, me too!. It did happen and much worse, I am sure of it!.
You, you special little thing you!. No matter what you are a special person and have feelings!. We must function and rob others of the same!. Because you did and did not realize it in your feelings taking over you and letting them you smothered!. Yup!. You did!.
This person cares about you!. Yup!. Big!.
Now!. Read you thing here now yet again!. Slowly!. Get a clarity!.
Breathe!. Start taking a self eval of yourself!. Start also thinking more positive of every little thing what so ever!. You are a person, who has feelings, they just got a little overwhelmed, its ok!. Just now get in more order and its allowed!. Positive thinking is an awesome thing and you will find people will look up to you and follow you if you really do it!.
You will and can overcome any with it!. Oh, I get knocked down and tired!. But, its now a tired and it lasts a day!. I get it and it out!. Put it in perspective and get -r- done!. Now start doing this right now and feel good about taking a hot shower and a breathe of fresh air and continue
your life!.!.!.!.Your LIFE! Get your BUDDY and have a LIFE!!!!Www@Answer-Health@Com





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