How can I overcome this depression?!
Question: How can I overcome this depression!?
I've been singing since I was little and I've always wanted to be in a band or something!. My boyfriend started playing and after a year he started being in bands!. I was really depressed because he was doing all of this and I wasn't doing anything!.!.!. I have really bad depression!.!.!.
I've always gotten put down about singing since I was a little girl!. Well, my singing got better and I was finally going to be in a band with my boyfriend, but everything fell apart!. Now he's in one without me!.!.!.
I'm just so depressed about all of it, and please don't tell me that I should just be happy for him because I am a lot of the time!. I just get so depressed because this is my dream and now he's doing it all after not even a few years of playing!.
I just want to be able to sing again, but I'm always too depressed to!. Whenever I try I just give up and say it's stupid!. I know if I just practice I can get a lot better, but I'm to depressed to!. How can I overcome this depression!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
I've always gotten put down about singing since I was a little girl!. Well, my singing got better and I was finally going to be in a band with my boyfriend, but everything fell apart!. Now he's in one without me!.!.!.
I'm just so depressed about all of it, and please don't tell me that I should just be happy for him because I am a lot of the time!. I just get so depressed because this is my dream and now he's doing it all after not even a few years of playing!.
I just want to be able to sing again, but I'm always too depressed to!. Whenever I try I just give up and say it's stupid!. I know if I just practice I can get a lot better, but I'm to depressed to!. How can I overcome this depression!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
I know exactly how you feel!. I've always loved singing (although I've never tried to launch a career) and my parents always tell me not to sing and that my voice is "shrill"!. I know that's not true but it's made me really self-conscious about singing around them and I sing like crazy when I'm not around my parents and my friends think it's kind of weird!. Despite that, they're always encouraging my brother to sing and dance and act, all things I've always wished I could do (not because I want to be famous; I honestly love to), and I've developed an irrational annoyance for just hearing my parents' voices as they encourage my (UNWILLING!) brother, as I sit locked in my room, wishing for something else!.!.!.
Like I said, I know exactly how you feel!. I know you are furious at your boyfriend for being successful and talented and you want to believe so badly that you're better than him, whether or not you actually are!. I know you want to take away everything he has and keep it for yourself!. I know you want recognition!.
And I know that, at the same time, your depression is beating mindlessly at your soul!. It (it is an it, it is not a part of you) is telling you you're not good enough for anything, let alone singing or fame or fulfilling your dreams!. I know it's telling you that you're a terrible, awful person and that you deserve to die for thinking about all of those things about your boyfriend!.
You might even want to die, simply because you want the clashing voices in your head to be silenced!.
Now!. Here's what I want you to do!. Don't feel like you need to be happy for him; being in a band is reward enough for him!. Then, write about it!. In a journal, on your computer, on loose paper!.!.!.wherever!. Get it all out!. Let your feelings flow--discover what the true, deep problem is!. It could be the blind instinct of depression, unstoppable in it's tyraid!. It could be jealousy, cruel in it's fiery conquest!. Or, it could be something else!. Find out what's up with you, and address it!. Only then can you go on, a healthy, happy person!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Like I said, I know exactly how you feel!. I know you are furious at your boyfriend for being successful and talented and you want to believe so badly that you're better than him, whether or not you actually are!. I know you want to take away everything he has and keep it for yourself!. I know you want recognition!.
And I know that, at the same time, your depression is beating mindlessly at your soul!. It (it is an it, it is not a part of you) is telling you you're not good enough for anything, let alone singing or fame or fulfilling your dreams!. I know it's telling you that you're a terrible, awful person and that you deserve to die for thinking about all of those things about your boyfriend!.
You might even want to die, simply because you want the clashing voices in your head to be silenced!.
Now!. Here's what I want you to do!. Don't feel like you need to be happy for him; being in a band is reward enough for him!. Then, write about it!. In a journal, on your computer, on loose paper!.!.!.wherever!. Get it all out!. Let your feelings flow--discover what the true, deep problem is!. It could be the blind instinct of depression, unstoppable in it's tyraid!. It could be jealousy, cruel in it's fiery conquest!. Or, it could be something else!. Find out what's up with you, and address it!. Only then can you go on, a healthy, happy person!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You think you are depressed because of singing!. That seems huge to you, I know!. But you are defining yourself in such a small, tiny way! THAT is why you are depressed!. Its a big wide world that you are avoiding and playing safe inside your small self and depression!. See http://www!.beat-depression-naturally!.com to get a better idea of what depression is, what causes it, what exactly is going on with you in a deeper way, and some things you can do about it!. IF you truly WANT to!. Face your fears about life and start living !! You'll be glad you did!.
with love, LauraWww@Answer-Health@Com
with love, LauraWww@Answer-Health@Com
I need the same answer So far my life seems worthlessWww@Answer-Health@Com
People will come and go in your life you know!.!.!.
some of them are very important and rare cause even though all of 'em will be leaving a trace, only some of them will be leaving it permanently!.!.!. we don't know the future and we don't know what to believe but we will certainly make choices sometimes we regret and sometimes we even try our best to get to the top but it's just not enough!.!.!. all I can say is don't let other people bring you down!.!.!. If you believe in a God pray to him whatever religion you are!.!.!. I always find him and music is my addiction right now I don'tt know if i can call it a band but I play in some sort of catholic youth group and I hope you'll feel the way I do when I play for them to see them as my family since my real one is meh u know!.!.!. I just moved here 2 years ago and I did not know what to do back then life is harsh but we gotta keep moving forward!.!.!. try to experiment with life you'll find what you
re looking for somehow!.!.!. I hope i helped even by a bit! =)Www@Answer-Health@Com
some of them are very important and rare cause even though all of 'em will be leaving a trace, only some of them will be leaving it permanently!.!.!. we don't know the future and we don't know what to believe but we will certainly make choices sometimes we regret and sometimes we even try our best to get to the top but it's just not enough!.!.!. all I can say is don't let other people bring you down!.!.!. If you believe in a God pray to him whatever religion you are!.!.!. I always find him and music is my addiction right now I don'tt know if i can call it a band but I play in some sort of catholic youth group and I hope you'll feel the way I do when I play for them to see them as my family since my real one is meh u know!.!.!. I just moved here 2 years ago and I did not know what to do back then life is harsh but we gotta keep moving forward!.!.!. try to experiment with life you'll find what you
re looking for somehow!.!.!. I hope i helped even by a bit! =)Www@Answer-Health@Com