Is it possible to train myself to become asexual?!
Question: Is it possible to train myself to become asexual!?
I feel I would be so much more productive as an asexual!. Furthermore, i'm so awkward while dating girls it's not even funny!. My life would just be easier without the emotions tied to sex!. Can I train my self to become asexual!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
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SHEKILLS: I appreciate what you've said and agree; for me it would be impossible and I think I'm very much in the majority and it's impossible to train yourself to be asexual if this isn't natural!.!.!.you can't turn a heterosexual homosexual or vice-versa although many people are bisexual!.
As an aside: it's curious why most people who profess to be asexual are usually female and the significance of this I really don't know!.
I do know men in general have much more powerful sex drives than woman, and that certainly creates conflict!
I'M CURIOUS why some people would either fear or have a need to reject sex and intimate relations with others!? Emotion,drama,grief,happiness, sadness, etcetera are all equally part of what it means to be a human being and the best course for dealing with these emotions is to learn how to healthily deal with them: I think a desire or need to be asexual is a fanatical and extreme response, and to be "natually" asexual I think is something to seriously question!.
Our worlds greatest artists create their art under powerful emotions!.!.!.how many people here love songs that deal with sadness, grief, happiness, etcetera!? Probably everyone!. To me a person who professes asexuality or a lack of need for intimate relations with another human is souless!.
Also, I think for a female to nonchalantly impregnate herself shows little regard for the health and happiness of the child; children are mostly blank slates and they develop their attitudes especially regarding healthy socialization from their childhood environment!.!.!.!.an environment where they observe responsible adults who interact well with others and keep their neurosis under control is VERY IMPORTANT!.
Sex is an emotional act, the closest form of intimacy you can have with another human being; I don't know how you separate the emotional part of it if you're mentally healthy!.
I don't think asexuality is remotely healthy for human beings; sex and sexuality is one of the greatest forms of pleasure our creator gave to us and what we are able to give to others!.
To me life without sex or being asexual wouldn't be worth living!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
As an aside: it's curious why most people who profess to be asexual are usually female and the significance of this I really don't know!.
I do know men in general have much more powerful sex drives than woman, and that certainly creates conflict!
I'M CURIOUS why some people would either fear or have a need to reject sex and intimate relations with others!? Emotion,drama,grief,happiness, sadness, etcetera are all equally part of what it means to be a human being and the best course for dealing with these emotions is to learn how to healthily deal with them: I think a desire or need to be asexual is a fanatical and extreme response, and to be "natually" asexual I think is something to seriously question!.
Our worlds greatest artists create their art under powerful emotions!.!.!.how many people here love songs that deal with sadness, grief, happiness, etcetera!? Probably everyone!. To me a person who professes asexuality or a lack of need for intimate relations with another human is souless!.
Also, I think for a female to nonchalantly impregnate herself shows little regard for the health and happiness of the child; children are mostly blank slates and they develop their attitudes especially regarding healthy socialization from their childhood environment!.!.!.!.an environment where they observe responsible adults who interact well with others and keep their neurosis under control is VERY IMPORTANT!.
Sex is an emotional act, the closest form of intimacy you can have with another human being; I don't know how you separate the emotional part of it if you're mentally healthy!.
I don't think asexuality is remotely healthy for human beings; sex and sexuality is one of the greatest forms of pleasure our creator gave to us and what we are able to give to others!.
To me life without sex or being asexual wouldn't be worth living!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I'm a female who has trained myself to become "asexual" and extremely detached from my relationships!. As a female, my methods might not help you very much!.!.!.
First of all, it sounds like your problem has more to do with relating to girls, rather than with sex itself (unless you are an "addict" who constantly needs sexual attention)!. Do you really want to live life without sex!? Or are you simply looking to lower the number of interactions that you have with other females!?
Medication like prozac may help you out!.!.!. it lowers the libido (for some people it can lower the libido significantly), and it may also help you handle your emotions with more ease!. Also, I think it would be great if you could see a therapist or talk to someone about this!.
When I decided to remain single (three years and counting), I did it by choice and with full knowledge of what I was getting into and why I wanted to do it!. It helped that my reasons for doing it did not include fear (of dating/men/etc)!. I've simply decided to learn how to find fulfillment in my own life, I am also considering having children (without a husband or boyfriend)!.
The benefits of single life - no more emotional roller coasters, no more worries about cheating and/or getting a disease!. I do what I want, when I want (eg, When I had a boyfriend, it was always a certainty that we would watch the movie that he wanted to watch, or do the things that he wanted to do)!. Also, I feel much more financially secure after deciding not to marry!. With a strong career and a decent number of assets, I had to watch my back (yes, it's true, there are male gold-diggers out there)!. My relationships are better, and I'm confident that should I ever decide to take up a romantic relationship with someone, it will also be better!. Not being needy, feeling strong self-worth, and taking great care of myself makes me a better partner in a relationship!.
Best of luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
First of all, it sounds like your problem has more to do with relating to girls, rather than with sex itself (unless you are an "addict" who constantly needs sexual attention)!. Do you really want to live life without sex!? Or are you simply looking to lower the number of interactions that you have with other females!?
Medication like prozac may help you out!.!.!. it lowers the libido (for some people it can lower the libido significantly), and it may also help you handle your emotions with more ease!. Also, I think it would be great if you could see a therapist or talk to someone about this!.
When I decided to remain single (three years and counting), I did it by choice and with full knowledge of what I was getting into and why I wanted to do it!. It helped that my reasons for doing it did not include fear (of dating/men/etc)!. I've simply decided to learn how to find fulfillment in my own life, I am also considering having children (without a husband or boyfriend)!.
The benefits of single life - no more emotional roller coasters, no more worries about cheating and/or getting a disease!. I do what I want, when I want (eg, When I had a boyfriend, it was always a certainty that we would watch the movie that he wanted to watch, or do the things that he wanted to do)!. Also, I feel much more financially secure after deciding not to marry!. With a strong career and a decent number of assets, I had to watch my back (yes, it's true, there are male gold-diggers out there)!. My relationships are better, and I'm confident that should I ever decide to take up a romantic relationship with someone, it will also be better!. Not being needy, feeling strong self-worth, and taking great care of myself makes me a better partner in a relationship!.
Best of luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Generally sexuality is something you are born with and it's not particularly changeable!.!.!. Sorry!. :(
EDIT: to skinnyamerican - there are people out there who are truly asexual, no sexual feelings of any kind whatsoever!. And many are just fine with that!. Sex is not the only meaning to life!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
EDIT: to skinnyamerican - there are people out there who are truly asexual, no sexual feelings of any kind whatsoever!. And many are just fine with that!. Sex is not the only meaning to life!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
probably not!. repressing emotion is unhealthy!.
you can just choose how to react or not react in any given circumstance!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
you can just choose how to react or not react in any given circumstance!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I doubt it, but you can choose not to enter into emotional relationships!. A previous answer follows: Free advice, and a much larger range of websites than are permitted to be posted here, may be found in section 9, on social anxiety, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris Read that section, (and section 38, on self esteem, and confidence)!. Check out the extensive free email material De Angelo offers, and only then make your decision on the next logical step, of the 3 choices available, or just opt out; you know your personal circumstances best!. Then, in your position, I'd first take an escort out to a meal at a restaurant!.
Ask her how she, and other women would like to be approached!. What subjects to talk with women about, and what to avoid!. Where to go!. (Coffee involves little pressure, or committment, and you can often learn a lot in a short time about whether a relationship with that person is worth pursuing)!. Maybe a movie next time, or a meal!. I'd go on these "dry runs" at least 2, or 3 times!.
Expect many rejections; adopt De Angelo's approach, though, and go out with the sole purpose of approaching at least a dozen women, and saying, "Hi, my name's !?!?!?!?!?, and I'm out tonight meeting new people, and I thought you looked interesting, and attractive!. What should I call you!?" Ask for her email address, and give her a notepad, and pen; have no expectations - just see what happens!. Regard it as an opportunity to learn, and develop, or hone your social skills, not as a test you can fail!.
You may wish to have something to calm your nerves!. Try having a cup of "Tension Tamer", herbal tea, by Celestial Seasonings, (from supermarket tea, or health food aisles) or make some at home, and cool, then bottle, and drink as needed (I find it so strong tasting, that I need to drink it quickly, followed by something like fruit juice, to take away the taste, but others may find it more tolerable)!.
C(h)amomile tea is a more palatable option!. Herbal remedies, such as valerian, are often effective, but know how it affects you, first!. Avoid overuse of alcohol: it is counterproductive!. 1 - 2 drinks, at most! (not beer, because beer breath is a potential turnoff)!. There are many internet chatrooms where you can develop online skills, but these often don't translate well in real life situations!. Phone calls are a good next step!. Then coffee!.
Speed dating is an option for later, once you have developed your skillset!. If you aren't sexually experienced, this can be a big hurdle, later on!. One option is to get some experience with those who do it professionally, regard it as a form of therapy, perhaps, or just a bit of fun, but try to learn about how to satisfy a woman!. http://www!.askemilyanything/ and Y!A womens section, and books!.
Always ask what they like, and what they don't, and allow PLENTY of foreplay, allowing them let you know when they're ready, or waiting for at least 15 minutes!. Many women these days have certain minimal requirements of potential boyfriends, such as: 1) A place of his own!. 2) Full time employment!. 3) No drug problem!. Having a car can help, in some places!. Be cocky, and funny too, if possible!. Don't appear to be needy; it's a turnoff, as is a lack of confidence (see section 38)!. Dress for the venue, or occasion, and consider having a makeover!. Ask a number of people (not the girls you are trying to get to know, at least, not for some time) how they think you could look better; some should have a good suggestion, or two; most won't, though!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Ask her how she, and other women would like to be approached!. What subjects to talk with women about, and what to avoid!. Where to go!. (Coffee involves little pressure, or committment, and you can often learn a lot in a short time about whether a relationship with that person is worth pursuing)!. Maybe a movie next time, or a meal!. I'd go on these "dry runs" at least 2, or 3 times!.
Expect many rejections; adopt De Angelo's approach, though, and go out with the sole purpose of approaching at least a dozen women, and saying, "Hi, my name's !?!?!?!?!?, and I'm out tonight meeting new people, and I thought you looked interesting, and attractive!. What should I call you!?" Ask for her email address, and give her a notepad, and pen; have no expectations - just see what happens!. Regard it as an opportunity to learn, and develop, or hone your social skills, not as a test you can fail!.
You may wish to have something to calm your nerves!. Try having a cup of "Tension Tamer", herbal tea, by Celestial Seasonings, (from supermarket tea, or health food aisles) or make some at home, and cool, then bottle, and drink as needed (I find it so strong tasting, that I need to drink it quickly, followed by something like fruit juice, to take away the taste, but others may find it more tolerable)!.
C(h)amomile tea is a more palatable option!. Herbal remedies, such as valerian, are often effective, but know how it affects you, first!. Avoid overuse of alcohol: it is counterproductive!. 1 - 2 drinks, at most! (not beer, because beer breath is a potential turnoff)!. There are many internet chatrooms where you can develop online skills, but these often don't translate well in real life situations!. Phone calls are a good next step!. Then coffee!.
Speed dating is an option for later, once you have developed your skillset!. If you aren't sexually experienced, this can be a big hurdle, later on!. One option is to get some experience with those who do it professionally, regard it as a form of therapy, perhaps, or just a bit of fun, but try to learn about how to satisfy a woman!. http://www!.askemilyanything/ and Y!A womens section, and books!.
Always ask what they like, and what they don't, and allow PLENTY of foreplay, allowing them let you know when they're ready, or waiting for at least 15 minutes!. Many women these days have certain minimal requirements of potential boyfriends, such as: 1) A place of his own!. 2) Full time employment!. 3) No drug problem!. Having a car can help, in some places!. Be cocky, and funny too, if possible!. Don't appear to be needy; it's a turnoff, as is a lack of confidence (see section 38)!. Dress for the venue, or occasion, and consider having a makeover!. Ask a number of people (not the girls you are trying to get to know, at least, not for some time) how they think you could look better; some should have a good suggestion, or two; most won't, though!.Www@Answer-Health@Com