I think I screwed up- How do I redeem myself?!
Question: I think I screwed up- How do I redeem myself!?
I told my boyfriend of 7 years that my ex boyfriend emailed me (I don't like to hide things), but I said I deleted it and changed my email address, so all was ok!. Well, he told me it was more suspect that I changed my email address because it seems to have had a huge effect on me!. He's right, but I kept talking the issue to death, thinking he was going to leave me because I handled the situation poorly!. He kept telling me, "I haven't said anything about leaving you- I'm just saying you need to deal with it better when an ex-boyfriend contacts you"!. He wanted to get off the phone because he felt we were talking in circles, but I'm afraid I've wigged out so much that he won't want to call me!. He said we will talk today!. I deal with anxiety sometimes, and this isn't the first time we've been through this, but each time feels like the first time, and I'm afraid it's the time that will push him over the edge!. I just want to let this go and put it behind us!. Is there anything I can say or do to help this matter!?
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Don't bring it up again!. Go on like everything is normal!. Put it behind you!. Next time you talk to him ask how his day is going!. Ask how work went!. Ask about his Thanksgiving plans!. Ask if he is seeing his family!. Under no circumstances should you think even one thought about the ex-bf and e-mail situation!. Carry one like nothing ever happened!. It might be awkward at first, but move forward and don't talk about it!. That is the only way to put it behind you!. Good luck and have a happy Thanksgiving!. Www@Answer-Health@Com
just calm down!. you are taking this issue way to seriously!. if you guys have been going out for 7 years this issue shouldnt mess things up!. he was only telling you that you could have handled the situation better!. he was just saying his opinion that he thought you made a mistake but that was it!. he even told you he wasnt going to leave you so trust him and dont get yourself worked up over somthing that isnt even a big problem to begin with!. i hope everything works out, just relax!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Admit to the mistake - tell him that you've cut off contact between the ex, and assure him that he's the one you're crazy about!. Right now he's having trust issues - he wants to know that you're not screwing around!. Whatever you do, don't go on the defensive!. Let him brood, and he'll get over it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Time!.!.!.This happened to me and we fought for a while, but if you guys really love each other and its meant to be, then things will get better in time!. You might not talk to each other for a while or argue a lot, but in the end it should be better!. Good luck and i don't think you should get overly anxious on this subject!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
same thing happens with me but i show my boyfriend the things like the email or how many times my ex has called me i show him but he still gets really mad too!.but all you can really do is tell him that you don't care for your ex no more and you don't want to talk to you ex no more the only one you want to talk to is him just talk to him it always help trust me! it always happens to me it sucks but if you guys are meant to be together it will work and he will forgive you for it because it ain't like you went and talk to your face and he seen you or something but it will all get better Www@Answer-Health@Com