Help! I'm so anxious and really really mad at myself! I feel like an idiot a!


Question: Help! I'm so anxious and really really mad at myself! I feel like an idiot and cannot have fun!?
Ok, I'm in the Amway business, an IBO!. My job doesn't pay me enough money to meet my core volume every month!. My boyfriend is also in this biz with me as my downline sponsor and barely gets by with his job!. So, he and I came up with an idea of doing domestic jobs such as raking leaves to earn extra money!. I already earned $20 for raking my parent's yard!. I designed a flyer and decided to print out ten of them and took them to the business meeting!. During the break at the hotel, I handed out the flyers, and after that, my boyfriend and I left since it was getting late and we were hungry!. I thought I did good!. Later on that night, I was hanging out a my boyfriends and get a call from my upline sponsor Jason!. Jason said, "oh yeah for future reference, don't hand out flyers during our business meetings, it's not the best type of conduct, but don't worry, I didn't know that either!." So Jason also didn't know it was inappropriate!. Nobody got in trouble, it was an honest mistake, BUT ITS A MISTAKE THAT I CAN NEVER FORGIVE MYSELF FOR!!! I screwed up big time like I broke the law and need to be put in jail for the next ten years, and my boyfriend is telling me to calm down--HOW CAN I CALM DOWN!! I'm so angry and need to punish myself by not eating for a whole day--yes this is childish and crazy, but for some reason it feels good when I don't eat all day, and then I get bummed and feel guilty after I eat a nice meal!. I'm kicking myself in the @$$ while typing this at the same time!. I'm so sick of making mistakes!! I just want to do everything right and perfectly!!! I go through my day working, minding my own business and kick my own @$$ if something doesn't go exactly the way I want it and get angry and don't eat for a while cause I lose my appetite!. I'm such a total nutcase! Ugghh!.!.!.I'm at my wits end, I had two cups of coffee today and an energy drink, I wonder if all the caffeine is making more agitated!? I can't seem to sleep, I'm so wound up rite now!.Www@Answer-Health@Com


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You sound like how I feel sometimes! You have to learn to forgive yourself!. You learn from mistakes, and put them behind you!. Sometimes apologizing or laughing it off will help relieve some of the embarrassment!. Nobody is going to get you in trouble for passing out some fliers!. I'm sure they understand that you are just trying to make some money and it's not a big deal that you didn't know this particular policy!. Stop punishing yourself over it! It's not healthy to not eat and will accomplish nothing!. Maybe you should lay off the caffeine a bit too, it can only make you more anxious!. Actually send me an e-mail if you want, I am a very anxious person too, and looking for ways to feel better! Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Okay first of all you seem to have an extreme case of generalized anxiety disorder, anyone siffering fron that should never have caffeine because it heightens the anxiety by 10 times!. Also you should never punish yourself by not eating!. And for you to think that by passing out flyers at work you should be put in jail for 10 years is just crazy!. You did nothing wrong, you were not aware of that policy, so now you know and you wont do it again, its not like you got in any trouble!. You really need to get to a therapist and quick, I am wirried that if you keep going like this your going to drive yourself crazy!. I am a therapist and it seems like you have aery bad case of anxiety and need to talk through that, and why you have these feelings of inadequecy, maybe get on some medication to stabilize your moods out!. I hope this helps you an dplease calm down!. Ty not drinking and caffeine for the next couple of days and see how you do witht that, thats usually one of the first things I tell my clients with anxiety!. Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Boy are you your worst enemy!. nothing worst because you can't get away from it, it's constantly in your face, HEY! (I know cause I can sometime be exactly the same) Sounds like you need a break from the norm, there's so many different things out there!. there's more to life than being perfect, which I don't think anyone is, it just might look like it from the outside especially when you're so down on yourself!.

Try to plan something each week that's different to what you would normally do!. Maybe some out door stuff - fishing, walk by the water, make a sandcastle, bush walk, sit outside at night with a hot cuppa and watch the stars!. OR do some hand painting get messy have a water bomb fight in the back yard!. Get some really funny DVDs something you know will make you laugh, get some popcorn and try and throw it into each others mouth that makes me laugh!. After all as the old cliche goes 'laughter is the best medicine', go on laugh at yourself life doesn't have to be so serious!. Cheers Big Ears!n :)Www@Answer-Health@Com

You need to RELAX!. You are way too stressed about the negative things in your life!. Rather than punish yourself and dwell on the things that you do wrong, evaluate and learn from your mistakes!. You can't change the past, you can only learn from it and move ahead in your life with new knowledge!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





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