How do I reject someone without hurting there feelings or telling them the truth!


Question: How do I reject someone without hurting there feelings or telling them the truth!?
Okay, I have a CASA, which is a court appointed school advocate, but similar to a mentor!. (I'm a foster youth FYI)!.
Something really bad happened while I was with her about a month and a half ago, partly due to her negligence!. It is something that has devastated my life in the current!. I don't know how to tell her I don't want to go out with her any more!. I've tried cancelling with her over phone messages, but she shows up any way to pick me up!. It is really horrible!. I think she is hypothetically brain dead or something!. I'm not going to be honest and tell her that I was raped when I was with her!.
Help me!?!?!?Www@Answer-Health@Com


Answers:
Have your guardian at the current time try to get the CASA replaced by a different one and why!. Go to your counceler at school and bring this up as well!. Somehow get an adult to report this woman for not doing her job right!. It is possible; since you are a minor, that you have no say in whether she can or cannot see you-that may be why she still shows up!. So, by all means, get an adult who can help you in this matter!. And dont forget to bring this up when you talk to an adult about this: "How did you even get raped when you were with her"!? -Maybe that will clue that person in on how unprofessional and irresponsible she is in the position she holds!.
On the other hand; if she did not know that you were somehow raped and you were WITH her, that is her fault!. Know why!? she should have been more responsible with you while you were with her in order to prevent such an event from happening!.
keep trying every adult you can think of until one decides to help you in you getting transferred to another CASA and her a$$ getting reported! No excuse why this happened to you! Anyway, before I get too peeved; just be persistant until an adult helps you!. Be heard!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Make up an extremely good excuse, like you have a disease or something!.

It sounds like a bad idea that could destroy you in the end though, so truth or hurting their feeling is probably the safest way!.

I wish life was easier :(Www@Answer-Health@Com

No pain!.No gain!.

There is no other way to do this!.You would be doing her a favor because she will stop wasting her and your time trying to maintain a connection with you that is not really there!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

That makes no sense!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Well-why not-she is supposed to be an advocate for you - appointed by the court!. Although I'm not sure how the situation was "partly due to her negligence"!. If she was involved- you can tell someone else in CASA!. If not- how was it her fault!? and why didn't you tell as soon as something happened!? the longer you let it go, the less credible your story!. And as it happened a month and a half ago- there is no physical evidence!. I don't think she's brain dead - she just has no idea - and you are not providing information that anything is wrong, and she is obligated by the court to meet with you!. How were you somewhere that a rape could have taken place!?
I don't know how old you are - but you need to tell someone- have you considered that you could be pregnant!? Www@Answer-Health@Com

I am sorry for the assault you endured!. Perhaps you should call HER superior and explain what happened and how it was due to her negligence!. You need help as this will have life time implications if left unaddressed!. Do you have mandated counseling hours!? See your school social worker if you don't and tell her you are in crisis!. The social worker can take care of all of it so you don't have to deal with talking to people!. You need a responsible CASA!. I wish I could help you!. You have been a victim of so many people it must be difficult to be assertive!. Not everyone is incompetent and weak like your advocate who allows you to be in a situation were you were sexually assaulted!. You need to tell someone who can help you!. Your advocate is not YOUR advocate!. Tell the social worker!. The advocate won't advocate for you when her job is shaky!. Tell someone who can help!. Don't victimize yourself!. Good luck- you will be a great and powerful woman SOON, start the habit now :)Www@Answer-Health@Com





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