Bad memories? Please help?!
Question: Bad memories!? Please help!?
Okay well my family has had a terrible past when if comes to my sister!. She is currently 20 and I am currently 16!.
My sister is bi-polar and, for the past four years, we have had to deal with her!.
She was aggressive, both verbally and physically!. At least once every few days she would start a huge fight!. The police had been called SEVEN times and she has been taken away three out of those seven times!.
I had to take her down multiple times when she tried to attack my parents!. I even had to disarm her when she attempted to attach them with a knife!. That incident only happened about a year ago!.
Currently, she is living at home and I believe that she has learned to control herself!. Yet, I still keep getting flashbacks of all of the fights!. When this happens, I become very angry with her (only inwardly)!.
What can I do to get rid of those memories!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
My sister is bi-polar and, for the past four years, we have had to deal with her!.
She was aggressive, both verbally and physically!. At least once every few days she would start a huge fight!. The police had been called SEVEN times and she has been taken away three out of those seven times!.
I had to take her down multiple times when she tried to attack my parents!. I even had to disarm her when she attempted to attach them with a knife!. That incident only happened about a year ago!.
Currently, she is living at home and I believe that she has learned to control herself!. Yet, I still keep getting flashbacks of all of the fights!. When this happens, I become very angry with her (only inwardly)!.
What can I do to get rid of those memories!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
well unfortunately you can't get rid of your memories!. You can try but it wont be any good!. Believe me i've tried to get rid of my bad memories but it didn't work!. The best answer i can give to you is learn to forgive her!. Your sister can't control the fact that she has bi-polar, and it wont help you if you get angry from the flashbacks!. Just give it time those memories will fade!. All i can say is to love your sister anyway!.!.!.im sure she feels bad about what happened in the past!. But that's the thing its the past you cant change what's already happened!. What's done is done!.!.!.!.!.just move on!. I hope I've helped you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Try to redirect your thoughts when you start to think about what happened in the past and try to focus on the positive events of the future!. You'll never forget what happened, but try not to hold her past actions against her because she was mentally ill at the time she did what she did!. In time, when she shows you she has changed, maybe you can put it aside and move forward!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Make new ones!. You can never get rid of memories just forget about them!.!.!.you'll have to take that sentence in very deeply to understand it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
beta-blockers will help you suppress the memory Www@Answer-Health@Com
when the memories come back try to think of other thingsWww@Answer-Health@Com
I dealt with similar things as a child and adolescent!. im actually dealing with them again as an adult!. My mother died and my sis dint take it to well!. But anyway, the memories will not neceeasrity "go away", but over time will become less painful!. However, for that to occour, the healing process has to start!.
For you, i'd talk to a professional!. Maybe there is some kind of program you can attend to learn how to manage your reactions/flashbacks!. Even if its just ONE session, i promise you'll leave with a new perspective, or at tlest some ideas!.
For the rest of the fam, i'd siggest the same, particularly for the sister, since she's the focus!.
I havr to go now, but i hope you get waht you need to be happy, inside your hart, and inside your soul!. Email me anytime, if you feel comfy!.!.!.!.
Have agood weeknd, ill check up later!
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For you, i'd talk to a professional!. Maybe there is some kind of program you can attend to learn how to manage your reactions/flashbacks!. Even if its just ONE session, i promise you'll leave with a new perspective, or at tlest some ideas!.
For the rest of the fam, i'd siggest the same, particularly for the sister, since she's the focus!.
I havr to go now, but i hope you get waht you need to be happy, inside your hart, and inside your soul!. Email me anytime, if you feel comfy!.!.!.!.
Have agood weeknd, ill check up later!
BananasWww@Answer-Health@Com