How can I deal with this stress without it ruining my relationship?!


Question: How can I deal with this stress without it ruining my relationship!?
My boyfriend and I have been dating for the past 3 years!. We plan to get married in the future!. Right now, we're having serious money issues were we owe the bank $1,000 in overdraft!. We were just trying to pay the bills and not be homeless!. We were in a car accident at the beginning of the year!. This messed his mind up!. He gets stressed and frustrated very quickly about very small things!. Example: If he can't open a jar right away, he'll get frustrated and almost breakdown!. It's been like this all year!. I've been making all the decisions, big and little!. We got evicted out of our apartment that his father owned!. We had to get rid of our dog that we've had for years!. We moved into the upstairs of my grandfather's home!. Then we got called to court for being a slum lord on the apartment we were evicted from! Apparently my boyfriend's name was on the deed and morgage without him knowing!. We put alot of money into the house to fix it and not go to jail just for the bank to take the house!. My boyfriend still can't make simple decisions!. He always asks me questions and is always saying "What do you mean!?" and "I don't understand" when it's very simple things that a 3 year old would understand!. The small questions annoy me but he makes dangerous decisions like going to sell dvds on craigslist and going into a very gang filled area and walking into the strangers home alone, with no cell phone or weapon!. He didn't get hurt in the car accident!. Didn't hit his head!. I can't handle this anymore!. We've been fighting alot!. I can't stand when he asks me questions anymore!. I hate making all the decisions!. I love him!. I don't want to leave him!. How can I handle this stress!? Www@Answer-Health@Com


Answers:
Hey hun,

A part of being in a committed relationship is to be with each other during good times and hard times!. I'm assuming that your boyfriend is probably losing his confidence as a man for not being able to support you!. One thing you can do is show more support to him for rebuilding his confidence!. For example, instead of telling him what to do, hint it to him, and flirt with him!. Show him that you still respect him!.

However, this is a test for your relationship!. Later in the future, there will be more challenges and if you were to decide to get married, there probably will be kids involved!. If he can't handle situations like this and making you do all the thinking, then you should ask yourself, can you endure this forever!?

If he's already like this, chances are, he won't change!. I was in a 4 year committed relationship and every time things go bad, he left me to do all the solving!. I was not happy anymore and decided to leave!. I was sad, but I thought it was the right decision for me!.

Be kind to yourself!. If you're frustrated and unhappy, he won't be happy either, and it won't be a healthy relationship!. Don't worry about him, think about what's best for yourself first!.

Again, please be kind to yourself and love yourself!. You better cry after 3 years than cry every single day for 25 years!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

You are a control freak and he'd be better off without your hyperactive personal management!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

im sorry , to hear that but i think you should break up with him!. sorry but i think he isn't goiod energy for you,Www@Answer-Health@Com

Trust in Jesus and he will pull you through!. If you haven't already accept Jesus as your personal savoir and follow him!. Follow the way he did things while he was here!. We as humans get down sometimes and if you don't have Jesus in your life sometimes youll find yourself giving up!. But Jesus can take all the pain that your going through in your life and make it go away!. Follow the rightous words of the Holy Bible!. Jesus is the way!.
32Behold, the hour cometh, yea, is now come, that ye shall be scattered, every man to his own, and shall leave me alone: and yet I am not alone, because the Father is with me!.

33These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace!. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world!.

John 16:32-33

22And ye now therefore have sorrow: but I will see you again, and your heart shall rejoice, and your joy no man taketh from you!.

23And in that day ye shall ask me nothing!. Verily, verily, I say unto you, Whatsoever ye shall ask the Father in my name, he will give it you!.

24Hitherto have ye asked nothing in my name: ask, and ye shall receive, that your joy may be full!.

John 16:22-24

If you want to talk im on yahoo right now, and if im not just leave a message i will get it!. My yahoo messenger name is livebythegospel
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