Why do i hate myself so much?!
Question: Why do i hate myself so much!?
Im 14!. and im screwed up!. im always either too fat!. too ugly!. too un-popular!. and too dumb!. i think about how the world would be better if i would just die, and cry alot because i wish i were never born!. and my life isnt absolutely horrible!. i mean i have a boyfriend who i really like, but i never see him!. My friends from last year are more popular than me this year and we dont get to hang out during the day because they are always with another group!. I know my parents love me, but it just never seems good enough!. But a big problem that i hate dealing with is the fact i dont fit in!. There are approximately 5 different groups at my school!. There are really popular girls who always have some boyfriend!. there are the girls who all know each other from another school, there are the sweet girls who always do things right and are really christian!. there are the sports people and then the nerds!. i dont fit in anywhere!. And the whole fat/ugly thing idk im just messed up!. i am 5'3" and 107 llbs but i ALWAYS feel fat!. If i eat something then i'll feel gross until im hungry again which is when i feel!.!.!.clean!? idk if thats the rite word!. but then im never good enough!. People at my school are uber-smart and i never get great grades!. like an 85 would be good for me!. So i took a chemistry test a week ago and got an 82, while my locker neighbor got a 106!.5 and was like "that was so easy!. what did you get!?" and i told her and she' slike "wow!.!.!.did you even study!?" (which i did) and people ALWAYS tell me how dumb i am I get comments like "Wow, i never knew you could be that organized" and "Omg! you ACTUALLY did your homework!"!.!.!. etc!.!.!.Whats wrong with me!?And how can i get rid of this constant negativity!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
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I'm 13 weigh 106 lbs and am 5'2"!. I don't consider myself fat!. You shouldn't either!. I have kind of the same problem but I don't exactly hate myself!. I have a few friends that are like me, but some of my old friends are like way popular and I have to agree that all the popular girls at school have boyfriends and can actually be a bit of a b**** sometimes!. I'm a cheerleader and I have 1 friend that is also a cheerleader!. We both think the cheerleaders are snobby and won't give anybody the time of day that isn't popular!. They will all be in a group and talking and stuff and me and my friend will just be standing there looking at them and they don't even notice!. School is a really hard place and sometimes I feel like I don't fit in!. Sometimes I think I'm ugly, fat, and don't fit in!. That's why I try to stay on the positive!. At least you have a boyfriend, but if you never see him I don't see why you should be together, because that is not how a relationship should work!. Just try sitting with different people there has to be a couple of people that like you and want to be your friend!. It isn't that hard! I also get test scores like you, but I still am ok with it, because it is just a B!. If I got a C or D, then I would be freaking out!. It also isn't stupid to do your homework, because if you do your homework that raises your grade, and if the girls that say they don't do their homework probably don't have such a good grade!. Just look at the brighter side of things: you aren't ugly!. You aren't fat!. And you are not dumb!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Its because 14 is a very hard age, thats all there is to it!. Dont be so hard on yourself!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
First of all your not fat!. 107 is not fat!. Second, all the feelings your wrote show promise of a great writer!. Not everybody is going to get everything at the same time!. Focus your time on something you like to do!. Start a club or a group with people who have the same interest!. Write a book about your life or a dairy!. Don't always think people are being negative!. Only positive people get what they want!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
you need to think on the bright side!. you are not fat and many people don't feel like they fit in to the popular crowd in school or in other places where there are groups of people!. when you starve yourself you actually gain weight because your metabolism will slow down, the human body is not stupid!. i will pray for you!. i don't even have a boyfriend and i am 17 and i do not plan on getting one!. try to get God in your life, you won't be negative anymore!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Just don't let everything get to you!. you are soooo young!. don't let all of the things that are coming your way bother you!. im 21 and wish i never even thought about half of the things i used to worry about!. everything at that age seems so important!.!.!.but to be honest!.!.!.i don't even remember most of my teen years!. i do remember being stressed and tense about everything!.!.!.which again, i regret doing!. so just take it easy and don't let anything bother you!. you are so young!.!.!.you need time to grow up and mature (both mentally and pysically!. i never had a figure or that girly look to me until i was around 18 and 19!. i also found myself around 19 and 20 years old!. so don't get too upset over anything!. TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF NOW!. Eat Right and don't worry about all that drama!. good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
OH dear! ok, first!. calm down! look, you're not the first one to hate your life!. I did when i was in 5th grade!. other kids would still play with toys and i was already thinking of suicide and stuff!. i would look at the floor on the first story of my house, standing in the edge of the stairs from the second story and imagined what would happen if i threw myself!.!.!. I was different, and felt alone!. kids would be mean to me all the time!.!.!. i was the boy's favorite victim and the girls i used to consider my friends betrayed me and made me realize how they were tricking me!.!.!. I had left my other friends for them, and was now getting it back to me!.!.!.My mother would work all the time and my father doesn't give a damn about whatever happens in my emotional life!.!.!. i used to arrive to my room to cry every single day!.!.!. But then, I saw the light!.!.!. God finally heard me and gave me something amazing!.!.!. Strenght!. I needed it so badly! Sorry if I sound too religious, but I know that if it weren't because of him, I wouldn't have lasted another day and would've killed myself in an imprudent act!. I gathered everything I had to survive each day, and I was able to last far more!.!.!. It was hard and I was feeble in my purpose too many times, yet I stood back up!.!.!. One day, a male friend of mine gave away the girls that betrayed me to the principal and they got into trouble!.!.!. Since then, nothing they ever tried to do to me was enough to make me cry anymore!. I started to get along better with the boys!. Nowadays I'm practically a thomboy because I spent my time with guys!. I got back my previous, true friends!. My mom got another job and had far more time to be with me, and was so helpful to me! I started to feel so close to God since then!.!.!. so many things happened!.!.!. The thing is, that it was (THANKFULLY) over!. And you'll see that thing will get a bit better for you too, but you ought to hang in there and do something!. The first thing you ought to do is to not hate yourself!. You cannot blame yourself for the things that happened that were out of your control!. I don't care what people think of me (to a certain point, of course, not completely) and that helps me be myself!. I still only have a few friends, but they're true!.And I thank God I have them!. Why in the world want to be popular!? To be popular, you have to be like the rest!. And you know!? Just because the majority does it, it doesn't mean it's OK to do it!. I like being honest, I'm not a girl that dies to have a boyfriend, I don't want anything other than friendship with the stupid guys at school and they all find it hard to believe, I never do homeworks for others nor do I let them copy from me in tests!. I like honesty!. I can sleep better like that!. I hate to wake up early, and I freaking refuse to wake up at 5 (my classes start at 7 am!) to straighten my hair! I just wake up at 6:20 and simply do a ponytail, gee, it's not like i have to look good for school anyway! and the ones that judge appearance are the shallowest people ever! they're empty and WORTHLESS! why care for their opinion!?! since when do opinions are worth anything!?! if YOU don't feel comfortable about yourself, then just exercise! no need to go through anorexic diets nor hate yourself for eating! everyone eats! just have a healthy diet!. eat fruits and vegetables in creative ways! don't look to fit in a group if you feel you don;t naturally!. there MUST be someone for you to hang out with!. and if there actually isn't anyone at your school then just take a book with you to read, really!. show them you're independent and that they don't rule your self esteem!. if you want to look nice, then look nice and if you want to look nice because others do, then better don't!.!.!. really, that WON'T help your self esteem!. in fact, use your free time to study if you feel you don't study!. and if you do, then just pay more attention to class, and if you already do, then find new ways to take more effective notes and use different methods to study, there IS one for you!. you aren't stupid unless you think you're one! you ought to say: I'M NOT STUPID, I CAN DO IT, I'M STRONG, I WILL HANG IN THERE, I WILL NOT LET THEM CONTROL MY SELFESTEEM AND I HAVE THE WILL TO LIVE ON WITH COURAGE!! I'm different from the rest (as you probably already know) and I get called weirdo a lot!. and i ALWAYS take it as a compliment!. Being different means you're special, unique, and therefore far more interesting!. People that judge all of this and mock this sort of thinking are the ones that deserve to be called STUPID! they're empty people that aren't worth anything!. you are better, and they can tell, so they try to bring you down!. so you're at the bottom with them!. but you ought to fight! you need to gather your strenght!. as with the boyfriend issue, i think you need to clear things with him, and if it's impossible, then don't cling too much to it!. you're very young, you have so many things to do!. you don't need a boyfriend, it's just time consuming!. save iWww@Answer-Health@Com
i think its because u r over-centered to your negativity itself!. Get a happier life, u should think that u were born to this world with some reason that God had been made!. U r ugly or fat or else are just what people say!. People can say anything but u have to make filters for the trashes theyve ever spoken and un-built your confidence!. u r worth honey!.!. show the world u r worth!.!.
stop thinking about ur ugliness, that wastes time!. think theres someone out there needs u!. Dont think of what the world can give u!. Think about what u can give for the people around u!. Do ur hobbies, show ur hidden talents, believe u can be a btter girl and stay happy!Www@Answer-Health@Com
stop thinking about ur ugliness, that wastes time!. think theres someone out there needs u!. Dont think of what the world can give u!. Think about what u can give for the people around u!. Do ur hobbies, show ur hidden talents, believe u can be a btter girl and stay happy!Www@Answer-Health@Com