You think its emotional abuse?!
Question: You think its emotional abuse!?
My parents have hit me before in the past not many times but enough to get scared when they get mad but it wasnt a regular thing!. But my parents have done things to me that messed with me emotionally that i know has made bad impacts on me!. I was always a very hyper child and my mom couldnt take that and said that there was something wrong with me and there was a time when she told me she was sending me away to a place where the "bad" kids go and i was only about 7 i think around there, and i was scared out of my mind!. but she didnt!. and i know i wasnt really that bad just kinda have an attitude but im still like that and when i wanted to do a sport they told me that i couldnt (wasnt good enough to be able to do it) or that i was too fat for it (i wanted to do dance and gymnastics)!. and i never had a relationship with my dad cuz he would pick on me and say that i was fat (I WASNT EVEN maybe just had about 10 pounds over but i was young) i would make them things and bring home work and i was never good they blew me off!. when i got older i wasnt allowed to like what i like as in clothes movies music was huge!. and it wasnt anything that a parent should worry about!. they never noticed anything important happening to me during my teens or even told me about "life" and they did other things to that affect and i know it sounds kinda like im whining that my parents didnt give me enough love but they really didnt i think its made a bad impact on me i feel very uncomfortable showing ppl how i feel!. and i have a cousin that im close to and when wed get off the phone she'll say i love u but i feel soo weird saying it to her and dont like to!. and i tend to treat my mom badly even tho shes not doing anything like that at the moment u think its unconsciously from my past cuz i feel bad about it she doesnt really know what she did to me!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
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You cannot control what other people think, feel, or do!. That includes your parents!. You can try to say something, but don't be surprised if they don't listen to you!. Look at the facts, not the fantasy!. If your mom has never been willing to listen to you, chances are she's not going to start today!.
Do the work yourself!. Yes, we sometimes get dealt tough cards in life, but we have resources!. I have been seeing a therapist for a while now, and that has helped me tremendously!. I am so much more aware of my actions and care a lot less about what other people do!. I cannot control my parents actions, so why even try!? It'll only get me worked up!.
Also, read "The Four Agreements"!. Its not a religious book at all, don't worry!. It is merely about your perspective on life and will truly change how you feel about yourself and others!.
The gift out of all of this mess that you grew up with is that you have the opportunity to change it!. You don't have to do the same things to your future kids as your parents did to you!. Allow yourself to feel your feelings, don't discount them, and trust that it will all work out if you do the footwork!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Do the work yourself!. Yes, we sometimes get dealt tough cards in life, but we have resources!. I have been seeing a therapist for a while now, and that has helped me tremendously!. I am so much more aware of my actions and care a lot less about what other people do!. I cannot control my parents actions, so why even try!? It'll only get me worked up!.
Also, read "The Four Agreements"!. Its not a religious book at all, don't worry!. It is merely about your perspective on life and will truly change how you feel about yourself and others!.
The gift out of all of this mess that you grew up with is that you have the opportunity to change it!. You don't have to do the same things to your future kids as your parents did to you!. Allow yourself to feel your feelings, don't discount them, and trust that it will all work out if you do the footwork!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
something you think mean coming from a parent is way different then it coming from a friend!. They just care and want whats bestWww@Answer-Health@Com
From what your describing what your parents put you through it sounds like it too me that it is emotional abuse!. Do you have ADHD since you said you were a very hyper child!? Would family counseling help you and your parents get along better!? Do they treat you better now since you grown up!? It's almost Christmas how do they treat you during the holidays!? I wish you and your family the best!. Just know that you can do anything you put your mind to!. Giving you encouragement and praise that you probably didn't get from your parents much!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
yes, I say try to talk to them, but dont loose yourself!.What I mean by that it hurt me for years and years even after I grew up that I had a bad relationship with my mother, but when I was I finally had enough!. I am so much better off without her!.I was sad not to have her in my life but when she was in it, it was worse!.Im not saying disconnect w/them as soon as you can because maybe there is hope and maybe they dont even realize what there doing but I would try to talk with them!.Then you will know in your heart what is right for you!.Best of luckWww@Answer-Health@Com
i can totally relate to your story!.!.!. it's almost identical to mine!.!.!.!.
i consider mine emotional abuse just because i've become slightly depressed over it!.!.!.
i've changed for the worse!. you seem to have also!. you should see a counselor!. it could help you reach inside and pull your feelings outWww@Answer-Health@Com
i consider mine emotional abuse just because i've become slightly depressed over it!.!.!.
i've changed for the worse!. you seem to have also!. you should see a counselor!. it could help you reach inside and pull your feelings outWww@Answer-Health@Com