Is my marriage over with?!
Question: Is my marriage over with!?
I am 25 and my husband is 28, we have been married for 4 years!. we love each other so much its sick(in a good way)!. Recently about 2 months ago i made a huge mistake of having a one night stand!.I have been under a lot of stress lately!. I told him about it myself & he flipped at me(understandable)!. I have been regretting it ever since & am doing everything to win his trust back!. He can bearly touch me anymore let alone have a proper conversation with me, although he still sleeps with me when he feels like it!. I packed everything from NY & moved to New Jersey to live with him, and still travel to the city to work which is hard!. Will he ever b the way we use to be with each other or is it all over for us!?
Thanks in advance
and please no 'why did you cheat if you loved him' replies!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Thanks in advance
and please no 'why did you cheat if you loved him' replies!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
I think he'll always be hurt by why you did, but as long as you're both willing to work on it I think you can have a happy, healthy relationship again!.
Don't expect to earn his trust anytime soon, it's only been a few months!. It'll take months and months to start to repair the damage!. I know you're genuinely sorry, and mistakes happen, and I hope you and your husband can work on it!. You have to let your husband know you're sorry while not allowing yourself to be a doormat!. Don't let him treat you badly because you feel bad about what you did!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Don't expect to earn his trust anytime soon, it's only been a few months!. It'll take months and months to start to repair the damage!. I know you're genuinely sorry, and mistakes happen, and I hope you and your husband can work on it!. You have to let your husband know you're sorry while not allowing yourself to be a doormat!. Don't let him treat you badly because you feel bad about what you did!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i think the best way you can do is talk to him about it, told him you felt sorry about it & you will not do it again, you have to have an extra effort to win his trust again!. but it will take time for guys its hard to accept if we commit mistake , so you can t blame him for that matter, talk to him!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Mistakes happen DONT do it again though I am pretty sure you won't!.
go see a marriage councilor!.!.its obvious your husband is hurt and is just lashing out at you every moment he questions your love!.!.
Time does not heal!.!.!.but talking it out with a Professional and working on your marriage will!.
so resuscitate this marriage!.!.and keep it on life support!.!.!.gruel it out you were in the wrong and must make amends to the marriage/Www@Answer-Health@Com
go see a marriage councilor!.!.its obvious your husband is hurt and is just lashing out at you every moment he questions your love!.!.
Time does not heal!.!.!.but talking it out with a Professional and working on your marriage will!.
so resuscitate this marriage!.!.and keep it on life support!.!.!.gruel it out you were in the wrong and must make amends to the marriage/Www@Answer-Health@Com
well, i understand you must have got drunk and off your face and had sex with another guy, which is horrible, and it may be the same!. You will just have to wait and see!. Time will tell, and it heals everything!. As long as you never come close to doing anything like that again!. Maybe next time play it safe and just stay home!. But try your best to stay together!. good luck and best of luck :-)Www@Answer-Health@Com
seems to me like he does not deserve you!.
you can not cheat on someone then expect every thing to be ok!.
and what kind of excuse is "I have been under a lot of stress lately!."Www@Answer-Health@Com
you can not cheat on someone then expect every thing to be ok!.
and what kind of excuse is "I have been under a lot of stress lately!."Www@Answer-Health@Com
No he will never get over it!. Unless of course he gets to have a one night stand of his own and that still may not do it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I have known lots of people whose marriage has broken up due to that third person coming into it even though only on a one night stand give the man a break and tell him you are leaving ~~Www@Answer-Health@Com
NO, i dont think it will ever be the sameWww@Answer-Health@Com
Likely, it will never be the same, but I would not say its 100% over!.
He has a reason to no longer trust you, sad as that is!. Trust is stretched many times but only broken once!. If he truly did care for you you've betrayed his emotions, etc!. etc!.
Stress has nothing to do with how he will think of the situation!. I'm sure there has been times where he, too, has been under stress, but you were probably what got him through!.
Good luck I wish you the best, but this is a strain that most people do not ever completely recover from, even if it is swept under the rug for years following!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
He has a reason to no longer trust you, sad as that is!. Trust is stretched many times but only broken once!. If he truly did care for you you've betrayed his emotions, etc!. etc!.
Stress has nothing to do with how he will think of the situation!. I'm sure there has been times where he, too, has been under stress, but you were probably what got him through!.
Good luck I wish you the best, but this is a strain that most people do not ever completely recover from, even if it is swept under the rug for years following!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
hey look things happen!. especially things that you would never do intentionally!. it is gonna take a lot of time for you to win his trust again but just stick to it!. although he has a right to be angry and untrustworthy of you, if he majorly disrespects you then you should stand up for yourself- only if you have a valid point!. however you ask if things will go back to normal- it is a maybe- it depends on how much you want it and how much you think he loved you before!. but im confident that with hard consistent work you should have your marriage back on track soon!.
p!.s!. make sure he knows how sorry you are!Www@Answer-Health@Com
p!.s!. make sure he knows how sorry you are!Www@Answer-Health@Com
I wish I could say that it will be the same but it's probably not going to be!. It depends on his character as well!.!.!.whether he can forgive and forget which is a very scarce trait i'm afraid!.
Sometimes it's better not to say anything at all, because sometimes confessions benefit the cheaters rather than the betrayed!. But no use crying over spilled milk!. You'll have to work extra hard to mend the relationship and unfortunately it's not in your hands to do so!. He's the one that has to accept it, live with it and forgive you!. Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Sometimes it's better not to say anything at all, because sometimes confessions benefit the cheaters rather than the betrayed!. But no use crying over spilled milk!. You'll have to work extra hard to mend the relationship and unfortunately it's not in your hands to do so!. He's the one that has to accept it, live with it and forgive you!. Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
i don't think it can ever be the same after something like that happens!. he will always be suspicious and worried now if you are going to do it again!. and if you were so much in love he will wonder why it happened and that will eat him up inside!. he will be worried that every time you are under stress you will go and do the same thing again!. no matter how many times you say sorry and say you will never do it again he will not believe that!. if you truly loved him and your marriage had no problems then you would not have done something so stupid!. but you know your mistake and i know you are sorry but i doubt that will cut it with him!. because he is so upset and angry over what happened he will probably never treat you the same- how could he!? maybe marriage counseling would help!.Www@Answer-Health@Com