Is my marriage over??!


Question: Is my marriage over!?!?
I am 25 and my husband is 28, we have been married for 4 years!. we love each other so much its sick(in a good way)!. Recently about 2 months ago i made a huge mistake of having a one night stand!.I have been under a lot of stress lately!. I told him about it myself & he flipped at me(understandable)!. I have been regretting it ever since & am doing everything to win his trust back!. He can bearly touch me anymore let alone have a proper conversation with me, although he still sleeps with me when he feels like it!. I packed everything from NY & moved to New Jersey to live with him, and still travel to the city to work which is hard!. Will we ever be the way we use to be with each other or is it all over for us!? He is the only stable man i have in my life as my dad is very dangerous & has been in jail since i was a child & my mother died of an over dose when i was 16, so he has always been there for me and i owe him so much!

Thanks in advance
and please no 'why did you cheat if you loved him' replies!Www@Answer-Health@Com


Answers:
well ive been in the same boat you are in right now!. so i know how you feel!. you cant really answer a "if you loved him, why cheat!?" kind of question, because there really isnt an answer!.

my only advise to you, is keep communication going as much as possible!. and dont try to play the victim because you feel bad!. be an adult, and hopefully he will see your maturity and do the same!.

also, i would recommend a marriage counsler!. they really do help!.!.!.!.ALOT!. its kind of embarrassing going and blabbing about personal things but they really do see both sides and help you out!.

whats done is done!. you cant take it back!. you know that, and im sure he does too!.

you just have to go from the present, and see what happens!. feel free to email me if you wanna talk!. im a good listener!.
good luck :)Www@Answer-Health@Com

It seems as if your marriage depends on if or when he will unconditionally forgive you!.
Two months is a relatively short period of time for him to get over it, regardless of what you're doing to win back his trust!.
If there is still a chance he wants to remain with you, marriage counseling may be your only hope!.
I hope things work out for you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

marriage counseling is def the best way to start sorting things out and laying all the cards out on the table to see what you have to work with from an unbiased opinion!.I would give him the option of best choice since guys aren't warm to counseling!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

thats terrible what you did !.!.!.!.
your poor husband you betrayd him how is he supposed to feel sweetie
you both just really need to talk
sit him down and tell him you dont want to be guessing what the next step is
tell him you are sincere
make sure he knows it
and just pray to Jesus for this marriage
he is truly the only one who can save it sweetieWww@Answer-Health@Com

Only your husband knows for sure!.
Really!.!.!.and Respectfully!.!.!.
forgiveness starts with him!.
I pray for your marriage!.
May the Lord bless it with truth and His love!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

There is hope if both you and your husband want to work on the marriage!. It sounds like your husband is still staying in the fight!. Get some marriage counselingWww@Answer-Health@Com

I've been told counseling works wonders in terms of getting it it all out of your system!. Consider it, it's definitely worth saving!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

well really "I was stressed is a crap excuse"
but yes I imagine its not going to work out because this will always come up when every you do something like going out for long time & when you guys fightWww@Answer-Health@Com

its not
i think perhaps counselling could work or if you took a trip together!.
good luck xxxWww@Answer-Health@Com

You betrayed his trust by cheating on him and some people can never get over that!.

Personally, if someone ever cheated on me I'd throw their *** out of my house!. I don't know what he's like so I don't know but it sounds like he can't get over it and you can't help that!. When you trust someone and they go and cheat on you it's hard to ever believe and trust that person again, and personally I chose to not deal with that bullshit!.

I mean if he can hardly touch you that tells me you really, really hurt him!. Sometimes you just have to leave, just because someone has always been there for you doesn't mean you have to be with them forever!. The past is the past, yes maybe he helped you through a lot but I think you threw your marriage down the toilet by cheating on him because he obviously is not responding well to this ordeal!. It's been 2 months and he's not over it, I don't think he will get over it!.

And maybe it's for the best you part ways!. Just for example, my boyfriend's dad cheated on his mom!. His mom now watches him like a hawk, he can't use the computer alone EVER, and he has no freedom!. And is it really worth staying with someone who is never going to trust you again!?Www@Answer-Health@Com

Things are never going to be the same between you two and he may never trust you again!. It's blunt but its true, you made a BIG mistake, one you can never take back and one that will forever effect your marriage!. If you cheated on him then there must be some sort of resentment deep down inside of you, people who are in love do not do that to each other no reason!.

I wish you the best of luck, but you have to deal with any consequence that comes of this!.!.!.because well it's your fault!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





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