My ex girlfriend has borderline personality disorder? am i right and should i te!
Question: My ex girlfriend has borderline personality disorder!? am i right and should i tell her that!?
well this is what i have observed on my ex-girlfriend!. We were in a On and off relationship!. She suddenly had feelings for her ex and then she still chooses me over him!. She fell out of love on me and then she falls in love with me again(thats the cycle)!. She has been sexually abused in the past and she had a broken family, her first boyfriend treated her really bad and abused her!. I was her 2nd boyfriend, at first she was very clingy to the extent that i can't do anything else, if i prioritize something then she'll break up with me, then all of a sudden she becomes happy go lucky and chooses to enjoy her life with her ex's peers over me and one of her ex's friends liked her and she liked him too!. she said she wanted attention and even if it means taking me for granted as if she doesn't care!. She always made me feel like crap and everytime there is a problem, i was always wrong!. Even if its her mistake, i always get the blame!. There was also an instance that she said that its like she's becoming insane!. Laughing at one point then suddenly she starts to cry!. She also said that she's very weak and has a low self esteem!. She said she doesn't care about her future anymore!. A week before we broke up she said she loved me then the next week, after knowing the truth ( because she lied about her affair with her ex in the past and now she lied about her ex's friend that she's flirting with and i learned everything through her sister!.) she said she doesn't love me anymore and admits that she is a really bad person!. Should i tell her that she has this disorder!? I think no one can understand her more than i do!. Even if we really are not meant to be together i still wanted to help her before it gets too late and she destroys herself!. Its been 2 weeks since the last time we saw each other and i initiated no contact!.I think she doesn't know that she is somehow sick so atleast i want her to know so that she will understand what is happening in herself!. Well any suggestion would be nice!. thanksWww@Answer-Health@Com
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anthony, my god man i read your question and i could not believeit its like imreading about my girlfriend !.!.!.to the letter!. i know what youre goingthrough believe meim going on 7 years with this woman!.dont get me wrong , i lobve her unconditionaly, to no end!. you do need to set her downand explain to her whats going on,not only withher ,but with yourself!. youneed to let herknow the severity and the enormous impact it id causing in your life!. let her know that you love her and youllbe there for her!. you said that you initiated no contact, i think that is a little harsh, only because i know that this poor girl actually has no controllover her actions!. she doesnt mean to act out, she cant help herself!. my girl finally admitted to herself that she needed help, and we got it through several different resources and councelors!. its a long hard road but if you love this girl its worth checking into !.now as far as the infidelity!.!.!. you need to ,if you can, get past that and concentrate on getting her help and getting her better!. she is not well, and thats what she is trying to tell you!. she is reaching outfor help, so help if you canbefore its too late, it almost was for us, i thank god we acted whenwe did or !.!.!. i dont even want to go there!. god bless the both of you, and if you ever need to talk !.!.!. hit me up i'll be there, cause i know where youre at and its scarry take care!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Sounds to me that you need to leave her alone and move on with your life!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Anthony,
It is good that you are concerned for her welfare!. I have seen so many times in my 72 years that someone could have helped someone else but didn't, and it resulted in disaster!.
I feel that she has a spiritual problem as well as an life experience problem!.
All of us need to except the fact that we are controlled by Satan and that we need to turn to God for help!. This is the reason for the season that Jesus was born and that by believing that He is the Son of God then we can have peace in our souls!. The Bible says to repent and be baptized!.
That peace of the soul is free to all who believe; I know it is true for it has worked for me!.
Additionally to that, she needs to seek out professional in the form of a Bible believing pastor who is able to guide her!.
Merry Christmas,
DanielWww@Answer-Health@Com
It is good that you are concerned for her welfare!. I have seen so many times in my 72 years that someone could have helped someone else but didn't, and it resulted in disaster!.
I feel that she has a spiritual problem as well as an life experience problem!.
All of us need to except the fact that we are controlled by Satan and that we need to turn to God for help!. This is the reason for the season that Jesus was born and that by believing that He is the Son of God then we can have peace in our souls!. The Bible says to repent and be baptized!.
That peace of the soul is free to all who believe; I know it is true for it has worked for me!.
Additionally to that, she needs to seek out professional in the form of a Bible believing pastor who is able to guide her!.
Merry Christmas,
DanielWww@Answer-Health@Com
I must have dated her mother a girl just like this!. I am not sure you should be the diagnose person but encourage her to seek therapy she seems to be a perfect guest for just such treatment!. I think she is just insecure about herself and a good therapist will help her deal with the bad issues she has not dealt with properly and is causing these problems and I think she is curable, so if you think despite her emotional see saw you love her help her get better, take her to a therapist under the guise of fixing your relationship then let her befriend the therapist and then the psychologist can set her up for independent therapy saying you both should see her separately and then just taking her in!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Unless you are a psychiatrist and have studied her in depth and diagnosed her according to DSM IV criteria then no you should not tell her!! You may well suspect her of having some sort of personality disorder but there are others that can fit this behaviour!. Also if she swings wildly from one to the other she may have rapid cycling bipolar!. The only thing you can do is to tell her you are concerned about her behaviour and recommend she sees a professional!. You cannot diagnose her; and no one on here can!. Diagnosis for any type of mental health illness takes time; and even professionals take a longtime before making a diagnosis!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
She is a woman!.!.!.!.!.!.how in the heck can you ever figure out a woman!? They are weird and emotional exotic creatures!.!.!.!.they run on alot of emotion, and are for the most part, extremely intelligent!. Women are entertaining, perplexing, horrible, charming, terroristic, nurturing, and can strike fear in a sumo-wrestler with one glance!. Women can run the world, run the home, drive you nuts, and have three break-downs, and not miss a beat!. your girl does not know this yet!.!.!.!.but when she finds her wings!.!.!.!.she will fly!. Be her freind!.!.!.!.do not disrespect her!.!.!.!.that is not a good thing to do!.!.!.!.you will lose!.!.!.!.chemistkat!.!.!.!.outWww@Answer-Health@Com