I think im depressed, im 14 ?!


Question: I think im depressed, im 14 !?
There has been Alot of major things going on in my family- my mum has breast cancer, my dad has manic depression & anxiety problems, my grandad has a mental illness and my grandma is in hospital due to a heart attack!.

I have been feeling really down and moody, I am avoiding any form of 'family fun' e!.g, yesterday my family went swimming and i stayed in bed nearly all day listening to music, I also keep thinking i am useless and may aswell not participate in class discussions!. I started self harming yesterday after my dad had a big go at me saying that i never think of the fact that my parents could be dead and that my mum could have died of breast cancer and my dad could of died of a heart attack by now and that I need to help them as much as possible!. e!.g do all housework!.

Im feeling so confused at the moment and i dont know whether i should tell my mum and dad how I feel but im scared that they will just shout at me, or go and call a psychiatrist or something :(
Is there anyone i can talk to without my parents knowing !?

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Answers:
Jeez Rebecca! Of course you're feeling down and moody!. Staying in bed and listening to music instead of being with your family is incredibly normal for a 14 year old, so no problem there!.
Being expected to do all the housework, do your schoolwork, and worry about your family and all their major health issues is too much for one kid to handle!.
At least one of the adults in your family should be considering how much you have to worry about and do, but it doesn't seem like anybody is!.
That was an unfair and dumb assumption your father made, of course you've worried about your mother dying!. He's taking all his stress out on you!. Why!? Because it's easy to take your stress out on a kid!. They blame themselves and absorb all the criticism, so it's very satisfying to blame them!.
You shouldn't be yelled at!. You shouldn't be accused of not caring about all these adults who are falling apart on you!.
You've already been shouted at so of course you're afraid they will shout more!.
Something no adult in your life is recognizing is that your feelings count and they're important!.
Do you have a school counselor!? I don't know if they promise to keep things confidential!. Someone at your place of worship!? If you don't want your parents to know, it has to be free!. School and place of worship are the only free places I know of!.
Hang in there Rebecca!. All the adults in your family are wrecks right now, but you don't have to be!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

You need someone to talk to about all this!. You may or may not be depressed in a medical sense, but you have a lot going on that may be causing you the sadness/depression!. Do you have a church minister!? Or you could try getting help online at http://www!.depression-help-for-you!.com/d!.!.!. or http://www!.psychcafe!.net/index!.php!.

Perhaps there is a trusted aunt or uncle you can call or a school teacher or counselor you click with!. Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Wow, I totally know what you are going through! My Aunt had cancer!.!.!.!.And I've gone through a lot of hard things too!. I'm the same age as you too!

I don't self harm but here is a website that may help you!

http://www!.speakdontbleed!.com/

It's a great website!

If you'd want to talk more you could email me or IM me!. :]

I hope this helps you out!!!!!
:]Www@Answer-Health@Com

you know,
i know what you mean!.
i always seem to have really big fall outs with my family and friends and i think i could die and no one would care!. i could spend a whole day lying on my bed watching t!.v eating nutella and nothing else!. you cant be depressed if your only 14 but whatever!.
try councilling or something like that!?

hope this helps xoWww@Answer-Health@Com

hey, soz to here bout your problems, anyway if u want call kids helpline its 1800 55 1800 in australia or another similar service if u dnt want ur parents knowing call froma pay fone or something, mayb a skewl councilour, im also 14, try n find a stress relief i find riding my motorbike good, hope this helpedWww@Answer-Health@Com

i think u r isolating ur self from ur family!.at this moment,u should try to understand the situation!.ur family need u!.i understand that u r having a very hard time!.but remember,there is someone who in a worse situation than u!.good luck!.hope ur mom n grandma get well soon!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

hi im 13!.i find that wen im depressed this cheers me up (cclick it its just a cute pic lol)
http://photo!.raelian!.com/albums/animal_e!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

at school, go see the consoler!. tell them how you feel!.
i know how you feel!.
if you ever need to talk, please e-mail me :)Www@Answer-Health@Com

don't tell the school counselor theyll tell your parents the same thing happened to me!. i had to go see a psychiatrist and i hated it ive stopped going now but my family keeps thinking im going to kill myself!. i was depressed at 14 and it's all coming back now that im sick!. im so sorry to hear what youre going through email me if you want and well talk!. you should always talk to a friend or someone you can trust!. i used to go on chatrooms and talk to strangers about it and it made me feel a lot better!. i always made sure they just wanted to talk and werent pedos though lol!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Hi Rebecca,

Really sorry that so much has been thrown at you, a lot for you to cope with, and at such a young age!. What i can say is that i'm not qualified to tell if your depressed or not, but what i do see is that you need someone to talk to!. I know you don't want to upset your mum or dad, but perhaps you could talk with one of them (whoever your closest to) as they would want to know and would want to help you!
Failing that, there are other people out there, a school counsellor or a teacher you feel close to!.!. or your local youth centre, maybe there is someone there you trust!. There are numerous phone lines you could contact for informaton or help!. You have every reason to feel down at the moment- with all that has gone on for you in the last while, its no wonder you feel the way you do!. Please understand Rebecca, that sometimes life throws stuff at us, ( i don't know why) in order to make us stronger, it may not feel like that at the moment, but you CAN get through this!.!. and will be better and stronger for it!. While self-harming might seem the answer at the moment, it will only damage you further and doesn't solve whats really going on!. Talk to your mum if you can, i know she is ill, but she would want to know!. Chances are she wants to talk to you as well!. She may be waiting for you to open up!. Take a chance and see what happens!. Take care of you, and I really hope it all works out for you!.

EppieWww@Answer-Health@Com

It's hard enough being a teen girl these days and your dealing with alot of things and others are expecting you to cope with it!. We all have our breaking point!. I sore a school counsellor when I was at school and they aren't suppose to tell your parents anything without your consent!. But consider that they can be a mediation point for your family and you!. So your family can stop putting so much pressure on you!. I have depression and anxiety have had it for 13 years, I hope you can resolve your problems and not have to live with it like I do!. I'm on meds for the rest of my life, I still have to accept that!. Just remember that this will pass and your future still lies ahead!. I know what it's like to hide in bed all day!. You need to talk to someone out side of your family circle, parents shouting at you will not help your situation or your mental health, feeling hopeless and useless is normal for depession!. Take it one day at a time, sometimes a minute at a time!. Good luck honey!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

i understand you,

my mother had a fight with my uncle , my family is fallen apart and now my mother never enters the grandmothers because my uncle stays there!. , i am 12 and my life shouldn't be like this!. what i did is avoid the hole thing , praying does help i don't know if ur religious but praying does help!.

life will get smoother in the mean time just have fun try somthing!. and i dont blame you for being sad!. but what can i say these stuff do happen!.

heres my msn if you want it ,
message me if u want my msn or my yahoo!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

You really need to talk to somebody!. If you cannot talk to your parents for whatever reason, try going to a relative, teacher, or school counselor!. Sometimes talking can help a lot!. Hurting yourself is serious though, so please find somebody to talk to!. Talking to your friends can be very helpful, but please also find an adult you can talk to and trust!. Growing up is hard, i've been there!. Also remember if you talk to your doctor, he/she will not tell your parents unless you ask them to!.

Don't feel embarrassed or ashamed though!. Most people go through some sort of "funk" at one point in their life!. Its fairly normal, and the sooner you do something about it, the better of you'll beWww@Answer-Health@Com

i havent been through that similar thing alot wehen i was younger i know how it feels to care so much about your family that even when they are not being open minded to u and so much on problems u strart to feel alone i dont know if thats how u feel lol but well im guess im venting haha
but you should talk to your parents before any psychiatrist if u say it from the heart how yu feel they should understand and if they dont dont blame urself!.!.!.bad things will pass!!! keep positive!.!.!.!.i hope i have helped in anyway possible lol
hope everything works out good for u!!Www@Answer-Health@Com





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