Possible PTSD, and helpful support PLZ HELP?!


Question: Possible PTSD, and helpful support PLZ HELP!?
(I'm 17 she's 16 both Jr!.s btw) --My girlfriend's (well ex now, I'll explain) dad died, by unmentionable act a couple months ago!. She was very close to him, and he loved her back too!. Her parents were divorced by the way!. But she thinks about him a lot, and I'll get a message about her feeling sad and such!. I do all my best to support her and help her!. I've told her that I'm always a shoulder to cry on, I'll hold your hand when you need it and I'll pick you up when you fall!. I'm supporting her, and helping her deal with it!. I think about him a lot too!. But obviously it hurt her more, but I was always there to help her in any way I could, and I made her aware of that!. But when we're alone, she's very calm, relaxed, stress free, and just lays on me and rests he head on my chest, and I hold her back and keep her close!. She was able to think about him and talk about him openly to me in person!. "You've made this year better than it should have been" and such like that to me!. I didn't smother her with the idea that I would support her or about her dad, If she wanted to talk about it, I'd let her bring it up, she knew she was able to!. But saturday was 2 months, since he died, and I didn't talk too much (she likes to be left alone when she's really in bad thought like this, her best friends let her be too) only a little bit to make her know I was there and such!. Not much at all that day!. Next day, she calls, wanting to break up!. She said she was too concerned and had her mind on too much and didn't want to worry about a boyfriend or a relationship where she has to think about stuff like that!.
She still wants to be friends, she said she just wants her friends right now!. I told her I'll support her in any way still!. And as long as she is comfortable and gets her head straight, I don't care if I'm involved, she may want to get back together at some point!. But right now, she's moving a bit!. Like I said, as long as she's comfortable, I have no need to try to go for her (no matter how much it pains me to say) I have to let her go a bit, but keep her in reach to make sure she's all right!. But now it's awkward in halls, and talking!. How should I go back into good stable friendship!.
So here it is, - parents divorced, dad dies!.!.bad way!. (she may have PTSD, and some kind of depression, but she is stable from what we can tell, keeping an eye on her though!. And a few family problems, that really get to her!. How do I handle all this, let her know I'm there, did she lose interest in me, or just relaly need time to her self!? I'm not worried about getting back together, I just want her to be not so lost!.Www@Answer-Health@Com


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when your in the hall just say !.!.Im thinking about you !.!.are you okay!? Tell her if she needs a hug !.!.she knows where to go!. She needs space to heal now !.!.people go within when they deal with death!.!.its a survival thingWww@Answer-Health@Com

It may well involve grief related depression!. One of the symptoms of depression is social withdrawal!. Depression is addressed in section 2, at http://www!.ezy-build!.net!.nz/~shaneris Also see, as applicable, young women's depression, page V: WOMEN TO WOMEN, teen depression, and eventually the rest of section 2!.

Take the depression quiz on page J, in section 2, at ezy build, below, and if positive, print, and take to a doctor, to eliminate medical causes!. Grief is addressed in section 57!. Where suicide is involved, family, and friends often feel guilty, and responsible, for not noticing the signs, and doing something about it when there was still time!.

See: http://www!.cmha!.ca/bins/content_page!.asp!.!.!. cid=3-101-103 A quiz for PTSD is via page E, in section 1, at ezy build!. If confirmed, see sections 33 - 34, and use the locator to find an EMDR therapist, or Google: "clinical psychologists; (her city); (her state)", since many use Cognitive Behavioral Therapy!. Research, and print relevant parts!. Send to, or refer her!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





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