Borderline personality disorder and work?!
Question: Borderline personality disorder and work!?
anyone with borderline personality disorder have difficulty maintaining a job!?
its difficult becos i find it hard to relate to others and maintain conversation and eye contact!. I think thats becos i don't know myself or am not true to self!. Somedays i don't know whether i'm arthur or martha!.
sometimes just doing my job alone i find hard!.
after a few days when ppl think you don't want to talk to them or they think your not very balanced or weird
i start dwelling on what ppl think of me
anyway
ur experience!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
its difficult becos i find it hard to relate to others and maintain conversation and eye contact!. I think thats becos i don't know myself or am not true to self!. Somedays i don't know whether i'm arthur or martha!.
sometimes just doing my job alone i find hard!.
after a few days when ppl think you don't want to talk to them or they think your not very balanced or weird
i start dwelling on what ppl think of me
anyway
ur experience!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Much the same!. I had to go on disability a while back because of my inability to regulate my emotions!. I often had the same problems you describe!. The longest I was able to hold down a job was a year!. I was drinking heavily to deal with my stress - never a good idea with BPD!.
I entered a treatment program called Dialectical Behaviour Therapy, (DBT)!. It's been a long, hard road, but I stuck with it, and feel like I'm ready to go back to work!. I'm only going to work part-time at first but my disability worker is supporting me!.
You sound like you have social anxiety/ self -esteem issues, and this can make it very hard to find/keep a job!.
Maybe it would help if you sat down and thought about the fact that you have a serious disorder, and you need to be kind and generous to yourself!. There is hope for you!. You have attitudes and responses that are deeply ingrained in you, and they are very hard to overcome, but not impossible!.
Sometimes, especially in a job situation, you have to force yourself to be friendly and responsive to others!. Silence can be taken as hostility, even if it's simply anxiety that is holding you back!. I hope you are in therapy/counselling!. If not maybe you can look into DBT if that is possible!. It has helped me very much!.
Your self-image, and excessive worry over others' opinions of you can really hold you back!. I hope you can overcome this!.
Good luck!.=)Www@Answer-Health@Com
I entered a treatment program called Dialectical Behaviour Therapy, (DBT)!. It's been a long, hard road, but I stuck with it, and feel like I'm ready to go back to work!. I'm only going to work part-time at first but my disability worker is supporting me!.
You sound like you have social anxiety/ self -esteem issues, and this can make it very hard to find/keep a job!.
Maybe it would help if you sat down and thought about the fact that you have a serious disorder, and you need to be kind and generous to yourself!. There is hope for you!. You have attitudes and responses that are deeply ingrained in you, and they are very hard to overcome, but not impossible!.
Sometimes, especially in a job situation, you have to force yourself to be friendly and responsive to others!. Silence can be taken as hostility, even if it's simply anxiety that is holding you back!. I hope you are in therapy/counselling!. If not maybe you can look into DBT if that is possible!. It has helped me very much!.
Your self-image, and excessive worry over others' opinions of you can really hold you back!. I hope you can overcome this!.
Good luck!.=)Www@Answer-Health@Com