Friedn threatened to commint suicide! I`m so scared please help!?!


Question: Friedn threatened to commint suicide! I`m so scared please help!!?
I`m 13 and I have this friend, her mom died when she was 5, the poor girl has been through hell!
We always have fights and she always starts new ones its horrible!.
as usaul we had an argument and she threatened to commit suicide!. the thing is she always starts fights with me, lies, and twists my emotions!.
She trys to get me upset!.
Anyway, I tried to calm her down, but it was ova skype, I wasnt there to stop her!. I know she wouldnt do it!. shes trying to make me scared!. I offered to call her dad to sort her out and she got all panicky and said NO! and lied about where he was!.
I know she was lying!.
The thing is, that tonight I realised, that she has been through hell and the suicide thing is a cry for help!.
I want to help her!. Shes turned into a nut and shes gonna get worse if I dont help her!.
I just dont know what to say to her, how to deal with her! It gets impossible but I need to help her!. I have to!. please help me, what can I do!?Www@Answer-Health@Com


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You say you are thirteen, how old is your friend then!? First of all, losing a parent at the age of 5, is very traumatic and in a majority of cases causes clinical depression or depression!. Interesting that you say she won't do it!. How sure are you and what makes you think she won't!? You are so right, she is crying out for help!. I wonder how her life is at home with her dad and if she is as old as you are, this is the time she would need a mother figure constantly in her life!. When a child loose a parent, it creates a lot of fear inside them!. Things like "who will buy our clothes now, is there going to be enough food on the table!?"who will look after me when Daddy goes to work"!?!. It creates instability in their lives and at the age of five, its very difficult to deal with these "grown up" issues!. In a study conducted by psychologist, it was noted that pre-teen girls are more fearful than any other age group that has lost a parent!. To me it seems that your friend is also carrying a lot of anger inside her, and she does not know how to get rid of it constructively!. She might still be very angry about the loss of her mother!.

First of all, the most important thing you can do, is assure her that you are there for her, always!. She needs a support structure very badly!. (Wish I could determine what the situation is at her home)!. Secondly, try and see if you can notice the following: is she losing interest in her school work; is she more often tired lately; does she talk about death more often than usual; are there changes in her eating pattern and sleeping pattern!? I know this must seem a lot to deal with at your age, but try your best as you are her friend!. If any or all of these are present, then she suffers from depression and this depression, if not treated, can lead to far worse consequences, like suicide!.

Do you go to the same school as she does!? If so, you can help her by talking to your school guidance councilor, or her teacher, someone that she respects and trust and you also trusts!. Do you have a good relationship with her dad!? Maybe speak to her dad as well, tell him you are worried about her and that she threatened to end her life!. Do anything in your power to help her out of the situation she is in now!. She is too young to cope with what is happening to her!. Good luck, I pray that you will be successful!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Talk about her emotions, how she feels about the situation
Go to her house and tell her that suicide is never the answer because that would make things worse for everyone the knows her!.
If her parents were together when her mom died tell her that her dad has been through enough without her going too!.
Just re-assure her that things are going to be OKWww@Answer-Health@Com

I understand your concern and think that it is nice of you!. But remember it is not your responsibility and u cant help much!. You definately need to mention this to her relatives,dont be afraid otherwise it might be too late!.They will then refer her to a professional !.Www@Answer-Health@Com

you dont need to help her!.
she is manipulating you to get some form of attention!. if you dont like that you should say that to her!. her behaviour doesnt solve her issues!. being honest to yourself is a necesary step in further emotional grow!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

tell her you care for her and because of that if she threatens suicide you have to call someone, police, 911, her dad!. then follow thu the next time she threatens!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

This is a tough situation and you're going to need patience and a level head!. Number one, I would pray for her!. Number two, listen to her concerns and address them calmly!. Hopefully your levelheadedness will be contagious!. Good luck!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

She could call a suicide hotline!. I think the number is 1-800-SUICIDE!.
Let her know that you care about her and you want to help her!. Ask her what would make things better!. Just be there for her and put aside your differences!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

It's not your responsibility!. Tell her father and maybe your school guidance counselor!. Once again, it's not your responsibility!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

If you are really scared, and believe that she will commit suicide
you should find some adult and tell him or her

you could try calling your friend again and tell her that you want to help herWww@Answer-Health@Com

She's not going to commit suicide!. Just me because everyday I say I'm going to commit suicide and I NEVER do!. so don't worry about it!. And yes I know she's been through HELL!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Tell a trusted adult!. Your parents, school counselor, teacher!?Www@Answer-Health@Com

Tell her to go to the doctor!. She may have bipolarWww@Answer-Health@Com

Take her to rehabWww@Answer-Health@Com

Your friend is totally crying out for help!. At 13, she is going into the hardest emotional time of her life!. She threatens to do it to get a reaction from you, reassuring her that someone does care!.
She needs to be in therapy for sure!.
It's private, and will be something she looks forward to each week once she starts opening up!.
She may also need medication for a while to help her through this rougher time!.
Tell her you will go with her, make a regular Dr!. appt for a referral to a Therapist/Psychologist!.
Good luck!. She's lucky to have you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

What you need to do is go to an adult you trust!. Your parents, a teacher at school, a counselor that you know!. You just need to tell someone!. I have a friend that committed suicide!. His closest friends had heard him talking about it before, but never took action!. Then it was too late!. Although it may feel like you're ratting on your friend or something, it's worth telling someone!. Believe me!. Even if you believe she might be trying to get you upset and play with YOUR emotions (and that might just be it), it's better to be safe than sorry!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

If I were you I would call her dad!. You are too young (not immature) to deal with these types of issues!. If she panicked when you threatened to call her dad she is obviously just trying to get to you!. She does need help, she is a scared little girl with issues!. Don't let her drag you down!. Make a stand and she will stop using you!. She is just an attention starved drama queen!. She will continue to act this way unless she knows people aren't going to put up with it!. If you really want to make a point, the next time she tells you she is going to commit suicide call the police and they will take her to the hospital!. Suicide isn't anything to joke around with, I lost a friend that way!. She isn't serious, and she thinks its a game!. Don't feel sorry for her anymore!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Your friend might not know this but she she is probably trying to vent and that means fighting with you!. She may also subconsciously no that there is no reason to kill herself but thinks that if you two are in a fight that, that right there is a reason to kill herself!. Because lets face it nothing is worse then fighting with your friends!. I know this may be hard to do but you NEED to tell your friends father!. Even if your friend gets mad and yells and says she hates you or will never talk to you again!. After you tell her father she will get the help that she needs and will see that you are an amazing friend and that she is lucky to have you as a friend!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





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