Bipolar boyfriend... should I stay or should I go?!
Question: Bipolar boyfriend!.!.!. should I stay or should I go!?
I'm in a relationship with a man who has been diagnosed with bipolar!. I absolutely love him and his personality!. I am sympathetic as well as understanding when he tends to go off the deep end, but, it seems that though the "break up modes" are getting fewer and further between as we get closer and closer, they may also be getting more harsh!. His opinion of himself, at extreme moments is either too high or too low!. When it's too high, he focuses on my faults and finds me not good enough for him!. When he's too low, he presumes I'm an idiot for loving him!.
If this had been any other guy in the world, I'd have dropped him like a hot potato the very first time, but, I've never known anyone who was so interested in exploring the depths of everything with me, not only that but, I've never so deeply known or been so deeply known by any other person before in my life!. Also, we normally work things out so well that we are closer after misunderstandings and disagreements!.
This time though, he obsessed about a certain "fault" of mine!. The problem is, he wasn't even right after all that obsessing!. Still, I'm not the type of person who likes to have to prove myself to someone!. Especially when he is the one who is doing the pushing away!.
I feel like he will be alone forever if he doesn't come to grips with this, and I care about him enough to get through just about anything, but, if anyone out there has had similar experiences, I just wonder if you think there will ever be a point when he can just believe, trust and be able to relax in my love for him, without having to put himself above me or push me away when he's ashamed of himself!.
So, should I stay or should I go, now!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
If this had been any other guy in the world, I'd have dropped him like a hot potato the very first time, but, I've never known anyone who was so interested in exploring the depths of everything with me, not only that but, I've never so deeply known or been so deeply known by any other person before in my life!. Also, we normally work things out so well that we are closer after misunderstandings and disagreements!.
This time though, he obsessed about a certain "fault" of mine!. The problem is, he wasn't even right after all that obsessing!. Still, I'm not the type of person who likes to have to prove myself to someone!. Especially when he is the one who is doing the pushing away!.
I feel like he will be alone forever if he doesn't come to grips with this, and I care about him enough to get through just about anything, but, if anyone out there has had similar experiences, I just wonder if you think there will ever be a point when he can just believe, trust and be able to relax in my love for him, without having to put himself above me or push me away when he's ashamed of himself!.
So, should I stay or should I go, now!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
Its very difficult as you know!. it seems its the illness ive known a man with bipolar and its drainig and devastating for him!. The guilt he feels after a high of hurting people when he knows he loves them hurts!.
Im sure youve tried, but learning good mutual coping skill is essentual, when hes higher mention some mutual deals youve prearranged to calm and make him see sense and the way things are!.
From what you say it seems thjere is a real unique loving connection, one that could be to real and hurting to end!.
Stick in there!. If the hurt you endure becomes really charactor damaging( other than knowing hes unwell) maybe find a way to break it off!.
I think stick in there maybe see an advanced councellor to learn good coping skills or find a good book and mutually teach yourselves!.
Good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com
Im sure youve tried, but learning good mutual coping skill is essentual, when hes higher mention some mutual deals youve prearranged to calm and make him see sense and the way things are!.
From what you say it seems thjere is a real unique loving connection, one that could be to real and hurting to end!.
Stick in there!. If the hurt you endure becomes really charactor damaging( other than knowing hes unwell) maybe find a way to break it off!.
I think stick in there maybe see an advanced councellor to learn good coping skills or find a good book and mutually teach yourselves!.
Good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com
If you love him you should stay but as soon as it becomes too much for you to handle or you don't love him anymore, go away!. I don't think it matters if he's bipolar!. Just as long as you love him and be there for him, you'll be fine!. :)Www@Answer-Health@Com
i dated a bipolar guy!.
and if they get mad just leave them alone for a litttle and they will be fine!. :)
also comforting them helps!
p!.s!. i honestly believe all men are bipolar! :D:DWww@Answer-Health@Com
and if they get mad just leave them alone for a litttle and they will be fine!. :)
also comforting them helps!
p!.s!. i honestly believe all men are bipolar! :D:DWww@Answer-Health@Com
I know its disturbing!.How would you feel if you had bipolar and your partner left you!?If you really love this person then I think you should stick by them through thick or thin!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Stay until you stop loving him, it's as simple as that!. He may have flaws but he still loves you, and you love him!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
my cuosin married a bipolar women who almost kill him in the middle of the night and the next day she didnt remember!.!.!. so run as fast as u can!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
If you love him and he loves you then you should stick by him!. When he is hit by the extremes of bipolar disorder and he makes you feel bad or upset just remember that he is the way he is because he has a mental illness!. He can't help being bipolar, its just something he had to live with!. I don't imagine its easy for either of you, but if you want to be together you just have to find a way to work through it!.
Having a mental illness can be a lonely thing!. If you walk out on him, you could make it worse for him!. I'd say he needs you right now!.
I hope things get better for you guys soon!. :)
Carla xWww@Answer-Health@Com
Having a mental illness can be a lonely thing!. If you walk out on him, you could make it worse for him!. I'd say he needs you right now!.
I hope things get better for you guys soon!. :)
Carla xWww@Answer-Health@Com
Hi I am in a very similiar situation, but my question is how did you get your bf to go to the doctor and get diagnosed!? I am married to man who I am very sure has bi polar but he will not even admit that he has a problem, it is very hard to deal with, and when he gets in these crazy moods he can be very abusive at times!. when we argue he goes to extremes of going online and joining the army, he has done this twice, and when he comes out of the mania he decides to not join the army, there is no comprimising with him at all, I am on YA to try to find a solution, I will not leave him because I am married to him and I love him very much, I thought allot of this was cultural differences as he is from North Africa but I have learned that the problem is mental and not cultural!. Some ways I have learned to deal with this is to just leave him alone when he is in a negative state of mind, before I use to just try to console him and zero in on him and that is when the abuse started!. Now I just focus on my kids or clean the house or go about my business and just hope he will feel good soon!. I know how you feel, If you truly want to stick with him just try to encourage him to seek help since he admits he is bi polar, admittance is the first step in the right direction!Www@Answer-Health@Com
my opinion is go, now!. I dated a bipolar guy for a year, and it ended with a RESTRAINING order!. I dont know your bf, but he seems really unstable!. I had to deal with the same s***, a few times my ex threatened to kill us both!. he was mentally, physically abusive!.
the problem was I kept letting him back into my life; I cared about him so much, I tried to "change" him so many times- but it just DOESN'T happen like that!. you will do more harm to yourself than help him!. he needs a reality check, he doesnt deserve you when he is acting like that!.
Have a serious talk with your boyfriend!. dont be afraid to change your phone number if he gets obsessive!. Do not tolerate anymore abuse!. BE SAFE!. good luck now!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
the problem was I kept letting him back into my life; I cared about him so much, I tried to "change" him so many times- but it just DOESN'T happen like that!. you will do more harm to yourself than help him!. he needs a reality check, he doesnt deserve you when he is acting like that!.
Have a serious talk with your boyfriend!. dont be afraid to change your phone number if he gets obsessive!. Do not tolerate anymore abuse!. BE SAFE!. good luck now!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I suspect that you already have an answer in your head about what you want to do!. My advice: go with your gut!.
Bipolar can be a chronic, disabling condition!. The symptoms associated with it do not go away overnight!. With medication and treatment, the symptoms can be lessened to a degree, but relapse is always a strong possibility!. The fact is, no one can really tell you whether or not his behavior will get to the point where he is able to "relax" in this relationship!. Having worked with bipolar clients for several years, I have learned that their behavior, even when under medication, can be unpredictable!. If he has not done so, he should probably seek professional mental health!. And you need to decide if you can be with someone who make be so unpredicable!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Bipolar can be a chronic, disabling condition!. The symptoms associated with it do not go away overnight!. With medication and treatment, the symptoms can be lessened to a degree, but relapse is always a strong possibility!. The fact is, no one can really tell you whether or not his behavior will get to the point where he is able to "relax" in this relationship!. Having worked with bipolar clients for several years, I have learned that their behavior, even when under medication, can be unpredictable!. If he has not done so, he should probably seek professional mental health!. And you need to decide if you can be with someone who make be so unpredicable!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Look!. i'm diagnosed bipolar also and i have a girlfriend too!. it gets tough on her sometimes but i hate my self for blaming her out of no where since the problem is all from me!. I love my girlfriend very much but sometimes when i don't see her or talk to her for a while, i get into those break up modes!. My Advice: Stay with him!. Bipolar or not he still loves you!. Love is pure in every human being!.Www@Answer-Health@Com