I have an 18 year old son that lives at home with me--He smokes pots all the tim!
Question: I have an 18 year old son that lives at home with me--He smokes pots all the time!.!.!?
He dropped out of high sch ool-and doesnt work!.!.He has a bit of a learning disability--and could have attention deficit!.!.which explains why he might smoke pot--Yet he refuses to live by MY rules--HE MOUTHS off to me!.!.!.!.!.!.CALLS ME NAMES>!.and tells me to shut up- I have asked him to MOVE out many times and get his act together!.!.BUT HE REFUSES!.!.!.!.!.!.!.how do I get him OUT!? He needs to grow up and quit taking from me!.!.!.!.!.!?!?!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
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Who is the parent!? You or him!? I know what you are going through!. Our daughter who will be 18 in less than 20 days gave us hell for almost two years!. A few months ago things got so out of hand with her that an argument became physical!. I was holding her down because she was trying to run (again) and as I was holding her she was punching me over and over!. We had no choice but to call the police on her and they came and restrained her in the back of the car!. She left fist print bruises all over my back and scratched my 16 year old son all over his neck so deeply that he was bleeding!. I had no choice but to file battery charges on her!. When I showed her that she no longer was going to have control over me and that I would not allow her to break the law it was like she did an instant 180!. She is now great to be around!. She always did well in school but it was just her sneaking out and lying to me all summer!. It turned out that she was not at her friends like I thought, she would have me drop her off there, told me she had her number changed and when I called to make sure her grandmother was home I talked to someone who I later found out was her 19 year old boyfriend's mom lying to me all summer!. It was all over a boy that we didn't want her around because he did and dealt drugs so she caused everyone here months and months of misery because of it!. I always told my kids that if they broke the law I would not hesitate to call the police on them and to never think that I would ever bail them out of anything!. They know right from wrong (as I suspect your son does as well)!. It took me proving this to her to get her to change!. It was the best thing I could have done!. If I had let her get away with it she would have turned a hundred times worse!.
So, I said all of that to say this!. Your son is illegally doing illegal drugs in your home, he is verbally abusing you and is not leaving your property when told so as an adult he is trespassing!. Call the police and get him physically removed from the house!. He will be furious at first but then he will gain some respect for you because you exerted your motherly authority to him!. You are his mother!.!.!.MOTHER him!. It isn't always easy but if you continue to let him act like this, you are going to have a 40 year old pot smoking, good for nothing loser living in your house and there will be no one to blame but yourself!. I know this sounds harsh, I don't mean for it to be offensive!. I had to have a good friend of mine give me this talk too!. It's ok to make him grow up!. Its not only ok, it's your job and responsibility!. Good luck and stay strong!!!! If you love him!.!.!.show him some tough love and get him on his way to living his own, productive life!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
So, I said all of that to say this!. Your son is illegally doing illegal drugs in your home, he is verbally abusing you and is not leaving your property when told so as an adult he is trespassing!. Call the police and get him physically removed from the house!. He will be furious at first but then he will gain some respect for you because you exerted your motherly authority to him!. You are his mother!.!.!.MOTHER him!. It isn't always easy but if you continue to let him act like this, you are going to have a 40 year old pot smoking, good for nothing loser living in your house and there will be no one to blame but yourself!. I know this sounds harsh, I don't mean for it to be offensive!. I had to have a good friend of mine give me this talk too!. It's ok to make him grow up!. Its not only ok, it's your job and responsibility!. Good luck and stay strong!!!! If you love him!.!.!.show him some tough love and get him on his way to living his own, productive life!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
He's 18!. If you want him out, kick him out!. He's by technicality no longer a minor, and from the sounds of it, he really needs to see what real life is like, without mommy taking care of everything for him!.
He can't REFUSE at 18 to move out!. He's no longer a minor, and you have no legal obligation to house and feed him!. If you allow him to stay there, you are only enabling the behaviour!. Send him out on his own for a few months, he'll likely change his tune!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
He can't REFUSE at 18 to move out!. He's no longer a minor, and you have no legal obligation to house and feed him!. If you allow him to stay there, you are only enabling the behaviour!. Send him out on his own for a few months, he'll likely change his tune!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
He is 18, technically an adult, that opens a lot of options for you!.
First off tell him that he needs to listen to you, don't give him an option!. Be tough and he gets physical call the police and have them take him out of your house!. If you really mean that you want him to go away for a while get a restraining order on your own son, this will force him to get a job and house!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
First off tell him that he needs to listen to you, don't give him an option!. Be tough and he gets physical call the police and have them take him out of your house!. If you really mean that you want him to go away for a while get a restraining order on your own son, this will force him to get a job and house!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
then you start being the mother and get him help!. make him go to a doctor and/or counseling!. if he is supposed to be on medication, then he needs it!. where is he getting the money if he doesn't work!? if he's smoking pot, then call the cops and get him caught!. you are doing nothing by standing by watching him and not acting!. it will be best for both of you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Tell him he need to see a doctor if he won't except your help call the cops and kick his but out!. I make the mistake trying to help my son to keep him out of the street with his drug habit!. Let him go!. where is the money coming from for the drugs!.Don't give him money thing!. If his father is alive send him to live with him!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
From one mom to another!. change the locks when hes out!. I perfectly understand what ur going through!. I to have an 18yr old!. He's driving me crazy!. Dropped out of community college, yes he to smokes pot and what ever else he experimented with!. Tell him you'll help him get an apartment and help with the first months rent and now it time to grow up or OUT!. I wish you luck, and sanity!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
dont yell at him, calmly stop giving him food (i know it sounds harsh), take out his bed!.!.!.!. you know things like that!. your not being mean, your giving him tough love!. obviously you still love him but he is old enough to do his own thingsWww@Answer-Health@Com
Get him arrested for trespassingWww@Answer-Health@Com