I live my life in fear of death. need help?!
Question: I live my life in fear of death!. need help!?
i lost my brother suddenly and tragically last year!. now i am in constant worry that someone close to me will be taken away soon!. i have compulsive thoughts and recurrent nightmares where i wake up screaming and/or with tears streaming down my face!. i have seen counselors, psychiatrists, psychologists, and i have a great system of support in my family and friends!. is there a way i can alter my thoughts to be more positive and less troubling!? any sort of inspirational books, movies, or songs that helped you get through a tough time!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
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When my mom was diagnosed with cancer I thought that I was going to lose it!. I had no clue how to live without her!. I really had to do some soul searching!. I became very interested in not religion but in spirituality!. I started to study healing, positive thinking and the spirit world!. Im not some weirdo and don't push my beliefs onto anyone but it really helped me!. She was cured or so we thought but I kept researching because I found it so amazing!. When she was diagnosed 2 years later with terminal cancer, I was upset but not like before!. I knew that she was in gods hands and when it was time for her to go he was going to take her!. She passed away in august 2007 at the age of 47 and although a piece of me went with her, I can treasure the memories that will always be with me!. She was my best friend but instead of dwelling on her not being here, I think about how lucky I was to have her!. There are some days that I just get overwhelmed with sadness but I know she is here and wouldn't want me to destroy the person she guided me to be!.
I tend to babble on about my mom to anyone that will listen:) Sorry anyway!.!.!.!.!.!.Joel Osteen and Wayne Dyer are two wonder speakers and authors that may help you!. It really is about positive thinking and being grateful for what you really do have!. I hope that this helped even in a little way:)Www@Answer-Health@Com
I tend to babble on about my mom to anyone that will listen:) Sorry anyway!.!.!.!.!.!.Joel Osteen and Wayne Dyer are two wonder speakers and authors that may help you!. It really is about positive thinking and being grateful for what you really do have!. I hope that this helped even in a little way:)Www@Answer-Health@Com
Hello,
I am sorry to hear of your loss!. I also have seen much death in my family and tribes throughout the years!. I would be lying to you to tell you that the pain goes away, or that the nightmares or dreams of them will stop, but you do adapt in time!. In the meantime, I would tell you that you need to realize that the goal of life is but within the word itself, which is to live!. Realize that your responsible for your emotions and how you react, if you choose to live life to the fullest, I would say start with exercises like just breathing as deep as you can and exhaling all of it out, it will make you relax both physically and spiritually!. Please let me know if there is anything else further i can suggest!.
-Wolf
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I am sorry to hear of your loss!. I also have seen much death in my family and tribes throughout the years!. I would be lying to you to tell you that the pain goes away, or that the nightmares or dreams of them will stop, but you do adapt in time!. In the meantime, I would tell you that you need to realize that the goal of life is but within the word itself, which is to live!. Realize that your responsible for your emotions and how you react, if you choose to live life to the fullest, I would say start with exercises like just breathing as deep as you can and exhaling all of it out, it will make you relax both physically and spiritually!. Please let me know if there is anything else further i can suggest!.
-Wolf
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i have the same problem u do, but it like applies to everything, like everything bothers me and i end up going insane and i dont know what to do cuz nothing helps!. u just gotta realize that you cant stop people from dying, there are things you cant change!. life is always gonna suck sometimes!.!.!.!.!.and it is up to you how you are gonna view it!. like people close to you will die!.!.!.!.!.but all the better for you to get as close to them as you possibly can, right now! like dont waste any time, time is like money it burns away and is all gone and gets stolen!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Finding some friends might help - a support group of some form maybe - volunteer - occupy your life with life instead of death perhaps!.
You can't live in a constant state of death it will eat you up!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You can't live in a constant state of death it will eat you up!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
read The Secret!.!.very inspirationalWww@Answer-Health@Com
fall in love, that will really make you cry!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Death of a loved one
This can be a spouse, parent, child or friend!. Death is part of life, but the death of a loved one is something that causes significant stress!. Our hearts are broken as we grieve for our loved one and our lives are seriously disrupted!. This is something which we can do little about, unfortunately, and also something we all have to deal with, sooner or later!. Many people recover from this stressor and continue with their lives!. Others never fully recover!. Death of a loved one can cause a number of serious illnesses that we take on ourselves, including depression!.
Only the time passing will soften our hearts!. life goes on and we cant' construct it with fears, we need to feel strong for ourselves and for others!.
Yoga and Meditation
These are Eastern arts just like aromatherapy and, like aromatherapy, have been around for thousands of years!. People in the West tend to want to hurry everything along, which can be one reason why we are so much more stressed than people in the East!. Yoga involves a series of stretching exercises that are designed to allow you to concentrate on something other than yourself!. Meditation is the process of clearing your mind of negative thoughts and concentrating on nothing!. Both are equally effective at calming you down if you understand how to use these techniques towards alleviating stress!.
Yoga and meditation work pretty much the same way as exercising, cleaning and counting do to relieve stress - they draw your attention away from the stressful situation and to something else!. This is the secret to controlling your stress - to focus your attention on something that is either positive or neutral!. Once you have learned how to use these different techniques to alleviate stress, you can then work on controlling how you react to stress!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
This can be a spouse, parent, child or friend!. Death is part of life, but the death of a loved one is something that causes significant stress!. Our hearts are broken as we grieve for our loved one and our lives are seriously disrupted!. This is something which we can do little about, unfortunately, and also something we all have to deal with, sooner or later!. Many people recover from this stressor and continue with their lives!. Others never fully recover!. Death of a loved one can cause a number of serious illnesses that we take on ourselves, including depression!.
Only the time passing will soften our hearts!. life goes on and we cant' construct it with fears, we need to feel strong for ourselves and for others!.
Yoga and Meditation
These are Eastern arts just like aromatherapy and, like aromatherapy, have been around for thousands of years!. People in the West tend to want to hurry everything along, which can be one reason why we are so much more stressed than people in the East!. Yoga involves a series of stretching exercises that are designed to allow you to concentrate on something other than yourself!. Meditation is the process of clearing your mind of negative thoughts and concentrating on nothing!. Both are equally effective at calming you down if you understand how to use these techniques towards alleviating stress!.
Yoga and meditation work pretty much the same way as exercising, cleaning and counting do to relieve stress - they draw your attention away from the stressful situation and to something else!. This is the secret to controlling your stress - to focus your attention on something that is either positive or neutral!. Once you have learned how to use these different techniques to alleviate stress, you can then work on controlling how you react to stress!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
First off i am very sorry about your loss!. We all know it is the hardest thing to lose someone you truly love!. I know friends who have felt this way!. Feeling worried and nervous about stuff that is about to happen is a phase everyone goes through!. Over time you will start to relax your thoughts!. The most important way to treat this is to find hobbies like video games, movies, music, eating anything that you enjoy!. Also i would seriously recommend smoking weed once or twice a year
I do it once every 3 months and it allows me to really think about whats important in life and not worry about the lil things!. Despite what people say, they are flushed by government bullshit!. Weed does not kill braincells, it stimulates them temporally, what it does is three effects!. Hungry, Sleep and happy!. It relaxes you from it all!. It's important though to discover more hobbies because that is key!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I do it once every 3 months and it allows me to really think about whats important in life and not worry about the lil things!. Despite what people say, they are flushed by government bullshit!. Weed does not kill braincells, it stimulates them temporally, what it does is three effects!. Hungry, Sleep and happy!. It relaxes you from it all!. It's important though to discover more hobbies because that is key!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I am very sorry for your loss, and believe that you are still going through the stages of grief, so I don't think my usual methods for recurring nightmares would work, because you can't confront death, or ask for help from a dream ally in this!. Some suggestions, and resources follow: Call: The Grief Recovery Institute (U!.S!.A!.) 1-800-445-4808, or Hospice (phone book)!. Email jo@samaritans!.org Chatrooms and forums: www!.chatmag!.com/topics/health/grief!.html and http://talkingminds!.15!.forumer!.com/ and http://messageboards!.ivillage!.com/ Other websites: www!.griefnet!.org/ and http://www!.helpguide!.org/ (coping, supporting others, loss of relationship, or pet) and www!.mental-health-abc!.com/ and www!.boblivingstone!.com/!?q=node30 and www!.crusebereavementcare!.org!.uk/ There is a grief support group at: http://dailystrength!.org/ Also try Groups, at Myspace!.com and Yahoo!.com & Google!.com
At www!.mind!.org!.uk/ type "grief" in the taskbar, and enter!. Helping others grieve, and helping children grieve are some topics at: www!.crisiscounseling!.com/TraumaLoss/Grie!.!.!. and for children: http://yourtotalhealth!.ivillage!.com/grie!.!.!. and www!.childrensgrief!.net/ and http://www!.childgrief!.org/
Understand that there are often several stages of grief!.
The stages are: Denial: The initial stage: "It can't be happening!."
Anger: "Why ME!? It's not fair!?!" (either referring to God, oneself, or anybody perceived, rightly or wrongly, as "responsible")
Bargaining: "Just let me live to see my son graduate!."
Depression: "I'm so sad, why bother with anything!?"
Acceptance: "It's going to be OK!."!. And finally:
Growth: Grief is a chance for personal growth!. For many people, it may eventually lead to renewed energy to invest in new activities and new relationships!. Some people seek meaning in their loss and get involved in causes or projects that help others!. Some people find a new compassion in themselves as a result of the pain they have suffered!. They may become more sensitive to others, thus enabling richer relationships!. Others find new strength and independence they never knew they had!. After the loss, they find new emotional resources that had not been apparent before!.
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At www!.mind!.org!.uk/ type "grief" in the taskbar, and enter!. Helping others grieve, and helping children grieve are some topics at: www!.crisiscounseling!.com/TraumaLoss/Grie!.!.!. and for children: http://yourtotalhealth!.ivillage!.com/grie!.!.!. and www!.childrensgrief!.net/ and http://www!.childgrief!.org/
Understand that there are often several stages of grief!.
The stages are: Denial: The initial stage: "It can't be happening!."
Anger: "Why ME!? It's not fair!?!" (either referring to God, oneself, or anybody perceived, rightly or wrongly, as "responsible")
Bargaining: "Just let me live to see my son graduate!."
Depression: "I'm so sad, why bother with anything!?"
Acceptance: "It's going to be OK!."!. And finally:
Growth: Grief is a chance for personal growth!. For many people, it may eventually lead to renewed energy to invest in new activities and new relationships!. Some people seek meaning in their loss and get involved in causes or projects that help others!. Some people find a new compassion in themselves as a result of the pain they have suffered!. They may become more sensitive to others, thus enabling richer relationships!. Others find new strength and independence they never knew they had!. After the loss, they find new emotional resources that had not been apparent before!.
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