How can i stop obsessing about my relationship?!
Question: How can i stop obsessing about my relationship!?
I cant stop obsessing about my relationship, my boyfriend and i live together and we are expecting our 1st baby together, he had his share of bad boys moments in the past and it has made me feel very insecure lately i cant stop obsessing about the past, recently someone sent me some pictures and emails about what he was up to when we were separated, i wasn't expecting that, i asked him and he was more than happy to answer everything i wanted to know!.Since we got back together everything has been great, we spent a lot of time together, we do more than just clubbing (BTW we are both 30) now we go to comedies stands, dinners, concerts, shopping or simply just stay home and be ourselves, i am having a problem accepting he is here to stay, everyday i feel like if it was going to happen all over again, him storming out or me finding the house empty, or him just going back to one of his exes or something, we have talked about this hew tells me none of that is going to happen, that we are working on our relationship for a better future and for our family, he has not giving me a reason to believe he is cheating on me or is planning to leave me!. I don't know what to do to feel better about this, it is a constant struggle everyday to make it thru the day and not obsess about my relationship, about him cheating on me or leaving me, sometimes i feel im going to go crazy, any advice!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
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omg i totally get where you're coming from!. I have had my share of bad boy moments with my guy too (we have a 6 month old)and i actually broke up with him like 2 months ago but we're back together for the past week!. it is very hard and i am constanly obessessing everytime i cant reach him or everytime i think about what he did in the past!. When he calls i always feel like a million bux but when he doesnt i feel used!. Today i talked to him and theres one thing that he said that i realized i need to do, he said that there is nothing i can change about the past all that i can do is see the present and make the future better by focusing on staying positive and having a plan!. Girl I have been going through the exact same thing i am constantly obsessing about something that i can't control!. You need to realize this, you cant control whats going to happen but you can do your best and as long as you stay positive and stop focusing on him and focus on yourself then you will be fine!. There is no one you can truly trust other than yourself!. So make a plan with him about what is okay and what isnt and what bothers you about each other and what needs to change!. Be honest with each other!. dont waste each others time if you feel like you cant make it work!. It will take a lot of dedication and commitment but you can't pressure him to become someone he isnt and if you love him and you still wanna be with him then you're gonna have to accept that and do what you need to do to be successful on your own no matter what happens!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
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Try not to obsess about it!. Its going to cause problems because he did bad things already once!. Try to trust him although it may seem hard!. it sounds like he's trying to make it up to you and gain it back!. its going to take time, but in time shall come trust!. good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com
Try not to obsess about it!. Its going to cause problems because he did bad things already once!. Try to trust him although it may seem hard!. it sounds like he's trying to make it up to you and gain it back!. its going to take time, but in time shall come trust!. good luckWww@Answer-Health@Com
It is going to be hard for you to forget about his past!. Just try to think positive and make sure that you can trust him!. It might take a while but you will eventually get over it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I would ask myself "How am I cheating on myself!? Also- pregnancy seems to bring out the worst of our insecurities!. All we see on TV is how beautiful women are and in the last trimester we start feeling pretty frumpy!. It sounds to me like you are not being loyal to yourself- may be you look at others at this time and think " they are so pretty" and then turn around and not love yourself right now!. Its really an instance of betraying ourselves if our partner is not being unfaithful!. The best thing to do is keep yourself busy- don't let intrusive thoughts disease this wonderful time and don't live in the past!. When you start having these thoughts and feelings, stop yourself and ask " Is this really happening now!?" You can answer yourself!. No- this is not happening- refuse to give it life!. There is something else though- are you intuitive!? Do you have insights that you are unable to explain!? Do you just "know" things!? Sometimes people can feel the uncertainty of others around them but not know themselves well enough to ask "Is this feeling my own!?" Especially women!. Many are sensitive in these ways and go thew their entire lives believing that the feelings are their own!. What is important is to stay in the "now"!. Good luck sweetie!. One more thing that is important- trust- know what it is- trust does not depend on people not hurting us cause we are human- trust has to rely upon people trying to making up for the pain that they have caused others and it sounds like your man is doing that!.Www@Answer-Health@Com