What should I do, I feel like I am watching my life go by?!
Question: What should I do, I feel like I am watching my life go by!?
It's a long story that some people I'm sure will look and just say no I'm not reading it!. But maybe someone will read this and actually care!. All I can do is hope
Before I start here's where I am at now; I'm 14 years old, a freshman, and I live in Wisconsin!. O and if a stalker read this and thinks they'll be able to stalk me good luck, cuz it'll be pretty hard!.
When I was around 7 my sister had a huge back surgery they put 2 rods in and 20 screws!. Needless to say they did it during the summer!. Well that whole summer was gone because she needed to recover, o and not only her summer got taken away basically, so did mine!. It took her a long time to recover!. Now a couple years later the doctors looked at me and though I had it too!. So they took some xrays and found out i did have it, They wanted to fix it so they gave me a brace that went around my back and front!. I couldn't stand the brace and the time inbetween then and now destroyed me!. I didn't wear the brace, because i couldn't stand it!. When i didn't wear the brace i was in pain, constantly!. This may seem random but 2 years ago i broke my knee and had to keep it in a whole leg cast, that was my summer that year!. Now finally this last year, 2008 they found out i needed the same surgery my sister had, a little nicer, because they caught it sooner, but the same 2 rods, and 20 screws!. They did that last summer and it is the worst experience i've ever been through, and ever want to go through!.
I feel like my life has just been this huge ball of crap, but i can't tell anyone because if you compare to other peoples its not that bad!. So I've held it all in till now!. I feel like after all ive been through now im just watching my life pass me by, its tearing me up!. I can still function, but I dont know for how much longer!. Does anyone know what I am going through, or how to get out of it!? It's terrible, and I want my life back, I want me back!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Before I start here's where I am at now; I'm 14 years old, a freshman, and I live in Wisconsin!. O and if a stalker read this and thinks they'll be able to stalk me good luck, cuz it'll be pretty hard!.
When I was around 7 my sister had a huge back surgery they put 2 rods in and 20 screws!. Needless to say they did it during the summer!. Well that whole summer was gone because she needed to recover, o and not only her summer got taken away basically, so did mine!. It took her a long time to recover!. Now a couple years later the doctors looked at me and though I had it too!. So they took some xrays and found out i did have it, They wanted to fix it so they gave me a brace that went around my back and front!. I couldn't stand the brace and the time inbetween then and now destroyed me!. I didn't wear the brace, because i couldn't stand it!. When i didn't wear the brace i was in pain, constantly!. This may seem random but 2 years ago i broke my knee and had to keep it in a whole leg cast, that was my summer that year!. Now finally this last year, 2008 they found out i needed the same surgery my sister had, a little nicer, because they caught it sooner, but the same 2 rods, and 20 screws!. They did that last summer and it is the worst experience i've ever been through, and ever want to go through!.
I feel like my life has just been this huge ball of crap, but i can't tell anyone because if you compare to other peoples its not that bad!. So I've held it all in till now!. I feel like after all ive been through now im just watching my life pass me by, its tearing me up!. I can still function, but I dont know for how much longer!. Does anyone know what I am going through, or how to get out of it!? It's terrible, and I want my life back, I want me back!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
So who's attitude is this "if you compare to other people" stuff!? Your parents!? You never mention your parents!. I'm guessing they have not been sympathetic, or validated the trauma you've been through!.
It doesn't matter what other people have been through!. That doesn't mean you don't get to have reactions and feelings to the things that happen in your life!.
I read a study that interviewed parents and children about surgeries and injuries the children had had, commonplace stuff, like tonsillectomies and broken arms!. They found that the parents consistently underestimated the emotional effect the injuries and surgeries had had on the children!.
Adults are clueless!. Anyone, at any age, who has to go through surgery to implant rods and screws in their body is going through major physical and psychological trauma!. And it sounds like no one is helping you through this or listening to your feelings!.
You have lost a lot!. While other kids were watching TV you were in constant pain, going to doctor appointments (always so fun) in a hospital and then recovering from surgery!. That is traumatic!. People need to heal from trauma!. You have been left on your own with the emotional fall-out from all this!. And you're only a kid!.
(Google Trauma Surgery Children, etc!. stuff like that!.)
You have been on the sidelines of life for a long time!. While you were dealing with this crap, the other kids were playing video games, on the computer and watching TV!. You can catch up!.
Here's something for you that a lot of therapists and parents and teachers and other clueless adults don't give kids--VALIDATION!. In other words, you WERE handed a huge ball of crap when you were just a kid and that SUCKS, and you have a right to be FURIOUS and frustrated and very, very sad!.
Other people are also handed balls of crap, but it's not fair to people to compare balls of crap, "well, his is bigger", "yeah, well, mine's slimier!." Each person deserves sympathy for their ball of crap, regardless of how it compares to someone else's!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It doesn't matter what other people have been through!. That doesn't mean you don't get to have reactions and feelings to the things that happen in your life!.
I read a study that interviewed parents and children about surgeries and injuries the children had had, commonplace stuff, like tonsillectomies and broken arms!. They found that the parents consistently underestimated the emotional effect the injuries and surgeries had had on the children!.
Adults are clueless!. Anyone, at any age, who has to go through surgery to implant rods and screws in their body is going through major physical and psychological trauma!. And it sounds like no one is helping you through this or listening to your feelings!.
You have lost a lot!. While other kids were watching TV you were in constant pain, going to doctor appointments (always so fun) in a hospital and then recovering from surgery!. That is traumatic!. People need to heal from trauma!. You have been left on your own with the emotional fall-out from all this!. And you're only a kid!.
(Google Trauma Surgery Children, etc!. stuff like that!.)
You have been on the sidelines of life for a long time!. While you were dealing with this crap, the other kids were playing video games, on the computer and watching TV!. You can catch up!.
Here's something for you that a lot of therapists and parents and teachers and other clueless adults don't give kids--VALIDATION!. In other words, you WERE handed a huge ball of crap when you were just a kid and that SUCKS, and you have a right to be FURIOUS and frustrated and very, very sad!.
Other people are also handed balls of crap, but it's not fair to people to compare balls of crap, "well, his is bigger", "yeah, well, mine's slimier!." Each person deserves sympathy for their ball of crap, regardless of how it compares to someone else's!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Hey!. I know what you mean about life and everything!. It does suck sometimes believe me I know!. but there are so many good things out there!. you just have to try to focus on those things, and not all the negative!. Easier said than done I know!. I let everything bother me too!. and I have alot of things to worry about too, but life is short, and you can't waste it being upset about all the bad!. You gotta look for the good!. Your so young yet, you have your whole life ahead of you!. Just look forward to all of the things that you will get to do in your life!. There's so much good out there, just have to make the right decisions!. good luck with everything!. I hope that you feel better and find yourself again!. Everything will be fine!. Just look for the simple things in life to make you happy!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
sorry, no can do
and your life is not worse or better than anyone else's life!. when people say "oh you havent been through what i have" or "hey at least you werent abused by your parents" its really not that!. its how you can handle it, and right now, you are experiencing much worse than anyone else on the planet!. why!? because only you can experience it and only you can feel it!. you cant feel abuse because you've never had been abused!.
the best thing to do is have fun!. by thinking "i want my life back, all these years i did nothing" you're wasting even more time!. laugh, play jokes, tease someone, jump for joy, run around, try new things like rock climbing or sky diving!. just be happy and you'll feel that you've gotten all 14 years back, in one day too!.
if you have a good set of friends then you can laugh any time!. or if you dont then you dont need them, just run jump play laugh talk!. dont be shy, it ruins lives!. say "HELOO" to people you barely know and "how are you!? are you good today!?" to people you want to know!. attract people by being positive!. people want someone positive, and even if you want someone positive and you need someone to hold you up, people will hold you up when you hold them up as well!.
so think about that!. talk to people, ask them to share feelings and share jokes in return!. just lighten someone's day and you'd feel years coming back at you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
and your life is not worse or better than anyone else's life!. when people say "oh you havent been through what i have" or "hey at least you werent abused by your parents" its really not that!. its how you can handle it, and right now, you are experiencing much worse than anyone else on the planet!. why!? because only you can experience it and only you can feel it!. you cant feel abuse because you've never had been abused!.
the best thing to do is have fun!. by thinking "i want my life back, all these years i did nothing" you're wasting even more time!. laugh, play jokes, tease someone, jump for joy, run around, try new things like rock climbing or sky diving!. just be happy and you'll feel that you've gotten all 14 years back, in one day too!.
if you have a good set of friends then you can laugh any time!. or if you dont then you dont need them, just run jump play laugh talk!. dont be shy, it ruins lives!. say "HELOO" to people you barely know and "how are you!? are you good today!?" to people you want to know!. attract people by being positive!. people want someone positive, and even if you want someone positive and you need someone to hold you up, people will hold you up when you hold them up as well!.
so think about that!. talk to people, ask them to share feelings and share jokes in return!. just lighten someone's day and you'd feel years coming back at you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com