I don't know what to do anymore... I feel so lost... Someone help me please.!
Question: I don't know what to do anymore!.!.!. I feel so lost!.!.!. Someone help me please!.!.!. !?
'm a 21 year old college student; who has had a difficult past!. I was sexually abused for two years as a young child; I was raped as a teenager; and I'm addicted to cutting!. I can easily say that I haven't had an easy life so far; I've dealt with a lot and I had to deal with everything on my own because no one has ever been there for me!. Within the last year I started talking to one of my teachers (college) and she's really helped me!. She continuously reassures me that I'm welcome to talk to her whenever I need someone; but as much as I would like to talk to her more often sometimes I feel guilty that I'm taking up too much of her time!. *Am I wrong to feel guilty!?* Another issue I'm having is that I really trust her and feel close to her when we are together, but should there still be a limit to our relationship!? *Is there a specific point at which our relationship is no longer student/teacher or just when we feel it is no longer a student/teacher relationship!?* Furthermore, is there any hope of having a more "friend/casual" relationship with her in the future!?
Any suggestions, comments or advice would be greatly appreciated :)
*For the record, I'd like to mention that I'm seeing a counselor, psychologist and 2 psychiatrists in order to help me deal with the more profound issues I have; but speaking to her in and of itself helps me more than they do*Www@Answer-Health@Com
Any suggestions, comments or advice would be greatly appreciated :)
*For the record, I'd like to mention that I'm seeing a counselor, psychologist and 2 psychiatrists in order to help me deal with the more profound issues I have; but speaking to her in and of itself helps me more than they do*Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
You don't need to feel guilty whatsoever!. If you're so worried, ask her about it! Tell her you feel bad taking up so much of her time!. I'm sure she probably enjoys your company and helping you!. And I'm sure if you become/are friends, then you will continue to see one another after you leave college!. I don't think you need to worry about if it's wrong or not - there's not enough friendship and kindness and compassion in the world as it is!.
Also, try forging a couple of relationships like this with other people around you!. Are there any friends you can feel comfortable talking to, who seem like nice, understanding people!? You might feel better if you find someone else to partially depend on (I don't mean that in a bad way, since we all depend on our friends, and so we should)!.
Message me if you like!. All the best!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Also, try forging a couple of relationships like this with other people around you!. Are there any friends you can feel comfortable talking to, who seem like nice, understanding people!? You might feel better if you find someone else to partially depend on (I don't mean that in a bad way, since we all depend on our friends, and so we should)!.
Message me if you like!. All the best!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
keep yourself very aware of the student/teacher boundaries!
one of the prime reasons for doing so is that otherwise you will have unrealistic expectations of what she should be able to say and do to help you!. you should not feel guilty for talking to her, as she has told you not to do so, but you should restrain yourself from deeper involvement!.
and discuss with your therapist why you would like more of a relationship with this person!. this goes to the heart of your problems!. !. !.rather, the consequences of your abuse etc!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
one of the prime reasons for doing so is that otherwise you will have unrealistic expectations of what she should be able to say and do to help you!. you should not feel guilty for talking to her, as she has told you not to do so, but you should restrain yourself from deeper involvement!.
and discuss with your therapist why you would like more of a relationship with this person!. this goes to the heart of your problems!. !. !.rather, the consequences of your abuse etc!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
There is absolutely nothing wrong with it!. She is obviously worried about you so she really does want to talk to you!. You should not feel guilty what so everWww@Answer-Health@Com
If your teacher is somehow in the field of psychology, and possibly even a clinical psychologist as many professors in the field actually are, she will know the limits of the relationship and will also tell you if you take up too much of her time!. Your guilt is understandable but you needn't worry, you professor is there to help you!.
Chances are your professor cannot become your friend, because their relationship as the professor will always be present!. Maybe after you are no longer a student of hers things can be different, but for now it may not work out the way you want!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Chances are your professor cannot become your friend, because their relationship as the professor will always be present!. Maybe after you are no longer a student of hers things can be different, but for now it may not work out the way you want!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
You only feel guilty because of your past!. I had a lot of problems letting my husband in when we started going out!. If you found someone who you feel comfortable taking to and they are willing to listen and help, let them!. It is good that you are going to counseling!. My childhood was really bad but my adulthood has been a lot better!. Stick in there it'll get better!. And please stop cutting yourself, all you are doing is giving up your blood for no reason!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
My dear, If I could be there for you I would!. But Im going to try my best using this small answer box provided!. Im 17 year old boy!. I have not been around for a long time!. But Im extremly humble, considerate, patient, forgiving, and kind!. I have had long periods of my life screwed up as much as 5 years Im sure of!. I was taught something powerful and secret!. This is not something I found randomly on a search to answer you!. This saying goes "You fight, you fight, and you fight!. No matter what life throws at you, you fight!. You either roll with the punches!. Or you throw punches!. Even if you think your going down, dont go down with out a fight!. Keep throwing punches as you fall!." I was at a point in school were I said "**** it!. Why cant I be like all the other screw ups who some how get A's!?" Then I learned this powerful saying!. This person this lady who is helping you appreciates you!. You need to accept this kindness she is offering!. If she is there when you need it, take it!. If you feel you are clinging to roughly ask her you'll be suprised with her answer!. The human will is amazing!. I dont have much of a religion considering Im pulled between judaism and catholicism!. But the human will is a power center!. Please remember my words, use them!. This may sound silly but treat what Im saying as if it were something god himself was saying to you!.Www@Answer-Health@Com