Do i seriously need a psychologist for this?!
Question: Do i seriously need a psychologist for this!?
i was molested when i was 7 by a 60 yr old man!.i tried to have sex with my boyfriend of 3 yrs but i just couldnt!. i feel gross for some reason!. the man stuck his fingers in ne so i bled like hell and it was so painful!. i told my mom 2 months later and she told me to get over it and stop crying!. i dont get y i feel scared and nasty when my bf touches and kisses me!. i just do it cuz i dont want him to know cuz im ambarrased!. wat should i do!? im only 19 to be dealing with thisWww@Answer-Health@Com
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I was touched as a child as well first when I was 3 by a girl that was 17 and by my grandpa when I was 4!. I can't believe your own mother would be st cruel to you I am so sorry!. If it is still bothering you like that then I would see if maybe talking with a psychologist would help maybe just talking to someone will help you!. I had a different affect then you, instead of not being able to do anything, I felt like if I didn't they would do it anyways!. I am 24 now and KNOW I am in charge of my own body!. Good luck and I am so sorry that that happend to you and your mother wouldn't be there for you!.
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If you find it interfering with activities you should be able to enjoy, such as sex, then it wouldn't hurt to find a therapist to work through things with!. It doesn't need to be a psychologist specifically, Social Workers, Counselors, Marriage and Family Therapists, and even some religious figures have adequate training in therapy to be able to assist you, and if the person did not feel they had the training to assist you they would be right in recommending you to someone they did!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
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Your Mother does not seem as though she is much help, so go and have a talk with a Doctor and tell them everything!. Try and get a Lady Doctor as you will feel more at ease with her!. They are very good and have a lot of understanding with these types of problems!. Do not tell your Mother as you are of an age where you need your privacy, and that is what you get off a Doctor!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
holy ****!.!. okay your mom definately shouldnt have told you to get over it!. that is very messed up of her!. you need to go talk to a psychiatrist about it and maybe reconcile with your mother!. i think it will help you!. i know a friend who was only almost fingered by a guy who she didnt want to and this was in 8th grade and now we are in 11th and she is still having problems with it and it didnt even happen!. she gets freaked out sometimes and she goes to therapy and i think it helps!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I would get a psychologist!. That is so sick! Especially if you knew him well!. Your MOM needs to go see a psychologist!. That is not something you just get over and forget!. You should explain to your boyfriend and he could help you and he would understand!. You need a really good friend who you can tell, like your best friend!. That is just not RIGHT!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Yeah, you need to talk to someone!. I know how it feels!. My sister and I were molested when I was twelve by someone we called an 'uncle'!. He wasn't related to us, but he was our father's best man at our parent wedding and we'd known him for years!. Things aren't going to get better by pushing them aside like your mother did!. If you see a psychologist then you can talk about it to them, and get the help you need to move forward!. If you need medication, they will contact someone who can prescribe it!. My sister's boyfriend know that she wasn't ready to have sex with him because she was molested and they are still together!. They are even talking about getting engaged!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
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Oh sweetie I am soo sorry that happened to you! I was molested and raped by my cousins when I was 12 years old, it lasted for three years, and Im 18 now!. When someone told me to go see a counselor, I was like, what!? Only crazy people see counselors, Im not crazy! Ofcourse I started seeing a therapist soon after that, talk about ironic!. But you shouldnt listen to your mother!. Something as traumatic as this, doesnt just go away on its own, you have every right to be upset, and this is obviously affecting you!. And since your 19, you dont need your parents permission to go!. Just go!. Its a big deal, if its a big deal to you sweetie!. Good luck, I hope everything works out alright!Www@Answer-Health@Com