Was this Abuse? I dont know?!
Question: Was this Abuse!? I dont know!?
I want to know if anyone has been in the particular situation before!?
I was 12 when I lost my virginity to a girl of my age!.!.!.it wasnt really sex more fooling around but we did have sexual intercorse!.!.!.I then went with another because I liked it and wanted to try it more and more!.
I then found out that a girl that was 16 wanteed to go out with me, well I was excited because she was older and more expereinced!. She used to use me for all sorts of things, told me where to touch and what to do etc etc!.!.Now I wasnt a big guy and wasnt all that grown up but thought it was awesome, I could never finish though, if you know what I mean!? (she could)
Then when she had finished with me another girl of 17 nearly 18 used to do the same because the 16 yrs old was her mate and they had obviously been chatting to each other and told each other to do things to me!. I just sit back and enjoyed, they showed me porn and all sorts of things!. bearing in mind I had only just turned 12 years old and had sex with 4 different people in the space of 6 months!.
I was in a close neighbourhood, tightly knitted with other familys as it was on an army barracks and all the kids hung out with each other, this 16yr old and 17 yr old used to have sex with all the Squadies (older army men, even married ones sometimes)!.!.It has only occured to me in the past year (now I am 28) that I think this was wrong of the 17yr old especially as she was almost 18, in fact I thnk she was still using me when she turned 18!.!.!.there were times when I didnt want to do things and she would keep doing them, I just thought it was normal and great cus I was alot younger and all my mates were jealous
Anyway do you think this was abuse!? I dont know what to think of it!.!.its started to freak me out a little lately!.!.cant stop thinking about it, I told my GF and she thinks I may need counciling!.!.I have had counciling in the past but never brought this up with anyone!.!.not even my mum who I can talk to about anything!.!.!.Do you think I should just forget it and move on, it was a long time ago!.!.I just want to know if this is going to affect me with relationships, addiction to sex (which I think I have had before, its ruined two long term relationships) Whats your thought please!?
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I was 12 when I lost my virginity to a girl of my age!.!.!.it wasnt really sex more fooling around but we did have sexual intercorse!.!.!.I then went with another because I liked it and wanted to try it more and more!.
I then found out that a girl that was 16 wanteed to go out with me, well I was excited because she was older and more expereinced!. She used to use me for all sorts of things, told me where to touch and what to do etc etc!.!.Now I wasnt a big guy and wasnt all that grown up but thought it was awesome, I could never finish though, if you know what I mean!? (she could)
Then when she had finished with me another girl of 17 nearly 18 used to do the same because the 16 yrs old was her mate and they had obviously been chatting to each other and told each other to do things to me!. I just sit back and enjoyed, they showed me porn and all sorts of things!. bearing in mind I had only just turned 12 years old and had sex with 4 different people in the space of 6 months!.
I was in a close neighbourhood, tightly knitted with other familys as it was on an army barracks and all the kids hung out with each other, this 16yr old and 17 yr old used to have sex with all the Squadies (older army men, even married ones sometimes)!.!.It has only occured to me in the past year (now I am 28) that I think this was wrong of the 17yr old especially as she was almost 18, in fact I thnk she was still using me when she turned 18!.!.!.there were times when I didnt want to do things and she would keep doing them, I just thought it was normal and great cus I was alot younger and all my mates were jealous
Anyway do you think this was abuse!? I dont know what to think of it!.!.its started to freak me out a little lately!.!.cant stop thinking about it, I told my GF and she thinks I may need counciling!.!.I have had counciling in the past but never brought this up with anyone!.!.not even my mum who I can talk to about anything!.!.!.Do you think I should just forget it and move on, it was a long time ago!.!.I just want to know if this is going to affect me with relationships, addiction to sex (which I think I have had before, its ruined two long term relationships) Whats your thought please!?
Thanks guys!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
What the girls did to you was immoral and wrong!. I can see that they were controlling you, making you do things!. You might have suppressed those memories, consciously or unconsciously and didn't come to terms with the abuse until now!. It wouldn't be a bad idea to seek counseling, as the other answerer said!. Moving on isn't the answer because it doesn't erase what happened to you!. Do what you're comfortable with man!. And as for your sex addiction, that may be as a result of the abuse!. There's nothing wrong with having sex but if it has caused problems in relationships, a professional could help you reduce your need!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Yes, it was wrong of them to do that but your not the only male I have heard of that went through something like that my husband when he was 11 his baby setter was having sex with him she was 17!. It happens, its wrong but it does!. It all depends on if you think you need counseling really if it is stoping you from getting in a long term relationship then I would go to counseling!. But again that is up to you no one else!. Good LuckWww@Answer-Health@Com
It sounds like your GF is perhaps the best one to consult about this, since she's in a position to know if memories of the past are disturbing your relationship!.
I'm of two minds about therapy in these situations!. Sometimes it just seems to open up a whole new vein of "victim-think" which isn't good for anyone; I guess the main reason to do it would be to see if there are some patterns that would lead you back into active sex addiction, which would be harmful to your relationships!.
Good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com
I'm of two minds about therapy in these situations!. Sometimes it just seems to open up a whole new vein of "victim-think" which isn't good for anyone; I guess the main reason to do it would be to see if there are some patterns that would lead you back into active sex addiction, which would be harmful to your relationships!.
Good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com