What should I do about my fiance and the cuts I found?!?! Please, please answer!!
Question: What should I do about my fiance and the cuts I found!?!!?! Please, please answer!!?
Ok, well, my fiance Patrick's best friend Andy recently tried to commit suicide twice!. He's in the hospital now, and Patrick says when he goes to visit, Andy just doesn't want to live anymore!. I know this hurts Patrick so much!.!.!.!. him and Andy have been friends since they were 13, and they're both 26 now!. Well, I'm worried about Patrick, because 1!. He's an independent singer and he's been writing really dark, depressing lyrics!. and 2!. I found a cut on his hip, which he claims is from moving things at work (He works at a concert hall setting up stages for concerts), but I'm worried that he is cutting himself!. I know that he used to cut before his depression was diagnosed back when he was 23 or so!.!.!. It still scares me and upsets me when I see the scars near his shoulder!. Well, last night, Patrick was at the recording studio with our friend, Pete, and Pete called about an hour after Patrick had gotten home and said that he had seen a new cut on Patrick's shoulder over the scars and that he just wanted to let me know, because he's also worried about Patrick!. Anyways, his depression has never been serious like this before, but I guess it's kinda kicked into high gear since this all happened with Andy!. I'm not sure if he IS cutting or not, though!. I asked him gently a couple of times about the cut, and he just said that he got it at work!. But what about the new one!?!? Do you guys think he might be cutting himself, or not!? What should I do!?!
P!.S!.- We're going for counseling together starting this weekend!.
Oh and also, I have diagnosed depression as well, but not serious!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
P!.S!.- We're going for counseling together starting this weekend!.
Oh and also, I have diagnosed depression as well, but not serious!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
dont push him by nagging!. tell him that you love him very much and that if he started cutting again that it would hurt you to see him hurting himself and that if he ever needs help GETTING help, that youre there and you always will be!. my fiancee told me that and my guards melted and we went for conseling!. i got better and its been a long time since i cut again!. also let him know that what happened to andy was in no way his fault and ask what would andy think if he knew what he was doing to himself, or do you think andy is influencing him to restart his habit!?Www@Answer-Health@Com
I would recommend that you both sit down and have a serious talk!. but don't come out and make him feel defensive but empathize with him and let him know you he is going through a lot right now and want to make sure he is okay with what is going on!. then confront him about what you observed and just want to make sure he is doing okay and that you love him and just want to make sure nothing serious happens to him!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Patrick needs help big time!. Counseling or therapy will help him deal with what is going on with Andy!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
good that u 2 r going for councelingWww@Answer-Health@Com