I am always afraid that I will hurt someone?!
Question: I am always afraid that I will hurt someone!?
(emotionally)
Why is this!?
For instance, I am afraid of stating my opinion every now and then because I am afraid to get someone angry!. Also, I tell people that I don't know something when I really do, just so they don't think I am being arrogant!.
I was never like this as a child!. It began when I was about 13 and now I am 18!. I think it began because I had jokingly teased some kids in my class, and they, not realizing I was joking, were upset!.
All was good in the end though, b/c we were all able to become friends!.
However, as I made friends with them, I never really felt like I was truly being myself!. I felt like I dumbed myself down in a way!.!.and was too cautious about what I said to them!. This still goes on!.!.only now it is with everyone!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Why is this!?
For instance, I am afraid of stating my opinion every now and then because I am afraid to get someone angry!. Also, I tell people that I don't know something when I really do, just so they don't think I am being arrogant!.
I was never like this as a child!. It began when I was about 13 and now I am 18!. I think it began because I had jokingly teased some kids in my class, and they, not realizing I was joking, were upset!.
All was good in the end though, b/c we were all able to become friends!.
However, as I made friends with them, I never really felt like I was truly being myself!. I felt like I dumbed myself down in a way!.!.and was too cautious about what I said to them!. This still goes on!.!.only now it is with everyone!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Answers:
The only way to get over this is by taking small steps every day and at the end of each day, feel glad and proud that you are taking these small steps!.
I believe you take people's sensitivity way too much into account, which you must stop doing!. Like I have stated, you cannot just miraculously change over night - take small steps!.
You got yourself into this by "mistakenly offending" a few people - so only start off trying to change with a few people!. Do you have a partner, friend or relative living close by!? If so, ask them to be more considerate of your opinions more often - so get them to ask you regularly what you think about a certain topic and then speak from the heart - don't hold back! Once you get the hang of speaking your opinion with people close by, you'll begin speaking your opinions to other people without even noticing it at first!
I wish you the best of luck!.
PS: I knew a friend who used to speak very quietly all of the time!. Every time he spoke, people would ask him to say it again!. Eventually, he started raising his volume around us and then started raising his volume around other people without even knowing it! Now he speaks with confidence and is a darn Real Estate Agent!Www@Answer-Health@Com
I believe you take people's sensitivity way too much into account, which you must stop doing!. Like I have stated, you cannot just miraculously change over night - take small steps!.
You got yourself into this by "mistakenly offending" a few people - so only start off trying to change with a few people!. Do you have a partner, friend or relative living close by!? If so, ask them to be more considerate of your opinions more often - so get them to ask you regularly what you think about a certain topic and then speak from the heart - don't hold back! Once you get the hang of speaking your opinion with people close by, you'll begin speaking your opinions to other people without even noticing it at first!
I wish you the best of luck!.
PS: I knew a friend who used to speak very quietly all of the time!. Every time he spoke, people would ask him to say it again!. Eventually, he started raising his volume around us and then started raising his volume around other people without even knowing it! Now he speaks with confidence and is a darn Real Estate Agent!Www@Answer-Health@Com
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You need to seek some help!. No-one on y! is going to be able to solve this for you!. You need to talk to a qualified professional!.!.!.
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