I have a very needy mom, help me please!?!


Question: I have a very needy mom, help me please!!?
Alright, my mom goes through these phases where she'll yell constantly and than one month later she'll need me and be extremely sad and go through these phases of being completely sad and alone, I'm always there though and I never say or do anything to upset her, my little brother on the other hand!.!.!.!.!.!.jokingly(I'm not so sure)!.!.!. said when she said"I cant go through this any more, what can I do to get out of this!?!!?(takling to me)" and he overhears and say "You can committ suicide" and I yelled at him to stop talking cause he only makes things worse, the only problem I'm having is that I'm 16 and haven't had a girlfriend, I have to get my own life, I know this is selfish but I cant keep her company forever, it's getting a little bit ridiculous!.!.!. I tried to help her get a boyfriend and she had one but, he was far too boring!.!.!. btw, I'm not sure if I mentioned this before but, she just came through a divorce!.!.!. so what do I do about this all!?Www@Answer-Health@Com


Answers:
Kid, you're not going to like what I'm about to say but you cannot possibly do this on your own!. Your mother is supposed to be there for you and your brother - my main concern is not for your mother but for you and your brother!.

You need help now!.!. I mean now! You will not be able to cope on your own and it will eventually affect you and your brother to a point where your lives are both ruined!. I suggest strongly that you either contact a relative, a family friend or a neighbor or in fact, speak with your school councilor!.

Your mother has gone through one of the most tragic ordeals a woman could ever go through and it seems like she has not yet recovered from the scars left by this dreadful man!. You need to speak to an adult as soon as possible - if you do, they'll be able to get the correct help for your mother and she really needs it now!.!.!. the sooner the better!

She will eventually recover and one day; you, her, your brother and even your own family and your brother's own family will be sat around a table all happy during Thanksgiving!.

The first step is always the toughest - I believe you can take it!

You'll be in my prayers!. Best of luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com

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I know what you mean!. Boy! You would need super human patience!.!. And it would be rewarding!. Talk to your mom,encourage her to see a therapist!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Your mother sounds like she's bi-polar, or manic-depressive!. She goes through stages of mania where everything is fine, she may go on for days without sleep, she may go on cleaning frenzies, working frenzies, shopping frenzies whatever!.!.!. and then suddenly the whole world crashes down on her!. She screams and yells an there is nothing you can do that is right, she may even entertain thoughts of suicide or homicide/suicide!. Your mother needs help!. She needs to see a psychiatrist and the sooner the better!. A little bit of librium every day will fix her right up!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

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Firstly, well done for being such a great son and a decent person!!!

You do deserve your own life and especially at your age!. I don't feel that a boyfriend is what your mum needs!. She needs to talk to a professional counsellor and work through her issues of the divorce and depression and mood swings!.

Its too hard for family to play the counsellor role!. And a professional is trained to help!.

Perhaps you can help your mum to get to a doctor - even ask her if you can go along - and express to the doctor the need for your mum to have a counsellor!.

Good luck with this!. Thinks will get better and never feel guilty about having your own quality time!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

I would just like to say that I think Walters answer is extremely good advice and I would urge you to take this step!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





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