Should i end it with my gang member fiance? please help! mature answers?!


Question: Should i end it with my gang member fiance!? please help! mature answers!?
I am a 22 year old girl who is from a family that is part of a blood hispanic gang!. My father is in prison and my brothers are all part of the gang and most of them are in prison also, my mom is still with my dad but is like my rock!. I am also in a 4 year relationship with a man who is also in that gang(he is big time in it) and although i love him to bits i know deep down i want to better myself from my family!. We recently got engaged and are both really in love & can never get enough of one another!. When we are at a party & im around my friends he will come over and kiss me then take me away from my friends to be nearer him!. He will constantly kiss me and hold me or lift me away if he wants me!. All my friends think he is hot but its not about that, i love him but i know i need to get away from that world!.I don't think i will ever leave where i grew up so I don't know how i am going to do this as he is mad about me and seriously shows me all the time!. Do i break up with him!?, My friends keep telling me "Do you really think he will just let you up and leave!?"!. I love him to bits am i doing the right thing!? Please helpWww@Answer-Health@Com


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you seemed stuck at deep seated life with full of gangs!. However, if you want to do some action, you gotta find a way to get out of there!.

Firstly, plan yourself ahead as this could get rough especially the letting go part!.

So you have to make an excuse or something!. One of the good ones is, "you have to study somewhere far and from there, hopefully you can start a new life!. But just make sure you got enough financial support or savings that could help you at worst when away and know the place you are going!.

Hope everything will work out for you!.

- KRWww@Answer-Health@Com

If I were you I would leave that world behind!. Move far away and start over!.

Staying in such a setting will only lead to suffering in the future!. For example, your boyfriend might end up in prison or worse, die from the gang activities!. What to do then!? You have to make a decision real soon while you are still young!.

Do you want your kids growing up in that environment!? Your family's future is doomed if you stay as it would be an endless cycle!. Think long and hard about it!.

I wish you the best and I realize one of the hardest part would be how to break up with a big time gang member!. I hope I helped!. Please do the right thing, I don't want to hear of you or your family on the news, of course I wouldnt know it was you!.

All the best!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Sounds to me like you should stick around a little longer, then you won't have to worry about leaving him because he will be in prison too!
Be honest with yourself, how long do you think it will take for him to join your father and brothers in the same bad habits that got them put away!
You need to get out of that town, if you stay, you will be joining them in the slammer, because you will be with him when he goes down!.Www@Answer-Health@Com

Well is always your decision do what you think is the best thing to do but in my personal opinion i think you should get out of gang life they do not GIVE ANYTHING GOOD!!!! They just destroy your life and the life of your love ones!. In factAt a recent gang conference, Office of Juvenile Justice and Delinquency Prevention leadership pointed out it should not be assumed that "indicators of general crime and indicators of gang crime go hand-in-hand!." For example, Los Angeles recorded 1,077 homicides in 1993 and 587 homicides in 2001, "just over half the total from 1993!. But the number of gang-related homicides in 2001 was exactly the same as it was in 1993: 346 gang homicides!." Unfortunately, "our best national indicators of crime do not provide information specifically about gang crime" (Opening Remarks for the National Youth Gang Symposium, 2002)!. Regardless of whether gang crime has decreased, increased, or remained constant, gangs remain a problem in many areas throughout the nation!. So make up your mind it will always be a problem in yuor lifeWww@Answer-Health@Com

http://www!.policyalmanac!.org/crime/archi!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com





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