Does this count as 'molestation'?!
Question: Does this count as 'molestation'!?
Does this count as 'molestation'!?
My brother is a couple years younger than me!. When I was 10 he started touching me!. He would often grab my butt or my breast!. When I would ask him to stop he would just laugh and keep doing it!. He often tried to get me to get into bed with him (under the covers) and would try to get me to kiss him!. He would stalk me around the house just following me!. Every time I tried to go to the bathroom or take a bath he would stand outside the door and try to get in!. When I told my mother to make him stop she just told me it was normal and to ignore him!. Was this 'normal' behavior!? Should she had stopped it!? My father never gave a dang about what went on!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
My brother is a couple years younger than me!. When I was 10 he started touching me!. He would often grab my butt or my breast!. When I would ask him to stop he would just laugh and keep doing it!. He often tried to get me to get into bed with him (under the covers) and would try to get me to kiss him!. He would stalk me around the house just following me!. Every time I tried to go to the bathroom or take a bath he would stand outside the door and try to get in!. When I told my mother to make him stop she just told me it was normal and to ignore him!. Was this 'normal' behavior!? Should she had stopped it!? My father never gave a dang about what went on!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
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this is NOT molestation!. He is just a young boy going through puberty and discovering his own sexuality and unfortunately he can't control his sexual feelings and you're the only girl around, so he is taking it out on you!. Its just the age!.
When he gets a bit older, he will feel very embarassed about it!. So try have a mature chat to him now if you can!. Its time to change things!.
Its definately your parents role to try stop your brother from doing this, tell him off or whatever!. Although the way he feels in his penis is normal, as his at that "descovering" stage, they should make it clear to him that he needs to have respect for women before anything else!. Plus if he's not controlling his feelings now, it is possible he might turn into someone you dont want him to be when he is older!.
Maybe YOU should have a chat to him!. You love him, so do that for the both of you!. You'll be proud of yourself too :) And do tell your parents that you think this is wrong!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
When he gets a bit older, he will feel very embarassed about it!. So try have a mature chat to him now if you can!. Its time to change things!.
Its definately your parents role to try stop your brother from doing this, tell him off or whatever!. Although the way he feels in his penis is normal, as his at that "descovering" stage, they should make it clear to him that he needs to have respect for women before anything else!. Plus if he's not controlling his feelings now, it is possible he might turn into someone you dont want him to be when he is older!.
Maybe YOU should have a chat to him!. You love him, so do that for the both of you!. You'll be proud of yourself too :) And do tell your parents that you think this is wrong!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Not normal, very disturbing, and sad that your own mother did not put much attention to this!. It can be mentally traumatizing!. She should have stopped it!.!.!.the only thing you can do is do your own thing when you are older, and even get some help if you feel you need it when you are older, so that those feelings do not come out in ways you might regret! (As in treating others poorly, or crying, or insomnia!.!.!.) I would say it counts as molestation!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Wow, I'm sorry to say it but your parents were both very!.!.!. Wrong, but most of all!. They were both either just not caring or just completely perverted or something!.!.!. Something was wrong there!.
I dont think it's molestation becuase he didn't accually have sex with you, Thank god!. But this is definatly sexual harassment and like just wrong and I'm sure damaging!.!.!.
But yes she should have stopped it!. And maybe talk to a loved one or a therapist about this!.!.!. Or try to move on, but she was not in the right not telling him to stop!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
I dont think it's molestation becuase he didn't accually have sex with you, Thank god!. But this is definatly sexual harassment and like just wrong and I'm sure damaging!.!.!.
But yes she should have stopped it!. And maybe talk to a loved one or a therapist about this!.!.!. Or try to move on, but she was not in the right not telling him to stop!.!.!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Yes!. It was completely irresponsible and uncaring and she should have stopped it!. It is NOT normal!.
Talking to a trusted relative, friend's parents or trusted teacher can help greatly!.
Fight it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Talking to a trusted relative, friend's parents or trusted teacher can help greatly!.
Fight it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
10!? You have no breasts back then
but in all it is normal for once or twice but not normal anymore if u made it clear unwantedWww@Answer-Health@Com
but in all it is normal for once or twice but not normal anymore if u made it clear unwantedWww@Answer-Health@Com
No, it's not normal & yes your mother should have put a stop to it!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
O my God
It is greatest sin!. you should get separation!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It is greatest sin!. you should get separation!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
yeah i would say he is def on his way! damn that blowsWww@Answer-Health@Com
yep i'm very sorry that happendWww@Answer-Health@Com
The answer provided by SmileyB was very good!. I think she covered the subject quite thoroughly!.
Whether or not these incidents were "molestation" really depends on how you interpret and feel about them!.
Our society in America has become obsessed with this idea that someone who touches a person inappropriately ONCE or chats with an under-age person in a suggestive manner, whether online or in person, is an "Instant Criminal", deviant or pervert!. While I would not suggest it is impossible for someone having done either of these things to IN FACT be headed in the wrong direction in their life, I ask is it a good idea to treat the issue criminally!?
As a civilized society we should address these issues in a progressive manner first by interviewing the subject and learning about their motivations!. They need counselling and assessment not civil fines, a criminal record and the life-altering impact such things carry!.
Each of us needs to assume ownership of OUR position on these subjects and stand up for what we believe to be correct instead of deferring to law enforcement in the blink of an eye!. The police have enough to worry about with more damaging and destructive crimes and people that have wilfully committed themselves to disorder, theft and physical assault!.
Ask yourself this, although you felt uncomfortable when these things happened with your brother, what was hurt by it!? Your trust of him, probably!. Your confidence in his ability to "behave" and be "nice" towards you, probably!. However, as a immature and uninformed young person (him), is it not possible that he really did not understand his actions were (seriously) making you uncomfortable!?
Having a heart-to-heart talk with siblings in cases like this should be possible and considered essential to supporting the family relationship!. As we all know parents are simply children that have grown into adulthood and conducted themselves safely enough to have survived the first eighteen or so years of life!. Parental skills and wisdom only come with first-hand experience, patience and acquired knowledge!. Only in the event that your brother is unwilling to unable to communicate with you should you then turn to the parents!. Furthermore, I do agree with other comments that a teacher, school nurse or guidance counsellor might be the appropriate person to go to next if the parents do not understand the behaviour or are unwilling to intervene in the situation!. It is entirely possible that a parent or parents having never encountered this type of behaviour would be uncertain how to handle it - - and they may also not have a elder parent (your grandparent) available to consult with!.
I would not go to a member of the clergy such as a pastor or minister because this is NOT an issue requiring spiritual guidance!. Matters of the spirit are intangible and unseen, while the unwanted behaviour of another family member is definitely tangible (touchable) and seen!. Only matters or faith, the meaning of life, why am I here on this world, or questions of why we exist and feel pain should be taken to pastors and ministers!.
Good luck with your issue!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Whether or not these incidents were "molestation" really depends on how you interpret and feel about them!.
Our society in America has become obsessed with this idea that someone who touches a person inappropriately ONCE or chats with an under-age person in a suggestive manner, whether online or in person, is an "Instant Criminal", deviant or pervert!. While I would not suggest it is impossible for someone having done either of these things to IN FACT be headed in the wrong direction in their life, I ask is it a good idea to treat the issue criminally!?
As a civilized society we should address these issues in a progressive manner first by interviewing the subject and learning about their motivations!. They need counselling and assessment not civil fines, a criminal record and the life-altering impact such things carry!.
Each of us needs to assume ownership of OUR position on these subjects and stand up for what we believe to be correct instead of deferring to law enforcement in the blink of an eye!. The police have enough to worry about with more damaging and destructive crimes and people that have wilfully committed themselves to disorder, theft and physical assault!.
Ask yourself this, although you felt uncomfortable when these things happened with your brother, what was hurt by it!? Your trust of him, probably!. Your confidence in his ability to "behave" and be "nice" towards you, probably!. However, as a immature and uninformed young person (him), is it not possible that he really did not understand his actions were (seriously) making you uncomfortable!?
Having a heart-to-heart talk with siblings in cases like this should be possible and considered essential to supporting the family relationship!. As we all know parents are simply children that have grown into adulthood and conducted themselves safely enough to have survived the first eighteen or so years of life!. Parental skills and wisdom only come with first-hand experience, patience and acquired knowledge!. Only in the event that your brother is unwilling to unable to communicate with you should you then turn to the parents!. Furthermore, I do agree with other comments that a teacher, school nurse or guidance counsellor might be the appropriate person to go to next if the parents do not understand the behaviour or are unwilling to intervene in the situation!. It is entirely possible that a parent or parents having never encountered this type of behaviour would be uncertain how to handle it - - and they may also not have a elder parent (your grandparent) available to consult with!.
I would not go to a member of the clergy such as a pastor or minister because this is NOT an issue requiring spiritual guidance!. Matters of the spirit are intangible and unseen, while the unwanted behaviour of another family member is definitely tangible (touchable) and seen!. Only matters or faith, the meaning of life, why am I here on this world, or questions of why we exist and feel pain should be taken to pastors and ministers!.
Good luck with your issue!Www@Answer-Health@Com
These are strictly my opinions based on life observations!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
Hi sweetie!. Well, I am very sorry for what went on in your household!. Thats terrible!. And quite a few people have made strong arguements towards whether it was in fact molestation, but I have to say, I think it is!. When I was younger, I was sexually abused by my cousins!. It went slightly farther than what happened to you (oral sex) but it started off quite similar, and I wished that someone had noticed and cared what was going on!. If this is still happening, dont let it go on!. You dont need your parents to stop your brother!. You can speak up for yourself!. Remember that you do have a voice, and dont ever let it get lost!. Im very sorry for your situation, but I hope you have the courage to tell the appropriate people!. Since your parents wont listen, maybe go to your school counselors or a teacher!? Someone you trust!. Anyways, I hope I helped some, good luck!Www@Answer-Health@Com
Your mother was totally wrong!. What he did is NOT normal, regardless of what she thought, you do not like it, wanted him to stop, and she should have disciplined him!.
It's only setting him up to be a jailbird and unwelcomed in all residental neighborhoods, if your parents do not do something to protect both of you NOW!.
You don't mention how old you are now or if it's still happening, but if this is still happening, a few strong forehand and backhand swings to his jaws and a few good swift kicks to the groin ought teach him a lesson!. Enroll you a martial arts class and get a lock on your bedroom door!.
Talk to a school counselor or clergy or someone else who's trusted!.!.!.!.even your doctor!.
If he's still doing it and your parents are aware, they are enabling harassment and are just as responsible for his actions!.
If you're still in high school, go away to college and say away!.
Take care of yourself!.Www@Answer-Health@Com
It's only setting him up to be a jailbird and unwelcomed in all residental neighborhoods, if your parents do not do something to protect both of you NOW!.
You don't mention how old you are now or if it's still happening, but if this is still happening, a few strong forehand and backhand swings to his jaws and a few good swift kicks to the groin ought teach him a lesson!. Enroll you a martial arts class and get a lock on your bedroom door!.
Talk to a school counselor or clergy or someone else who's trusted!.!.!.!.even your doctor!.
If he's still doing it and your parents are aware, they are enabling harassment and are just as responsible for his actions!.
If you're still in high school, go away to college and say away!.
Take care of yourself!.Www@Answer-Health@Com