i wanna die but before that feel like asking suggestions to handle my problem if!

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Your depressed because your letting everyone else control your life. It sounds like we come from very different backgrounds but I have dealt with the similar issues. Do not throw your life away. If your forced to marry someone that you don't want to marry your going to be miserable. You sound like you feel guilty for your past actions but you shouldn't feel that way. Stop letting everyone else control you and stop letting them make you feel this way about yourself. You are not evil. You are not a burden.You are a person and you deserve to live your life the way that you want to live it. I'm sorry that your feeling like this. I know it's hard. But please don't be defeated. Take control of your life. You can be happy.

Dear,

Don't go far such decision. Treat as a bad dream and accident in your life. Go for meditaion and things positively from nowonwards. Life is nothing but only confidence. there is no rights to kill yourself.

Regards
Bala

hi i know what you are feeling now..... but suicide is not the only solution... please be clam.... think positively.... you will get solution... please stop blaming yourself.......

YOUR IN YOUR 20s

THATS one reason. your still really young! :)

THE MOMENT U REALIZE YOUR MISTAKE AND REPENT. YOU HAVE BECOME A GOOD SOUL... NOBODY IS PERFECT IN THIS WORLD SO DON WORRY..... U CAN BE TRUE TO UR HUBBY FROM NOW ONWARDS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hi,

You have a very big reason. You have lots of years to live for your parents and your future family.

Listen, nothing wrong if you are not virgin anymore. No one could know it for sure until or unless you tell them you have had sex with two guys before. Virginity in girls always related with their hymen. Intact hymen means virgin while break of hymen means non-virgin.

A hymne can be broken without having sex like doing cycling, excercises, stretching, horse riding and masturbation etc. No one can say for sure about your virginity and it is only you who has to confirm about it.

Hey you don't not be worried about your future and thinking about what you did in past. Think of you future and try to keep bad memories in your heart.

Please dont think of suicide. This would certainly put your family into suspicion and defame them. Is that what you want to give to your family? People would make bad stories like you had affaris with someone or you were pregnant like that. Please dont give other chance to raise finger at your family. Don't put their image at stake.

Please never ever think of suicide for such a stupid thing. You are quite normal and has not done a sin. Sometime we did a mistake and rather than running away we should wait and wait the consequences positively. Don't tell anyone that you are not virgin and see nobody knows about it. Say may be if has not broken by cycling or exercise.

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So, if I'm not mistaken, you feel like you're an evil creature because you're not a virgin? Well that's certainly not true.

If you feel so bad about hiding it from him, then you should definitely just come right out and tell him. Pre-marital sex is certainly frowned upon in some circles, but it doesn't make you evil. Your fiancee shouldn't have an issue with it.

You say you want to commit suicide and then you say you do not want to die. Well read what I have to say and then you can decide if you do not want to die or if you do not want to commit suicide.

You had sex twice. It is over. You are not a Virgin. So WHAT?? Nobody is Original Virginal. Let me explain. If you are a Hindu girl you will understand this easily. If you are not still it doesn't matter.

Last life when you were a human, bird, fish, snake you must have had coitus. Right. Before that life again you must have did it and had three four or a dozen kids!! Then you should not be called a virgin even immediately after birth. Well nobody is if you consider that way. Nobody is Original Virginal.

Forget about it. Nobody knows except you. Take it to the Lord in prayer. Then do not repeat. Love your future fiancee and your would-be husband whole-heartedly. Telling all this would ruin things unnecessarily. You are repenting now and that's enough. There is no need of committing suicide now. Anyway you are going to die after sixty seventy years. I guarantee.

Life is for living. Engage yourself in productive activities. If you commit suicide you may have to spend thousands of years as a ghost. That would be more painful and plain idiotic.

Our politicians do so many scams. they are so shameless. They do not want to leave their posts even after being caught. Forget them committing suicide.

Wake up girl. You are not the body. You are a loving soul that cannot be destroyed anyway. Don't fritter away this life.

What nationality are you? If you die then you don't have to tell anybody anything. If you tell your family and then you die. well then you die anyway. Either way you will be dead. You are young and have a lot of growing up to do still. It is not going to be the end of the world if you tell your family. Try it.
There are a lot of things that are hard that you will have to do in your life. Part of growing up is doing them and learning from those situations and moving on.
There is a reason that old people don't have these same problems. They tell it like it is without any apologies. You are not evil.

You are a wonderful person who is hiding secrets that you consider to be evil.
Let me help define things for you. Sex before marriage isn't evil. It's isn't even socially incorrect in most societies. If your fiance cannot accept you because you aren't a virgin, then he does not deserve you.
It's easy to allow yourself to be manipulated so you will be accepted and loved by others, but in actuality, they should love you for who you are, and respect your past and current decisions. If you are constantly playing roles that others are forcing you to, you are essentially selling your soul to them in exchange for their acceptance and approval. This is extremely unhealthy, and can lead to all sorts of mental difficulties.
Bluntly, I think you should break off your engagement to give yourself a little time to think. Don't break up with him. Just explain that you have been pressured into this, and you aren't quite ready yet. If he deserves you, then he should accept your decision, even if it frustrates him (as it will). I've been in a situation where telling someone that I was going to have to discontinue something (I'd rather not get into details here) was the biggest thing I dreaded, but eventually I realized that I could either live a lie, or let them hear and respect my decision. The latter is preferable.

Living is always preferable to dying, and to be brutally honest with you, you don't really have a good reason to die. Thousands of people dream of being in a secure professional place, and high school and college students are currently going through hell just trying to get where you are. But of course, you know that, having been through high school yourself.
Another thing. If you feel that your finace cannot accept you, or you cannot accept yourself for not telling him you are a virgin, then you should let him know. It's only fair to him to know. He'll find out, anyway, if you go through the marriage. Your mother, on the other hand, has no right to know about your sexual life. Some areas of your life are areas that are off limits to your family. Your sexual life is one (if the only one) of those areas. No matter how close the two of you are, your sexual life isn't her business.
Good luck.

If You mean the world to your mom she wouldn't force you to marry if you didn't want to, right? She would care about the way you feel. I don't know anything about the society you come from but it sounds to me that it isn't love that drives relationships there, but obligations and hierarchy. In most cases I would say be honest so to set yourself free and make you feel relieved, but, and only if that option is unavailable, if you are no more than another obligation to society, all I can say is survive to survive, as you have the means. Weather the storm, maybe things will start looking up.


Sex before marriage isn't wrong. That would be like saying the inherent nature of sex is wrong. Remove the man-made marriage slave bonding of two people, and all you got is procreation, which is all that's needed to continue the human race.

Hello miss,
Sex before marriage is wrong, although past is past no one can't make it right.
But suicide is not right choose.
Don't feel guilty ever body in this world making mistake.
you don't cheating your fiancee just enjoy the life Itch him and you should create good relationship Itch him and his family- that only right.

Its hard but u need to come to terms w the truth.
Don't ever feel like ur family can't forgive you , that is what makes families so great sometimes.Share with ur mother how u only want to make her happy and so soley on that reason u have lead the life u live. But now finding urself unhappy, u realize u have made a mistake. Break down to her if u need to share with her ur pain and passion too.
Do not take ur life. It is precious. Despite of how terrible u may feel at times.
U have already came to terms in mind and know what u shud do.. That is a lot more than what some people would do.
Its hard bcuz its what u OUTTA do even tho sometimes we kno what WILL be best its the hardest thing getting there. But trust me , u will feel so much better once this is off ur chest.
And ur doing the RIGHT thing. Marriage in anything that is not LOVE is not of God and u certainly do not what to disappointment Him!
Instead go to him, as a matter of fact, pray whole heartily and give him this situation give it all to him and trust in him.
He will never leave or forsake you and will help you. Stay in prayer for strength and encouragement. And remember everything is okay in the end.
If it's not ok, its not the end. -u stay tough in there till u make it thru
God bless and good luck
Best wishes


JUST CAME BACK TO SAY I HOPE YOU ARE DOING BETTER AND I DO HOPE UR FEELINGS HAVE CHANGED.
YOUR LIFE IS PRECIOUS, HOLD IT DEAR AND LISTEN TO THE WORDS OUR FATHER HAS SAID, HE WILL NEVER LEAVE YOU NOR FORSAKE YOU
YOU ASK FOR STRENGTH , FORGIVENESS, AND HELP IN THIS MATTER AND BELIEVE HE WILL HELP YOU THRU THIS
AND HE WILL!

HE WILL BRING U OUT OF THIS STRONGER THAN EVER
U KEEP FAITH AND STAY IN PRAYER FOR STRENGTH AND ASK HIM TO FREE YOUR MIND OF WORRY

BEST WISHES AND NOTHING LESS!

just a southern cali gal who cares!

That is no reason to die, practically your cases are normal now. However be faithful to your spouse henceforth. Only that can take the sin off not dying. You have become pessimmistic, exercise & go to bed early & think how you will fill your spouse life with love.

First take a deep breath and think. You have a lot to live for and give back to this earth. Do not think about dying or committing suicide. You are going to have to be brave and tell your mom that you are not a virgin and are not in love with your fiancé. Do not go into details or give names. Tell your mom you love her and you know she loves you and that you understand her disappointment in you. Give your mom time to adjust to what you just told her. You must tell your fiancé the truth also, again do not go into details or give out names. Next your must call off the wedding. You will feel that everyone is angry with you and they will be, but in time this will pass. Hiding secrets like that will make you go insane. If you tell the truth you will be releasing a lot of guilt and shame. Yes you will probably be the talk of the town for a while, but you will be free, liberated and unburden and that is worth living for any day. Don't forget you have a good professional life, so throw yourself into your work. I wish you well.