Cheated on my fiancee & now she wants to move miles away with our son. What !


Question: Cheated on my fiancee & now she wants to move miles away with our son. What do i do?
I am 33 and have been with my fiancee for 7yrs, engaged for 2 of them, We also have a 1yo son, She is 25 and comes from an abusive home, she is the love of my life. A week before christmas gone at our friends 30th i was talking with my best friend and out of nowhere & girl i knew when i was younger came over to us and i knew she was flirting with me but i stupidly played into it as my fiancee & i had been arguing before we arrived and had been tension between us for 2wks previous. My ex fiancee has a very quick temper and called me away and snapped at me, again we had another argument, although i enjoyed her being jealous, She told me she was leaving with her bff and told me to stay as she didn't want me around her at that point. I got way too drunk and ended up alone with my old female friend, We ended up sleeping together. Two days later when we were shopping for our son i told her i slept with the other girl, i just came out and said it, I felt numb when she just walked out. She moved out with my son saying she couldn't bear to look at me, I keep sending her flowers and trying to call her but nothing. When i pick up our son shes cold to me, But her friend told me that she's still in love with me. Over the weekend she came by my job, She told me she is thinking strongly about moving to California with our son saying that NY has always been horrible to her & that she wants better for him, to be happy. My world is falling apart in front of me and i cant seem to do anything about it. Any advice?

Answers:

You have to first find out if your relationship can be saved. If so, you need to reconcile, it may take some time. I would give her a couple of days to calm down. You can use this time to think of something extremely nice to do for her. You may find it useful to go to couples counseling together, and let it all out. If she will not talk to you, write her a very warm letter, then give her a day or two. If you do not hear from her, then you should call her.

I am no expert, but it worked for me.



The only thing you can do is fight for shared custody of your son. You can't make her take you back. She may still love you but that doesn't mean she wants you back. Trust is lost. Respect is lost. And even when you love someone you can't let them treat you bad.



invent the time machine, go back in time and kill your friend so he can't turn 30. then you will never meet the girl again

not being a ****



Yeah, you should have kept it in your pants. She's right to move away from you, although you're going to have to go to court over her moving to CA with your son. A person is permitted to bring their child on "vacation" up to a month in another state. Anything beyond that is considered kidnapping. You can work out an agreement - where your son can be with both of you...but just to let you know, a judge isn't going to look at you in favor if he or she finds out that the reason why you're splitting is because you cheated.




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