what does it mean when you feel angry because you feel a loved one isn't ca!
Question: What does it mean when you feel angry because you feel a loved one isn't cast iron strong for you?
unfortunately , because of family problems over the years, my family drifted apart - we were once a very close family.
growing up we were a very loving family , i was well brought up and well loved and its very sad for me to think back and reflect , seriously.
my mum and dad divourced when i was 17 , my younger sister who i was very close to growing up dropped out of higher education and started to see dishonourable guys .
i was very close to my father growing up , but because of the divource , and my psychological problems , we unfortunately grew apart , he is now about 58 and has another wife and children.....my priority is to make up with my dad at some point and settle are differences - try to let the past go..
in general , i have quite bad mood problems and anxiety problems each day and when i phone my 60 year old mother everyday or she phones me and sometimes im fretting or panicking , recently about the economic climate .
if my mum doesn't sound cast iron assured or strong for me and sounds down herself or bothered, it makes me feel angry , insecure and more troubled .
does anyone know why this could be or how i can learn to be different ?
thanks
Answers:
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Here is some food for thought
At some level, it sounds like you have felt abandoned.
Even though you are 33 and a rational person, you have reason to feel miffed.
Therefore, you have an expectation that people (your Mum) should be there for you now.
It is good that you recognise this anger in yourself.
Of course this is my speculation and it may not be accurate.
However, my recommendation is that it would be good to work through some of the unresolved issues with a course of counselling or psychotherapy. I wouldn't think that you would require more than 6 sessions to deal with the issue that you mentioned. Look for someone who can give you some psychological tools to carry with you once the course is complete.
That's exactly how I feel when my mom gets angry when I'm down.