I act really differently outside of school? Why?!


Question: I act really differently outside of school? Why?
I think about my Mom (she's sick) at school sometimes, and about my house burning down, and other ****...but as soon as somebody acknowledges me, I act "happy".

I even said "Hello" to a person I don't even know. (This was my first day back at school -- I haven't gone to school in 1 year).

Anyway, when I sit at home I just think and my opinions of people change. But when I'm at school I'm this quiet, reserved "nice" girl.

I also over-think things people have said to me or done. Like if this person gave me a weird look, at school I wouldn't act like I cared, but once I go home I think about it and I even cut myself because of it.

Thanks in advance, why does this happen? I'm 15/female.

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you want to keep your private life private.so u put up a front...like when i go to work,omg im the nicest person ever nothing phases me,i go home i vent to my bf about all the retards i had to deal with......i have personal issues at home,only close friends at work will know about it...this is beyond normal...the over thinking thing is actually pretty normal too...now the red flag is the cutting yourself.this is dumb and does nothing for you,its a waste of ur time and skin lol.and you are still pretty normal because 15 yr old girls crave understanding and attention and you being so open about the cutting shows youre not really depressed you want attention.what you need is good friends to talk too...and trust me everybody has a different work/school etiquette than home etiquette



Everyone like that you don't act like the way you do at school cause people are focusing on their work but at home they get mad at everything and show it I'm like that too I think it's cause if you have any siblings then you fight with them all of this is normal it's fun to fight with your siblings but not with your friends if you hit your friends of course you get arsed but if you hit your family depents on the hitting you don't.



Ya are lonely with no friends. Join a club in the school and the activities that they have. It make you lighten up and also make new friends.



Looks like you are insecure about who you are. The best I can do is advise you not to be. I'm kinda shy at school too, and when people say rude things, or give me weird looks, or laugh at me (even if it was a harmless laugh) I look way too into it and I get all insecure about myself. But I don't get upset enough to the point of cutting myself and you shouldn't either.

The fact that you act differently at school opposed to at home is completely normal. In fact, I have yet to meet a person who just acts the same no matter where there are, or what scenario their in. Just try to focus on the positive side of things, and focus on the people who care about you. I don't know what your beliefs are, but I believe that Jesus loves you enough to die for you. If you want to be happier and not think about negative things, focus on that. Read the bible maybe.

Anyway, you can take that advice or not, I'm only trying to help. I hate to hear about people hurting themselves because if only they new how much they are loved they could be so much happier. There will always be people who don't like you no matter what you do. You just need to not even think about that, because people's opinions change all the time.

I hope I didn't read too much into your question, I do realize that I addressed more than you asked for, but I hope I helped anyway.



I have a friend who nearly died because of cutting. Please don't mess around with that...it really is dangerous.

It's totally normal for you to be worried about those situations. If I were in your place, it would definitely be on my mind too. However, trying to mask the way you really feel isn't going to help anything. I would urge you to find a friend, or maybe even a guidance counselor who you can talk to about how you really feel.

Just remember that the look or word that someone gave you may not necessarily mean what you interpret it to mean. Mulling things over and over tends to distort what really happened. Just try to put it out of your mind and remember that YOUR opinion of yourself is the ONLY one that matters! You're young, you're still learning who you are, so don't beat yourself up over it.




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