should i leave my foster home?!


Question: Should i leave my foster home?
im in foster care, and recently my foster parents seem to hate me. the other day my foster mom yelled at me for not knowing the snack time and shes ALWAYS changing it, i told her off but she yelled at me and sent me to bed. ive been dealing with depression for about 2 years now but it has been getting worse. my dad had recently died, my boyfriend broke up with me, my foster parents arent getting any better, i dont think i can take it! i finally fessed up about my depression and my thoughts of suiside, trouble sleeping, crying myself to sleep every night, loss of appitite, low energy, and my low self esteem. i also get irritated when they keep teling evryone i have autism even tough i dont. my counsilar asked me if i wanted her to start looking for a new placement. i said id think about it but i dont want to change schools, leve my best friend, my horse, and im close to my biological family. but i cant handle it any more.

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Chunk, if you are having thoughts of suicide, please see a doctor (not just a councilor) as soon as possible. There are many treatments out there for depression; you don't need to suffer like this. In the meantime, turn to Psalm 34:18 in the Bible; you might find that verse very encouraging. I am rooting for you, Chunk.

I know how u r feeling I was in foster care from 15 to 18 years of age and I was in 4 different foster homes in those three years I know it sucks switching schools and leaving everything behind but if you are having alot of problems it might be better on your mental health to get out and start over somewhere fresh and new if you wanna talk more my email address is stephanie_sweet_n_innocent@yahoo.com I really hopethings get better for you soon

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Yes. If you can't deal with them then get a transfer.

If the counselor cannot do anything WRT your foster parent's parenting style, then have her start looking for new placement, but privately set the requirement that it be in the same location. That will accomplish putting your foster parents "on notice" that they're screwing up. To some degree, the counselor will need to be in on this, that is, that they don't reveal to your foster parents that you've set conditions that might not be attainable.

If that doesn't work, or if you think there's a chance that you can improve the parenting style where you are, then get some books on parenting teenagers, read them, and try to teach those better methods to your parents. Just be sure and stay away from any material like the church-sponsored "hellfire and brimstone" books that rely chiefly on punishment as a teaching tool.

Lastly, don't let them get away with saying you have autism -- tell them that it embarrasses you and is hurtful to you. If they continue to do that, be sure and contact the person afterwards (or even immediately when you hear it) and explain that you do not have autism, and offer whatever reason you think explains why your parents would say that. You may need to embarrass them into stopping that kind of unfair and even untrue revelations about you.


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