Should I tell my boyfriend I cut? When?!

You should tell him when you are comfortable telling him and when your ready for all the If, what, and why questions If something like self harm is enough to chase him away then you have to question how much he cared in the first place. I'm not saying he doesn't care because chances are he would likely want to help you Also it is a good thing you think he could help you stop self injuring but never quit for someone else do it for YOU because if something happens and you two break up you will go straight back to it where as if you have quit for yourself you are more likely to quit for good.

Hope all goes well. Good luck and stay safe. xo

I wouldn't offer this information freely unless he asks you about it. If you offer it too freely, you might seem as if you're seeking attention or sympathy.
I'm not going to preach to you to stop or you need to talk to someone. You're a big girl and you know right from wrong.

I think you should just tell him, but make sure to tell him face to face. There isn't really a good way to bring up the subject, so I think just say it, I'm sure after you tell him you'll feel really relieved you did. :) good luck

You should stop cutting and I want to tell you to tell him but I can't help but think what if he doesn't understand and he hurts you more? So i guess if you trust your boyfriend and love him enough to tell him then you should

i'm not ashamed about being a cutter. it's my way of expressing inner pain. my gf knows and accepts it. if u want to stop... then stop. if u like cutting... then tell him... and if he doesn't accept that part of u... well ... it's up to u then.

I would tell him. I used to cut and my boyfriend knows I used to. He helped me not start again:). Just casually mention it to him and see how he reacts to it. Hope it goes good:).

Yes. You told us you cut; that was easy! Your boyfriend cares about you. Please tell him.

Stop cutting yourself please.

you should tell him... be honest... .. I think you should brake up .... its to much to handle @ your age.
he loves you ... he is going to feel responsible for what happens to you in the future... he is going to try and save you from yourself and you are going to let him because you love him ... he means 2 much for you right now beacuse of the self-confidence issues that you have. You have to take a time to figure out what you want in life ... you have to take a time alone to figure how can you be 100% happy and complete .... after that you can go and try to be with someone.

Dont make some one responsible for what you feel ... be a good lover and let him go until you get well enough to come back ... cutting yourself is a huge deal.

Tell him about, let him go, talk to a pro ... resolve it and when you do .. if you do ask him to be 2gether again ... if he agrees ... he was meant for you ... if he does not ... it was not meant to be.

=> Go rent "What Dreams may come" see it and analyze the movie with a different ending.
sometimes to really really LOVE ... we need to let go .

hope it helps.

Life

if you tell him he might cry and he will get very sad. I am a self harmer. Im cleaning up my act i only did it twice in the past month and a half. I use to do it multiple times a day. I have no desire any more. I use to get hospitalized alot and anyone who doesnt cut thinks "we" cut for attention and to me it was so embarassing that they thought that. anyways... if you like him alot... and... if u plan on him seeing them... i would definately tell him before the "moment" becuase of my "moment" with a guy he told me he couldnt do it and that ended up hurting my feeling alot and maybe i hurt his for not telling him...

I sincerely recommend you keep this between you and your therapist (or whoever else is your trusted friend/adult). Trust me, no matter how in love you think you are (or actually are, even), boyfriends use that information against you after a break-up. I know you think you'll never break up, yeah yeah yeah, but seriously, I'm just trying to save you from the practically inevitable here: He will blab if you ever fight or split. I've seen it happen many times before. And don't think you can just make him promise not to do that in the future -- any promise he makes now will obviously go out the window during a break-up or fight.

You really should just keep this between you and your family (or again, whoever else is your spotter). It's an extremely personal thing, and six months really isn't that long at all to know someone. It's just really sketchy to have your boyfriend be your spotter for recovery, because of the whole break-up thing. Whenever you want help and healing, go to your trusted friend/adult or this website:

http://www.palace.net/~llama/psych/injur…