Addiction To Pornography?!


Question: Addiction To Pornography?
A while ago i started watching porn and i was i think 11 or 12 y old and i watched porn on porn sites like redtube and porn hub and i masturbate a lot, like twice a day, then my need for porn got stronger i started watching rape, then looking at jailbate sites of hot girls then masturbating to some of the hot girls pics from my school but then whenever i masturbated i would feel guilty after and sick and then my urge would come back ive tried so many things to stop and i would for like a month then it would come rushing back stronger, then i started looking at underage models and i feel so sick and guilty i just wanna kill myself, im so scared, so scared for myself. i dont want this and i think my final and best bet to do now is to ask my mom if i could see a therapist but im shy and embaressed to ask, im rlly scared, please help me, please

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There are several things you can do to solve this kind of problem.

First, get a life. I know that sounds mean, but the fact is that you are spending the time to watch porn when you could be doing many other things including: Reading, running, biking, cooking, cleaning, washing your car, spending time with friends, sleeping, and so on. Exercise will be best but if you like to develop your mind through creativity, build a model car (or several).

Second, know that you have an addiction and seek help. You need to know what triggers the desire to watch porn and learn to turn off that trigger when it happens. Start by talking with a counselor or other professional who is trained to help people with addictions.

Third, Make new friends. If you spend all your time with friends, then you won't be alone and bored.

Finally, Porn comes in many degrees of bizarreness. If you are watching dangerous porn or abnormal stuff that is not social acceptable interactions (bondage, pain, animals, golden games) then go back to the second option quickly. You can't have healthy relationships with others if you can't be acceptable with others.



This topic is rarely taken seriously on YA, but I will offer advice. Throwing away your computer will not stop this behavior. You will likely battle this issue for the rest of your life. I advise you become more social, deny yourself of masturbation. Literally it is sexual abuse that you do to yourself. Many may laugh at that statement but it is truth.

Have you considered building your character by getting involved at church?

Yes Alisa Lagrange it is sexual abuse that you do to yourself. Reread what the post describes. This is not casual stress relief, this is tied to porn and makes him feel sick about the masturbation. Does casual masturbation need be paired with kiddie porn? Absolutely not and that is why this is sexual abuse that you do to yourself. My statement is relevant to the post and it is truth. It is not meant to bring forth feelings of guilt and shame. It is meant to be thought provoking.



It's okay we've all had problems. You need to build up the courage and ask your mom about the therapist. She will ask you why, but explain to her that it's something that is personal and you would like some help. Explain to her that you will tell her at some point, but you aren't ready and think it's best if you talk to the therapist for guidance. Relax this isn't a problem worth killing yourself for.

Best wishes!



WOAH.lol

well i think you shud get rid of yer computer for a little while.imean yer aguy rite? its okay to watch once a whilee (ew) hhaa , but dont overdo it. think about it as an improvment with your life.
you need to be STRONG and overcome it ,its not hard.its not easy either.just think to yerself that yer BETTER than that and you can b stronger than that and you have no weaknessess. keep yer mind BUSY 24/7 ! XD, dont feel disgusted...except the watching rape part,dont watch that ever agian D:



The spelling and grammar is far worst than what it describes.



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Thats wonderful that u except the fact u have a uncontrolable problem and a therapist is the first step. Obviously u r addicted to sex weather u look for prostitutes, masturbation, sleep around with anyone or porn u r a sex addict. Good for u that u have acknowledged it, thats the beginning of healing. My husband was addicted to sex and he said he figured out the secret of healing and it was his thought life. Once he figured that out he fought every time a dirty thought came into his mind. Weather it was thinking of football instead or something to get his mind off of it. He had therepy for two yrs and he never again went into his sexual addiction. So dont give up there might be a long road ahead but u can b able to control it.



Addiction to porn is controllable but first you need to understand that masturbation is perfectly normal and even healthy. IT IS NOT SEXUAL ABUSE THAT YOU DO TO YOURSELF!!! It reduces depression and blood pressure and is also thought to prevent prostate cancer and heart disease. Many men and adolescents masturbate once or twice a day, and even up to four times a day! If you are horny, then most likely you are having surges of hormones that are making you feel that way!

Unfortunately watching pornography has some similarities to doing drugs or participating in any other sort of addictive practice. At first you get a rush, but then the rush wears off, and in order to get the same rush, you have to take a bigger dose or watch harder porn. Many people get stuck in this trap and end up watching things in the heat of the moment that they find 'wrong' afterwards. If you are feeling guilty and sick, you are obviously not really enjoying what you are watching, so you are not actually wrong or perverted. You just need someone to help you control your impulses when you first get aroused.

If you want to see a therapist, just tell your mum that you need to talk to someone about a guy thing. Also tell her that you hope the therapist will help you find the words to tell her what's wrong, but that you can't do it on your own.



First off, congrats to you admitting your addiction. That's always the first step. Most "men" these days don't man up and admit that they still masturbate like a boy going through puberty. Most "men" these days would actually go to far, and selfish lengths to get their own way. Trampling over people's cultures (example: treating goth, emo, metal, etc as fetishes and sexualizing their culture), and manipulating girls (it doesn't have to be rape; There's a lot of sexual peer pressure for girls, coming from men and their fellow females).

I think that's an important second step; Realise what saddos you get out there, and realise that their problem isn't "Natural sexuality", it's porn addiction and the attitudes that it gives them. Realise how selfish, and even how evil they are, and imagine you were a girl, or even a frustrated member of the culture that they have a fetish for, realising that all your female friends are being manipulated for sex, and realising that your favourite club is no longer for dancing and socializing; It's for dirty pervs to pick up innocent girls.
It should make you angry, even hateful towards them. That's good; You do not want to be one of them. If you do become one, you should reconsider suicide. Let that motivate you to stay away.

Now I don't think you're one of them. They hide their addiction by claiming it's natural (or "itz only bit of fun lol"); It's not. It's nature taken to the extreme. **** three times a day? That is not natural. Once a day? Slightly out of line. Once a week? That's within reason.
You on the other hand have the decency to feel guilt for it; These pervs feel little-to-no guilt. They're selfish, as I said. You're not; You care about other people. That's good. Infact, that's an admirable trait.

Now remember that in this society, porn addiction is mainstream. It's not normal, or natural; Far from it. But it IS mainstream, meaning you've done nothing wrong to become addicted. It's practically shoved in our faces. Which 11 year old boy doesn't know what porn is these days? And the fact that we're told not to view it makes it even worse; It's easy to come by, we've already saw it; Being told not to view it only makes it more exciting when we do get to see it. We all know what it's like when your parents go to bed, you get up 2 hours later and look up "boobies" on Google.

Censorship just doesn't cut it. The problem needs to be struck at the source. But that requires someone beyond the restraints of the law, since these pervs get legal protection. Forget about that for now. Set yourself some milestones. The first, and easiest promise to keep, which you probably already have is; Do NOT buy porn. Don't put money into the industry. These people make money out of your addiction; Like drug dealers with junkies. If you buy a porno, you're paying some sleazy perv, so that he can keep pulling innocent girls off the street, polluting cultures, etc. And you're also paying for some dumb sl*t to make a living out of bending over. Don't give them your money; Reserve it for more worthy things, most importantly; your own enjoyment of life.

Look at the Playboy Mansion. Wanna know why they have a mansion with a big pool and all that? Because they victimize innocent people like yourself, and eventually their victims go on to pay them.

Porn is just legal prostitution.

Remember the evils of it (and I'm not talking religiously), remember how it damages you, remember how these people give no sh*t about you or any of their victims; And remember how their next victim could be one of your friends. Or everyone you identify with as part of your culture.

If you can't get rid of the addiction, at least don't pay for it. Masturbating twice a day isn't that bad as long as you're immune to the ideas it puts in your head. Which you obviously are, to some extent, because you feel shame for it. Be glad you're not one of the pervs. And congratulate yourself. The day that you manipulate or rape a girl, or view any culture as a fetish, THAT is the day you should feel real shame.

It'll come gradually. One thing I find that helps is if you occupy yourself. With any hobby. Gaming, going out with friends, watching movies, playing or listening to music, art, engineering, whatever you like doing other than masturbating. I'm sure there's more to your life. These things distract you from porn; And will help free you from it.

Good luck. If you still need help or anything, you can send me a message or something.
Infact, if you want to fight for our cause, you can also message me about that.

Oh as a little side note; Watch yourself with these "Stop Watching Porn" things; Most of them are either scams, or religious recruitment thingies; So take what they say with a pinch of salt.

I was on the road myself, but before I hit that downhill point, I pulled myself back up.



Porn can become and addiction, and with addictions one escalates to get the same effect. You are escalating into more extreme genre, because your brain has changed. Just like a drug addicts. Quitting is tough, and you will have cravings, along with good days and bad days.

But you will need to change your life in order to stop. As others said, you need a life. You will need to replace porn with other activities, and with as much social interaction as possible. This is so important. Human contact is the key.

Using a porn-blocker will help, if you are truly serious.
A lot of people use K-9: http://www1.k9webprotection.com/

Also, find some forums where you can share your story and get advice. Google "porn recovery forums".

Here's an excellent presentation, by a science teacher, on the effects of pornography on the brain. They are non-religious, non-judgmental, and science based. You will find lots of recovery tips, Q & A's, and a link to a forum. This is a totally non-commercial site.

Your Brain on Porn - Porn Addiction:
http://yourbrainonporn.com/your-brain-on-porn-series

Even though porn is your addiction, masturbation does not cure heart disease or prevent depression, or any of the other benefits listed on those cookie-cutter articles on the benefits of sex. If orgasm was such a health benefit then guys sitting around jerking off 4 times a day would be the healthiest (emotionally) people on the planet.

Most of the positive CORRELATION between sex and health can be explained by:
1) Healthy people have more sex. The question is - which came first the physical and emotional health, or the sex.
2) It's not the sex that is health producing, it's that people who have more frequent sex are in close bonded relationships. That is the key to health, not how often you ejaculate.

Think logically - We all know the stories about a couple married 50-60 years, when one of them dies, the widowed mate dies soon thereafter. Do you think the widower died because he suddenly wasn't getting any action?

www.yourbrainonporn.com




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