I think I'm a depressed teen. Can anybody help me?!
Question: I think I'm a depressed teen. Can anybody help me?
The lady she sent me to didn't help me. In fact, she made me feel worse. Whenever I told her that I feel like my family hates me, she said I should be home as little as possible. I don't want to hate being home. I don't want to feel like I'm hated. I don't WANT to feel like that! I want to feel happy more than I feel sad.
My family is really strict. I guess you can say my depression started there. I can barely hang out with friends, I get blamed for my brother hitting me because he felt like it. He doesn't "hit" me but he does what all little brothers do. OK, I understand that but why should I get blamed for it?
Frankly, I just want somebody to talk to. My sister rants all the time to me. Makes me sit there and listen to her cry. She thinks just because she is 9 years older, I don't have serious problems. So I'm 14. So what? I've always been jealous of those people who have at least one person in their family who they can sit there and cry to for hours. I can't even do that for minutes.
PLEASE don't tell me to talk to my parents or sister or a therapist. I don't want anybody to know. My mom thinks people become depressed because they are idiots who can't appreciate being alive. So I know I can't talk to her. My dad, woah there! Never will I talk to him because he is 20 times worse than my mom.
I feel alone in my life. My friends, yeah if you've been a 14 year old girl, you know you can barely even have one REAL friend! And I have her but like I said, I see her for a few minutes in the hall.
Again, PLEASE do not tell me something that involves a therapist or parent or teacher or etc. If there is a therapist who can talk to me over the computer whenever, I'd be forever grateful! I really need somebody who can help me because my gardes are begining to follow that dark cloud. Classes I use to be amazing at are now get C's which by the way, I'm an accelerated student who can't get those grades or else bye-bye Harvard. Which is the only school my parents will allow me to go to!
HELP!!!
Answers:
hey, i do know how you feel...
when i think were my depression started, i think it was at home, with similar probs to yours.
my family would be fighting, and i would be there in the middle, i have two brothers, and in the past were my mam would have went threw different boyfriends and that, and her been a big drinker also, anytime i wished to talk to her, she was drunk. i didnt want to talk to her when she was drunk, i always went to my room cryed for ages and written down how i felt.
i always felt that i was the outsider of my family, that my mam only cared about my two brothers...
i dont no why.. i know i was the quiet /only girl in my family, but a lot of attattion went to my younger brother as because the youngest in the house is usually the spoilt one, my older brother, he was happy as he had everything handed to him in life, he never had to worry about paying for college, cars or anything. i never seen him down hardly, and hes always getting As in his exam results!!
as for me, i feel im not loved at all at home, since i managed to get money to move away to college, things have tottally changed, i can feel that the people care for me and they enjoy my time me been with them. i feel wanted up ere in college, but not at home.
when you are depressed, its best to avoid helping others with problems if there upset or that, i no, it may sound bad, but this can trigger off depression and make you feel really down.
if you can find things that make you happy, go for it!! and i no the way the therapist made ya feel bad, i went to one and felt the same way...
its all about thinking positive... if something got you down, try think bk what triggered it, and try to overcome it, thinking positive takes time to do if your really depressed and are always negitively thinking.
awww this breaks my heart.
i'm a 14 year old girl too.
life gets really tough but unlike you i have my family to support me and i was never in this kind of situation..
i know somebody who was depressed and the doctors found cuts on her and sent her to a therapist. u should tell ur parents u feel sick (as in a stomach bug) or tell them u having period problems so they'll take u to the doctor then tell ur doctor that ur not happy with the life you're living. consider transfering schools to start a new begining. u seem like ur depressed because of the life ur living. think about what in ur life u really despise most then figure out how to change that.
and i completly understand what ur saying about Islam and suicide i'm not Muslim but i know a lot about the religion. hang in there, things will get better. when u graduate high school you'll be free so keep ur grades up! that way u can go farther away from ur family and u will feel better. best of luck
~Alayiah