Depressed or Broken hearted?!

Question: Depressed or Broken hearted?

Right a fair few months ago I had a very short lived intense relationship, I fell madly in what I think was love. Only to be messed around, used and have my heart broken. I'm a gay teenager, so my head was already all over the place, this was my first gay experience. At first, I was distraught and I really was heart broken, it hurts to even see his face at college. He messed me around, and made me feel bad for falling for him. Sometime's I wake up in the night because of dreams about him, and I'm crying or close too it. I see him and my heart still sinks, and what makes it worse is that he ignore's me now. I go on random downers, and find it hard too pick myself up again. Then the next moment I am ecstatically happy. I don't know what too do, should I visit my GP? Depression runs in my family.

Answers:

Well, you just described how it feels to be broken hearted. It hurts real bad. Gay or not, heart break is a downer. Whenever I've felt this way, I had my girlfriends and family to talk to. Losing love is like any loss in life, you have to grieve, understand your feelings, and finally move forward. Perhaps because you are still adjusting to the fact that you are gay makes you feel more alone in life right now.

Falling in love, sex, all those intense emotions cause "happy chemicals" to be released by the brain. It is like magic and when it's yanked away, it's really distressing. This is one of those really hard life lessons: not everyone feels the same way about you as you do about that other person. When in this state of emotion, we often don't see the other person for who they really are.

Since you have been distressed for several months, I think it would be helpful for you to talk to someone about your feelings. It could be a trusted adult or a counselor. Heart break is part of life and it can happen at any age, even old age. Being gay is probably isolating you from sharing your feelings, which are shared by most of us.

I am not gay, but when I read your question, I related to it. I have felt all those ways myself. I am just a random person, but you will find if you can open up to your friends or to someone, that you will get support and understanding. That's what all of us need. You will get through this.

One piece of advice, since I can see you are a sensitive person: get to know someone before you get sexually involved. When in a relationship, share who you are and what kind of a relationship you are looking for. That way, you won't be messed with. You are responsible for how you allow others to treat you. Listen to what others tell you about themselves, that's important. When you jump right in, you really don't know that person. Love, sex, intimacy are serious business.

i think its prob broken hearted but the emotions are so intense that you are feeling now

it really hurts when we break up with ppl particularly our first love

it will become easier to deal with as time goes on but if you have any concerns about your mental health then don't hesitate to see your dr

beat wishes

Broken heart

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