HELP!I can't get over my past?!
Question: HELP!I can't get over my past?
My step dad had a very bad cocaine problem.He was a professional Computer engineer,but forced my mom to work two jobs and stole every quarter she got!My mom died of Cervical Cancer when me and my twin were almost 13.
My step dad and my lil brothers and sister didn't even go to her funeral!When my mom wanted to see my lil sister and brothers.He gave her a huge dose of morphine and told her to just die already,because she was a sh*tty mother and he already had a mistress,who could be a real mom to HIS kids!
After the funeral.My oldest brother(16) and third brother(15) were kicked out of the house.They went to live with family friends.My oldest brother's twin and fourth brother began taking care of our lil siblings like they were the daddy.While our step dad was on a month long coke binge.
He locked up our mom's bedroom,so we can't get any of her stuff.I really wanted the wedding band my father gave her,but he gave both wedding bands to my lil sister.The one he gave mom and the one our father gave mom.
Up until I moved out my step dad called my half breeds,who*es,sluts,Ni**ers,wet b*ac,and ba*******!He thought only his kids were beautiful,because they looked white.
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C'mon, surely you can acknowledge and know that all 'white' people don't act or think like this *******.
So, i hope in your healing you can move beyond this whole ignorant and abusive 'race' card.
Of course, anyone reading this, would say you and your siblings have been abused, and you don't have to tolerate this at all.
How do you know that he morphined your mom to death, quicker? Who was in charge of the morphine. That is a highly controlled substance, and they wouldn't just let someone like your dad administer it. If he did , then you can report this as a crime, and perhaps some form of murder, even though she was dying. She was at her most vulnerable state, and he abused her. That in and of itself is a felony.
The rest are felonies, also, so if there is any way you can get all this recorded, in some way, at least you will have proof of what you say, then you can get an attorney.
You can sue him for her things, his behavior and abuse , and damages. bestlawyers.com
But PLEASE don't pull the race card, because that just means this freak of nature, has won and made you think like he does, which is no compliment.
There is help for you, you have to find it. You can call the helping agencies in your area, if you have to, but find the help available for all of you.
Pull yourselves up out of this freaking mess, and create a good life for yourselves.
You don't have to turn out like him.
You are gong to have to do some real soul searching to remove the harmful messages he gave you, but luckily there IS a tool for that and you can all heal. It doesn't have to take forever and here is a free self help method eftuniverse.com click on 'get started free' and therapists eftmastersworldwide.com There is a free conference coming up feb 23, online , so that will expain a lot also, but there are many benefits this method offers, including removal of the abuse, feelings and thoughts holding one back, past abuse, and it reenforces the postive, as well as it takes a fraction of the time and does far more than traditional therapies.
You all remaining, find your support and love in llife, bring as much positive into your life as possible, and get this creep out of your lives , once and for all.
startstrongteens.org giverespect.org loveisnotabuse.com girlsinc.org doublesunrise.com or start your own.
But dont' let him win. YOu know you all deserve to be treated with love and respect.
Someone is going to have to step up and become the hero, in the best sense of this. I am sure if you just have some group heart to hearts, and get going building on your lives, this will be an end to that creep, who could be any color.
I hope it is ,and you find what you need.
Get going. You don't have time to stay stuck at this level.
EDIT: I read it right. 'forced to call this white guy dad', 'my half breeds', etc. Those were not my words, but someone who has lived with an abusive racist, and absorbed some of it, and fights this way.
I did not bring up the 'race' card. I said , move beyond it. Of course you are a survivor. No need for others to just then repeat how to heal or the suggestions I gave.
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Your step dad was horrible, obviously.
You can heal.
I don't agree with
onlookers interpretation .
You are a survivor and others know that.
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Obviously, you're stepfather is a very sick man, and I certainly think you should go right to a lawyer if at all possible to make sure your rights are protected. By doing that, you will start to feel like you're getting some control back and doing right by your mom, which will make you feel better. You should also see a therapist, who can help you work through all the pain and sad memories, and find healthy ways to cope. By taking of yourself in this way, you give yourself a chance to honor your mother's memory by living the life she would have wanted you to have.
OMG i feel so bad i could see how it was hard to forget your past... just keep thinking of good things and try if ur not shy to speak to ur siblings and maybe ur step dad even if he is in a good mood.... idk how old u r but in ur situation a therapist is best or guidance counselor at skool
hope i helped so sorry good luck!
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