My ex was a benefit thief but his friend thinks I took money from him?!


Question: My ex was a benefit thief but his friend thinks I took money from him?
Ok so this is hard to word but I will give it a go anyway. My ex boyfriend has a good friend who believes everything he says. My mom is now going out with my ex (I was 18 and he was 46 when we first started going out but I dumped him realising that I had been too naive and he asked my mom out). Anyway ever since I dumped him, his friend has been saying that I took lots of money off him when I didn't, although he did give me quite a bit of money, it is making it seem worse than it is. I told him to tell the police as all that money going missing (￡7000) was a bit weird but he flinched and told me to pay some money back (that I hadn't had) or else he was going to get someone to kick down my door and destroy my apartment. My mom totally agrees with this. What do I do.... he did fraud the child benefit system for 6 years so wouldn't they be taking all the money back out of his account? My mind is a mess... he says I am vindictive and manipulative aswell but I know I am not... I never asked for anything but he happily gave me money. What should I do? My mom won't listen... my mom is on their side.

Thanks for the help.

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Personally I would go to the Police. This will ensure the friend is dealt with for the threats and will mean your ex is exposed for being a benefit thief.

It may come up that money was given to you and if it is seen that you were involved with the benefit fraud you may have to pay that back, but if you have acted honestly, all evidence will suggest that so you have nothing to fear.

You may find your relationship with your mother becomes unpleasant, but you truly will be doing the right thing to put an end to this drama.

Too much drama, it's definitely MENTAL issue I can't deal with it right now, have to leave. sorry!

That's seriously messed up if your mum is siding with a man shes been dating and not her own daughter! if he gave you the money willingly and you didn't even ask then hes in the wrong for accusing you of asking for it. but the thing is, if he did something like prosecute you for stealing the money and it's your word against his, your moms and his friend for instance then you might have to give it back. you could report him for being a benefit thief, i don't know how much you dislike him, but i hope you don't mind me asking, you went out with a guy that was 28 years older than you? he could be your dad...

the benefits agency wil conduct an investigation then tell im to pay the money back and/or give him a prison sentence

i cant believe what your mum has done i would not even waste anytime talking to her
go to the police note his threats and what he says to you

he chose to give you money that is not the same as theft
i dont know what else to advise you apart from go to the police nad maybe contact a solicitor

all the best


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