A guy actually likes me but i loathe myself, help please?!
Question: A guy actually likes me but i loathe myself, help please?
There's this guy at work who likes me , he keps putting his arms round me and kissing my cheek and little things like that. I'm 18 , never been kissed and never had a boyfriend. This guy is 5 years older than me and probably done every sexual act with another girl. I don't know what to do ?
Also , I have a lot of self harm scars down my thigh , top left arm and I also have the word fat scarred on my hip. how do I hide these from him? Should I show them to him? I'm so confused.
I also have bulimia and depression , nobody I know knows about this. Its my secret , my parents don't even know because they don't take notice of me. Should I tell him about this or should I keep it my secret?
Also , will my self hatred stop me from trusting him or opening up to him?
Sorry there are a lot of mixed questions in here and It isn't really clear but could someone please help me.
Answers:
First you should know that you are not alone in this. Many other girls suffer from similar problems if not worse.
About that guy. I think you should go for it because being loved can definitely help you love and accept yourself again. But I say take it slow to make sure you are comfortable and not being pushed into anything.
Start by going out on a casual date. You can even suggest it next time you bump into him. That way you get to pick a place yourself somewhere where you will feel at ease.
You should tell him about your problems only when you feel safe and comfortable around him and that will be when you will have reached some kind of bond.
You shouldn't worry now about your scars. When the time comes you will show him
If you are also attracted to him I say give yourself a chance at love :)
Yo pic is hot. The guy thinks you are hot. Quit hurting yourself and open up to him and get help from him. Just hope he doesn't want you just for the sex. But judging by your picture again I bet he is. Or he just likes the young wimmins.
i know how you feel. but if you say all that about no friends, etc. as long as he just doesnt wanna **** you, go for it. it can help. feel free to email
myself,
you don't really need answers, you need help
wanna talk about it? IM a good listener
A previous answer follows, modified for you; use what helps:Read: Learning to Love Yourself Workbook by Gay Hendricks, & Loving Yourself: Four Steps to a Happier You by Daphne Rose Kingma, & Learning to Love Yourself: Finding Your Self-Worth by Sharon Wegscheider-Cruse, from your bookstore, or amazon.com
View the post about self esteem at http://your-mental-health.8m.com/blank_2… Self harm/cutting; see pages 1, &A. Depression; pages 3, & B. Bulimia; page N.
View http://www.wikihow.com/Come-to-Terms-wit… & http://www.wikihow.com/Accept-Being-Unat… & www.wikihow.com SURVIVING HIGH SCHOOL & http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss?u…
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